DS/DD off to Uni? - Empty nest support thread

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DS is off to Warwick in October - anyone else feeling old? Or are there any old hands with advice ?

JGB
Same here lots of helpful emails but the promised welcome pack hadn't arrived yet. But I guess they've been sorting out clearing since last Thurs so DD will check.
Have you heard about accomodation yet?

Bit worried about the deposit for that...no funds till she gets her grant although she is working her butt off to get some reserves in.

No admissions news. I think they said we don't hear till mid September. That ties in with old threads on TSR when students where students talked about getting offers round the 15th.

In contrast my friends DS had the accom offer before the A2 results! Different uni though.

What's your dd studying?

Very strange year for me - dd1 off to Exeter (I'll look out for you hoochy ) and dd5 starts school . At least I've got 8 years before the dts will be thinking about going!

she all registered, filled all in, tenancy agreement signed, 250 deposit paid, off to Asda shortly for first shop of essential stuff etc...very real! she far more interested that she found 6 new people on fb and TSR going to same accom, so bought 3 fresher events tickets so far... priorities huh??!!

DD3 had her accomadation offer before she got her results. The £200 deposit has already been paid. She knows which halls but is still waiting for the actual block she'll be in. She has already found students on the Facebook group who are doing the same course as her and has been chatting to them and She''s also found students who will be in the same halls. Help my baby is growing up

same here mummeee, though dd got her last choice of accom, catered which she didn't choose and no ensuite :( but am sure she will cope!!

DD3 got her first choice but I think there are only 2 large blocks of halls at Bolton and there weren't any ensuite. DD3's halls have a large common room with a pool table and a TV in as well as some table and cosy chairs.

just did big shop for god knows what!

DD3 has just had her first wobble. She has learning difficulties so going to uni is a big step for her. She''s being doing well making phone calls. I reminded her she needed to phone her college about something and she went into
a complete meltdown. She had been packing and sorting out alI the documents so I think it just hit. her. that she would be on her own soon. She's very family oriented. I"ve left for work now and she has calmed down says she''s going to make some phone calls alter. Oh well we might have a. few stressful weeks ahead of us

oh mumeee, that will be me in 6 years with ds, big hugs :)

LGB Classic Civilisation. What's your doing?

Shall we carry a pack of pom bears on arrival to see if we spot any other MN mums?!

or dress up in this???

Yay!! Though DS might disown me

DS doing engineering.

Shall I promise to carry Pom bears and some naice ham with me?

Thanks MABS I don't think I handled it very well as I got crosswith her, We are under a bit of stress at the moment as my parents aren't well, Anyway we made up before I went to work so all is well for now, I think I'll be more prepared next time,

I have an MN charity shop version scarf, I might wear that bit more subtle than the bear outfit ( & not as hot if this weather continues!)

I have visions of all these Mums wandering around various campus' grinning like loons at total strangers who happen to be carrying crisps & having random convo's while the DC's hiss at them

"Mum....MUM ...this way ...what are you doing???? Do you KNOW her??
God you're soooo embarrassing"

made me laugh mis marple, sure you did fine mummeee.

Wow, this thread was started in 2006. since then I have been on it before DD went off to Uni - and now she's graduated and the next one is off. Main difference is this time I know you get used to it. Very quickly.

I know teenage great isn't it?

I'm hoping if we start another after this one is full it might last another few years to get me through DD2 going off as well!!

Oh lordy just found this, while on the "lines that make you weep "thread.

Didn't post it as thought it a tad insensitive for those who who won't be seeing their PFB's off .... For those of us sending our PFB's off to Uni soon.....

?May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness.
I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you're wonderful, and don't forget to make some art -- write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.?

Neil Gaiman

On his last day at school ds1's form teacher photocopied "Oh the places you'll go"
for each of her students and folded it into a little good luck card.

It's my favourite ever, and is not good if you're feeling emotional.

I have just found this lovely thread. My youngest DC (of four) is just about to go off to uni and I am crying already. I don't know where the years have gone!

Good link JGBMum - resonated with me as in the last 2 years DS has lived in Spain(old home), England(new home), Wales (uni), Germany(summer internship) and shortly to France for his year abroad. He's had a couple of nasty hiccups along the way but has dealt with them in his stride.

Reading the poem made me consider what a brave, clever, independent & grown up young man he has become. Not boasting, just proud.

Good luck to all those flying from the nest this year and to those watching them go.

Oh dear, having my first downer today. Ds is away on holiday this week and I'm missing him a bit and keep reminding myself that this is what it's going to be like all the time soon. I will still have dd at home for another three years so it certainly won't be an empty nest. Selfish aren't I?

PFB is off to Uni , we will take him on 15th september .

It's a long way from home , we live in the middle of nowhere in west Wales , and he is off to Greenwich ! ( which he thought was pronounced Green wick ... He's got a lot to learn ! )

At the moment he's a total pain in the arse , leaving mess everywhere and being very unhelpful about everything .

I'm sure I'll miss him when he's gone .

Still have DD at home , just starting 6th form .

ISS Not selfish at all- all sorts of emotions will be surfacing now.

I don't think it's unreasonable to say we're all very proud of our chicks (and boast away fussychica I think it's allowed ) and how hard they've worked to get to this point.

But at the same time we can't help feeling a bit that it's the end of an era, and we're waving them off after years of supporting/caring for/nagging them.

I think we should all allow ourselves to be proud of how well they've turned out despite because of our fabulous parenting!!

greyvix that must be the hardest in some ways, your last one flying the nest, but think of the freedom!

for those that do them.

I seem to have something in my eye. Again