Nursery report not adding up with what we thought. HELP PLEASE!

[MamaTurtle]

Hi!

I am new to this site - I found it when googling and thought you might be able to give me some advice. Apologies if I'm doing something wrong.

My daughter, who is 3years 8months, goes to nursery, and has just received her 'end of year' report which outlines how the children are doing.

It says that she's a pleasure to have in the nursery etc., but also says that she's performing averagely and 'meeting most of the milestones'.

However, her grandparents, and my friends, are always commenting on how bright she is - we're having her (privately) assessed for being Gifted, as we think she seems to show signs of this.

Here are some of the things she can do:

• Count to 10
• Get herself dressed
• Constantly asks questions - 'why are we going to town, Mummy?'/'How does the bus driver know where he's going?'
• Knows the alphabet
• Can make a necklace out of beads
• Knows how to make a sandwich, and can repeat the instructions

So, my question is this: Why do the nursery not register that she is highly able, probably moreso than many of her peers?

Should we be looking at moving her to an Independent nursery where they will recognise, and nurture, her abilities?

Can we start her at school early so that she is sufficiently pushed?

Thankyou, in advance, for your time.

oops xpost

Agree your DD sounds average mine is the same age and pre-school say she could start reception a year early but we don't want her to. I have tried not to push her into learning stuff but she defies me by picking up addition and substraction without me even teaching her...

There is so much more to pre-school years than learning any academic stuff. Stretch your child doing other things - gym, music, swimming etc... or else just play and spend time with them.

Finding the right primary school is where I am concentrating my efforts and that isn't just based on the academic stuff.

Each of those things (at level 8) are what could be expected of a child who had just turned five without them necessarily being "gifted".

Very funny MamaTurtle. That was too easy! Of course MY DD's can speak 5 languages fluently and fly helicopters. They are 18 months and 3.

I demand to know if this is a joke.

alternatively if it's a serious post she'll be put off MN for life... oops.

toddlerama - my 3yo can fly helicopters! she holds her toy one up and runs around going neeeeaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

should I be worried she's not got her pilot's license yet?

No, not a joke. What a strange thing to say

I don't think I'll be coming back to this site, although when she has had the official testing, I might let you know the results.

Don't get her tested. She'll be traumatised for life.

I didn't get my son tested, he's very, very bright though but I still find dirty underpants in his roof (barf)

oh dear, sorry everyone doubted you...

it's just there's always people on the G&T board getting slated for suggesting their average child is a genius.

seriously though - what I said about being disappointed if your DD's assessment shows she's normal. you really need to consider that before you get a test.

Can she really only count to 10? Have you thought about having her assessed for dycalculia?

belle dirty underpants in his roof? It must take some pretty good hand-eye co-ordination to aim them up there... must be seriously gifted!

She doesn't sound more able than her peers. At 3.8 years, my ds1 could count to 1000, dress himself, once asked me 140 questions in 45 minutes (yes, yes I DID keep track, he was drivingbme nuts), knew the alphabet and could write it down, say all the letter sounds and had started blending, made a sling shot out of K'Nex by improving the design on the little instruction booklet that comes with it, and was hell bent on cooking dinner - could CERTAINLY make a sandwich. He is not gifted. He's bright - he's not gifted.

She may or may not be gifted. The list of achievements you have typed does not point to giftedness, it points to a well brought up, well stimulated normal little girl.

Mama, seriously she is average. It's a bit silly relying on relatives and well wishers, not nursery for an assessment of your dd.

I'm telling you, his underpants get everywhere
He is seriously gifted, he could read shakespeare at 4 (and understand it which is alot more then I can do at 33).

AIBU to now be a bit worried, rather than sympathetic? I hope the OP's little girl isn't a disappointment. Eeesh.

I am certain you are joking now! Do you not have friends with children the same age as yours that you can compare to?

belle I wasn't doubting that he was gifted, I was just amused at the pants in his roof!

Mamaturtle

Are you seriously going to get her tested?
what happens if she is normal and average?
you sound very insecure about your DD, she sounds perfectly happy and well adjusted,

Pants! He goes to the toilet, strips off and comes down in just his pants! I am in pant hell. I cleaned his room yesterday and found 6 pairs behind his bed (gross)

Not a joke? Oh. Apologies for doubting it, but in that case....

Maybe your DD is normal. Doesn't mean she won't find the cure for cancer. Or maybe she's gifted and she'll be in middle management at Asda. I was gifted, and look at me - my major achievement of the day is that I've cleaned the oven! Whereas one of my 'non-gifted' friends (his mum was still trying to toilet-train him at 5, he didn't speak til he was 4) has made a scientific discovery that got him written up in all the newspapers. The reason we felt the need to say what our DCs can do is because we're proud to busting point of their achievements, but we are also aware that they're just average kids. Wonderful to us, but still average. I'd be very suspicious of any private testing that says she's gifted.

She sounds lovely. And surely that's all that matters?

(Pixie - I was nosy and looked at your Q, and answered it)

wonder if OP'll come back?

can't help being reminded of that gifted children documentary on 4 a few years ago.

oh pleeeease do come back and share the results we are all just dying to know...

You have a pant boys aswell!!

I have answered Pixie.