Nursery report not adding up with what we thought. HELP PLEASE!

[MamaTurtle]

Hi!

I am new to this site - I found it when googling and thought you might be able to give me some advice. Apologies if I'm doing something wrong.

My daughter, who is 3years 8months, goes to nursery, and has just received her 'end of year' report which outlines how the children are doing.

It says that she's a pleasure to have in the nursery etc., but also says that she's performing averagely and 'meeting most of the milestones'.

However, her grandparents, and my friends, are always commenting on how bright she is - we're having her (privately) assessed for being Gifted, as we think she seems to show signs of this.

Here are some of the things she can do:

• Count to 10
• Get herself dressed
• Constantly asks questions - 'why are we going to town, Mummy?'/'How does the bus driver know where he's going?'
• Knows the alphabet
• Can make a necklace out of beads
• Knows how to make a sandwich, and can repeat the instructions

So, my question is this: Why do the nursery not register that she is highly able, probably moreso than many of her peers?

Should we be looking at moving her to an Independent nursery where they will recognise, and nurture, her abilities?

Can we start her at school early so that she is sufficiently pushed?

Thankyou, in advance, for your time.

My ds2 (now aged 7) could count to 10 at that age, get himself dressed, knew the alphabet, knew colours etc- and he is currently 'below average' according to his teacher.

Why is it so important to be 'sufficiently pushed'? Just let her be a little girl-

Also, being "ahead" at 3.5 doesn't mean a great deal in the grand scale of things anyway...

DS1 is neither gifted nor talented. He was the latest of my three DC to learn to write his name (he had just turned 4). He was the latest to learn to read (he was almost 6). He was the latest to learn to pedal a bike (just turned 4). But aged almost 8 as he is now, he is on the highest reading level in his class, is accroding to his teacher one of the best in the class at creative writing, and is very good at sport.

Being "bright" at 3, or 7, or 11 (etc) is no guarantee that they will get good A levels!

Your child is doing what other children should be doing at her age, it's age appropriate. Now, if she could do all of this at 12 months having learnt the alphabet/numbers from a toy bus(apart from dress herself as this takes dexterity), then this would be different.

Honestly, having a G&T child isn't a picnic. It's isolating, exhausting and stressful.

lol

Well my child can recite pi to a thousand places while standing en pointe on the back of an elephant and translating Virgil into Sanskrit.

But he's absolutely average.

School holiday season surely?

Hi MT, your dd sounds lovely.
However, I would not have said any of the things you mention are exceptional but it is great she can do them.
dd was counting to 100 in english & 10 in spanish at that age and could do the rest of the list. Also write her name and a few other words. She is pretty average in nursery I think.
Concentrate on recognising and nurturing her as a person, not just her abilities and she will be fine.

"Concentrate on recognising and nurturing her as a person, not just her abilities and she will be fine."

That is absolutely the most average best sentence on this thread.

arrrgh i fell into the trap!

in my defence, dd2 could do what i listed but was struggling with her speech and behaviour. she is currently in the process of possibly being assessed for ASD again (school are saying its up to me to decide when to start).

dd is two in a week or so and can do all of those things...although she sometimes get's the alphabet mixed up a bit...
i keep being told simaler things to you,and was considering moving her into nursery early, but after posting some q's on the matter realize,that i probably am over reacting to her cleverness!
although, when she does go to nursery,i am seriously considering a montesorri or steiner school whitch allow children to move at their own pace.

((dam you carbonated, i really have to start reading the whole thread BEFORE i post!!))

First time poster who is convinced child is G&T based on grandparents assessment that she's bright and actually lists things that any average child can do at that age???

A regular 'avin a larf surely? And rather beautifully done - I was just about to type my lengthy list of DSs totally average achievements.

If not, then... crikey!

Oh bollox....I fell for it.

Having a child recognised as being "Gifted" is a hoot - DD (6) is top of her class for reading and does mental maths books aimed at juniors for fun, but often forgets to put her knickers on in the morning....

Good thread!

Tis a joke, right? I took it seriously intil second post by OP!

lol lovecheese.

dd2 forgot to put her shoes on the other week and set off in her socks

I was wondering that too and am terribly smug that I didn't fall into the competitive trap.

But if it's not a joke... oh dear.

C'mon OP. If it's a joke, please tell us

My son is 2.5 and can do all the things you list. He is not gifted ( don't think), although he does have a very bright older sister and we are "extending" her by getting her to teach him things .

Have you looked at the descriptors so see what she is being assessed against?

To add to everything everyone else has said, I really do think that your dd is just doing what is considered normal for her age. My dd2 at the same age as yours was doing eberything you have mentioned and more. She was also starting to read words, i.e. blendings sounds she learnt at nursery to make words like 'snap', 'red', 'pat', etc. Now she's just keen and having seen her elder sister do reading with me every day, is itching to copy, hence has picked up all the sounds, etc. every easily. I don't for one minute however believe she is gifted.

Clearly, love her to bits though......

OMG vegasmum you forget to put your knickers on in the morning?!