RIGHT LONG POST WARNING!! (AGAIN)
Trills - New York, very jealous, would love to go, have only been to Boston in US, and that was fab.
Mitts - your paintings are fab, very pleased for you re gallery - do you make enough for a living through your work? (sorry - nosey question there). Hope your day has got better.
Five - just push!! and do this face
Bitter - aaht of my pube - classic
SAF - So, so true re exercising control over the ex - if you ask exh a question about anything he says 'i'll let you know in due course' so if we say 'are you having dd weekend of x' he says 'i'll let you know in due course' which is usually about 2 days before. You're also spot on re my parents - they like to play devils advocate. I need to tell them that that is not what I need right now.
Bof - Love J's idea re DIY SOS, they've done some fab stuff.
Gigi - thank you, that's very kind of you. I lost it earlier a bit. There are no courts involved over access at all. I only know of CAFCASS from on here. DD has always lived with me, exh moved out when she was 1.5 roughly. We've always lived in this house, she's gone to her school since she was 6 months, she sees her grandparents at least once a week, her sister obviously lives with us, she loves dp, he has been in her life for 3.5 years, all her friends are here. She sees her dad once every 5 weeks. I know in reality there is no chance of anyone changing residence its just that when he threatens it I feel physically sick and start worrying about all sorts. Totally silly. I'm just so frightened that if he did go to court what if we got a crazed cafcass person (think i've been reading too many threads on here) who thought pnd was bd or something...
Alice - will respond on your thread, but trust me you are not alone
JuJu - I have been thinking about going through court myself, so that we never need really communicate again. Am still thinking about it, but see weird fears above . We did arrange through solicitors him having access once every fortnight. However, as soon as it was arranged he changed it to once every 4 weeks as he said he couldn't afford petrol. It's actually once every 5 weeks normally. In case you missed this bit, we've been asking him to see her more often as she has been missing him. He said he couldn't afford it because he didn't have a job. We haven't gone through CSA because we believed him. He's actually been working for the last 9 months, WHILE TELLING DD HE COULDN'T AFFORD TO SEE HER MORE OFTEN. Bastard.
And Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!
Total - he's a cock, first time caught non insured driving it went to court because he pled something like especial hardship or something if they took car way? The points would have meant he lost his licence. Because I didn't drive and we had dd he kept his licence, the case and fines etc cost me us about £3k though. I also have a court order against him for half of dd's school fees which he's defaulted on by 9 months. I spoke to law society they said they'd be very interested and to send them a letter, but if he gets certificate withdrawn dd will never get any maintenance.
Sorry to anyone missed and sorry again for monopolising all day. Now let's talk cock
And where the hell is Shiney?