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Nursery isn't pushing my son enough

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poco2015 · 15/11/2015 16:53

I am not sure what to do. My son is in full time nursery, he is 2 and a bit. He has begun blending and is reading cvc words and sounding out to help him. He is fantastic at numbers can count to 20 (and beyond when he feels like it) can understand the concept of taking away and adding (with objects). We have been doing doubling and halving at home which he can do but sometimes doubles when you say halve and halves when you say double, but we have been doing this for only a week so he is still bound to make mistakes. At the moment when the preschoolers do phonics and maths time DS goes in with them, I keep asking for them to help him with his fine motor but they say they are, but we are not seeing much improvement and what they are doing seems to be very basic. wwyd as i don't want to come across as too much of a controlling mum. I already pushed to get him into the preschoolers room for the phonics and maths

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Spurtle · 15/11/2015 17:04

Your son needs to play, to learn what his body can do; to take risks and learn to do so safely; to learn to make friendS; to be a friend; to run, jump and climb; to explore the world around him; take turns and share; expand his vocabulary.
He does NOT need to start formal learning. What do you think he will gain? Just let him be, let him enjoy being a wee boy. If he's interested in number and reading, then by all means support this, but don't push it and manufacture it.

starlight2007 · 15/11/2015 17:05

There is some very important skills 2 year olds need to learn and none of them really involve reading.. A love of books is great.. However the main thing they are learning is how the world works , how they can change it and how to interact with other people. He needs to develop muscles for writting so play doh, drawing, running climbing for core skills....Those are the kind of things nursery need to be doing with him

caravanista13 · 15/11/2015 17:06

This is so sad. Development is so much more than academic learning and, clever as he is, he also needs to know that you value all the other things he should be learning to enjoy.

PurpleDaisies · 15/11/2015 17:07

Take heart from the response to the op caravan. Literally everybody thinks the little boy should be allowed to be er, a little boy.

Sirzy · 15/11/2015 17:07

I have to agree with other posters.

Stop pushing and let him enjoy being two and discovering the world around him,

MrsGradyOldLady · 15/11/2015 17:09

What a load of bollocks Hmm

SisterMoonshine · 15/11/2015 17:10

You don't need to worry about how much the nursery are pushing him - you're pushing him more than enough yourself.
Think of nursery as where he's learning his social, joining in and independence skills.

SweetnessNshite · 15/11/2015 17:10

Bless his heart. Seriously op....he.... Is... Two!!

Floggingmolly · 15/11/2015 17:11

No reputable nursery will have a "gifted and talented" program for two year old's. They will have one at school, of course; but you may have to prepare yourself for the fact that he may not be on it...
Sounds like he's been hot housed to within an inch of his life, poor little bugger.

SettlinginNicely · 15/11/2015 17:12

It's not important if he learns to read now. Take this time for social/emotional skills/lessons which are the foundation of a successful life.

Supermanspants · 15/11/2015 17:17

Oh FFS Hmm Poor kid.

RabbitSaysWoof · 15/11/2015 17:18

Don't often feel pity for people's children, we are all doing our best and I know children are very resilient, but actually that op makes me feel a bit sorry for your boy.
Sorry op but I'm surprised the nn's haven't spelled out the importance of just letting him be for a few hours and letting he's own interests and friendships evolve.

PerspicaciaTick · 15/11/2015 17:19

Pull the other one - it's got bells on.

MrsCrimshaw · 15/11/2015 17:21

If you really want your child to get ahead, read Carol Dweck about fixed vs growth mindset mindsetonline.com/whatisit/about/ your little one is far better off following his own curiosity about the world around him.

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Dawndonnaagain · 15/11/2015 17:24

Poor wee mite! Leave him alone, let him have some fun.

WeAllHaveWings · 15/11/2015 17:24

I would be very concerned by this nursery that they are doing the very best for your son by telling you to back off. Poor child.

HSMMaCM · 15/11/2015 17:24

Nursery will also be working on his social skills. Fine motor skills can be enhanced by playing with dough and mud and sticking activities. These will all help with his writing later on. It's unclear what you think they are missing. Is he singing, laitening to stories, climbing, creating random art, etc? If so, then they're doing a great job.

WeAllHaveWings · 15/11/2015 17:24

are not doing

Greengardenpixie · 15/11/2015 17:25

HmmHmmHmm

Let him be a child ffs!

Greengardenpixie · 15/11/2015 17:26

..and actually what you are likely to do is turn him off education!

MrsGradyOldLady · 15/11/2015 17:27

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LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 15/11/2015 17:28

I bet they love you in the staff room. Hmm

Fairenuff · 15/11/2015 17:29

There is so much more to life than numbers and letters. By trying to focus so much on this, you are actually holding him back OP.

NerrSnerr · 15/11/2015 17:30

How about letting him play?

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