A Quango, a Quango, it made me eat the mango - 10 / 10 thread

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

Afternoon

Apple
Satsuma
Crudites (does anyone call them that anymore?)
Hoummous
Apple juice
About to have curry with cauli, aubergine, pepper & lentils

Back later

Hello veggers!

I have fallen behind, again. Lots going on at 10/10 isn't there. I hope everyone is ok

Tatties, allow me to help you with your fallen behind

lol at TooT

erm, nothing to declare.
a plum?

FK, I too, have had crudites today
But I list them as it looks like more:

Celery
carrots
Cucumber
tomaotes
pear
raisins
more carrots
teeny bit of sweet potato
broccoli
grapes

I am rather knackered today.
And, as it is a full moon, my period came and caught me out, again
I blame you lot

Wombling, when dd was stuggling we invited one of her classmates round after school one day (which was returned) and I also found a gymnastics club that a couple of her classmates attended. I think it really helped, she doesn't go to gymnastics any more (didn't really like it) but has friends in her year now from there too. It's all been on hold whilst I've been ill but in the next couple of weeks we'll be back in the land of playdates and after school activities again. Can't wait [forced ].

Seeing as your dd is reluctant to have friends round to your house, perhaps you could arrange a meet up with a classmate somewhere neutral, soft play maybe? You could always tell her that you are meeting x's Mummy for coffee and that x will be there too... she might not feel so much pressure then.

DD really seems to have settled this term, she has made friends with the girl she was having problems with and no longer cries when the CM collects her as she now understands which days are CM days and which are Mummy days. She loves going to the CM as there are other little girls there to do pink fluffy stuff with after school - none in her class though unfortunately, they are all a year or two older.

DD's teacher seems a wise old bird, she is very experienced and is head of KS1. SHe said that dd lacked the emotional maturity to understand friendships at first but has made great progress in this area over the last 6 months. She seemed more pleased with that than with the fact that dd can write her name now .

I really think that 4 is too little for school but there isn't much we could do about it so dd has had to find her way in her own time. I do think that if she were starting now (at 4.8) she would have coped far better. There's only one intake here though and no deferred entry, we could have let her start at 5 but she would have gone straight into Y1 and I think that in the long run she's better of having initially struggled in reception and found her way than to be launched straight into Y1 which at her school becomes more academic. I like the fact that (at dd's school at least) Reception seems to be all about being ready to start school in earnest in Y1 although they are allowed to read/write/count etc it is purely at each individual child's pace with no pressure whatsoever.

Apols for essay

Agree with TF, absolutley.

And I thought befor eXmas that dd2 would end up p/time all year as she found it so hard.
But after Xmas she was fine, just needed to be that much older really.

Though she does still play with the older years more than her age group, but I htink she likes ot be mothered by them

evening
have visited wizard
well apart from anything else i told dp that getting someone to sit down and listen to all your worries about your child's health for 45 mins was not to be sniffed at
it was £30 is that cheap? or expensive? or what?
she is pondering what to give him
a couple of times she asked seemingly random questions eg "does he have a lot of ear wax" that made you go "er well YES he really does"
so that was interesting
she thinks basically it was the antibiotics he had at birth (of course ) and the toxins from that are being brought out by the fruit and veg he is being weaned onto, because f+v help you expel toxins
hence it starting at same time
this all sounded quite sensible at time

LR Christmas the turning point for us too. A few short months make all the difference at this age.

Fran I think that £30 for 45 mins of expert time is fair. Whether it's worth it or not depends on how helpful she turns out to be. Is she suggesting that you cut out f&v for him or is the detoxing a process that has to be gone through?

£30 seems very reasonable to me. It's so refreshing to be listened to isn't it? That's why I detest going to the GP. I hope this helps ds2.

blueberries
banana
dried fruit
stawberries
OJ
carrot
cucumber
beans

A friend and I went for a lovely walk today. We both had our children and her gorgeous lab pup. The sun was shining and warm and the daffodils were starting to flower

£30 is cheap.

yes it was a very unusual feeling to be listened to
to her credit she did not criticise or judge at all - i mean there wasn;t all this tutting and shockedness that some alternativey people have done

yes the detox thing has to happen so the f+v are good
we both need to keep to 'clean' diet though
am revving up for excluding stuff - may have last bonanza of wheat and dairy first
i did take on board what was said about desperation and accepting it, but tbh i am doing what the medical profession is telling me, including using the fucking steroids, and they aren't even working
so of course i am going to try other things, it would be odd not to
i appreciate all the suggestions and am not ruling them out
i am going to try this first, it takes a bit of energy and organisation to try things doesn't it? so can't do everything at once

TF....also agree with your comments about little ones at school, even though my DD was the older of the bunch. She is very tall for her age and peoples expectations are so high o fher, wheras the dainty one still have that babylike quality.

Things are deeply painful. However we got here, it feels like it is all my fault and I am responsible for causing all the pain. It gets overwhelming and panicky and I am very very lost. DC's and H don't want to tell antone at the mo and it feels dreadfully dreadfully lonely.

And I am really not very well...it is dreadful. But sorry, due on so not coping. I don't know whether to scream, cry or swear. Trying not to be self absorbed.

sounds logical to me franny but..., you will see.

Heyyyy..Fair Lady..

and Toot .....whom I have to say, is a bit of a guardian angel at the moment and deserves a very good friend sticker.

errr..

Juice,
pears
banana,
beans......
pitiful... ...

you don't think Pink accidentally hoovered herself up do you?

Oh Atilla, I don't know what to say. I wish I could come up with some words of wisdom for you.

Do you have a v v discreet friend who you can confide in? It's really not fair that you can't talk to anyone about it.

Don't put all of the blame on yourself, it is very rarely one persons fault.

Attila.
I blame the full moom
(for everyhting)
Self absorbed is kind of understandable I think.

Oh dear, Attila. I think it will feel better when you can tell people.

Is having some counselling (just you) an option?

Franny, it sounds like you already got some benefit from just being able to sit and explain your concerns. That's good

Wombling I think most of us with similar aged DCs starting school this year have been through this.

What particular concerns do you have?

BTW great stuff with the running! Am in awe of your DH.

MR what is happening with boys / school stuff? Sorry I may have missed your updates.

I wasn't hoovering all that time!! Only for 5 mins before I went for a lie down, before which ds decided he wanted a clean outfit on so he shat all over the one he was wearing

He's a whingy little thing tonight. Windy and hungry and can't decide what to do with himself

oj
salad (3)
banana
apple
pate, oh the pate

I also had every intention of going for a walk before dinner but ds had other ideas

So Franny are you waiting to hear from her now? Sounds like quite a positive session. Hope she comes up with the goods

I have nearly finished The Book. I read a couple of really 100x bits today that made me smile.

BBBee have you had any takers?

It seemed like a good offer.

Pink the memories of up-the-back poo never really fade...

Ds2 just pooed on the office chair. Oh, the glamour.

I put dd to bed without a nappy on tonight DH usually gets her ready and I just forgot! I only realised when she shouted 'done a wee mummy' She actually hadn't weed but she had done a poo in her pjs!!

Right. I'm going to finish my book

Thank you TF, and LittleRach, and Atilla and FK and everyone. TF that's a really good idea about a soft play or something

She just seems to be writing her very own misery memoir about school/her life. All she will tell me about school is the bad things that have happened to her. This person pushed me, that girl said I couldn't play with her as I am too small etc, etc.

I think I need to suggest a coping strategy to her, to help her deal with it herself.

However, I don't think I am coping with it very well, it is making me anxious, and I am projecting my insecurities o to her.

It isn't helped by the teacher making me feel like I am over protective/over reacting

Well, have just finished the appeal letter for ds1. My friend, who I showed it to (as she is good with words) said it made her cry...

ds2 is being referred for observations. They kept him at playtime for the week - and he ws delighted! Not quite the response the head was looking for though
He spent playtime happily drawing star wars figures and doing his 7 times table up to 50x7, lolololol.