I AM giving up smoking (AGAIN) tomorrow, please support me

[mosschops30]

I hate it, I am stuck in a rut of feeling stressed, smoking more, which is making me feel even worse.
I dont go to the gym anymore, mostly because i feel too rough, used to go 4 times a week.

It smells, its killing me, its too expensive.

God I hope i can do it this time, I really do want to NEVER smoke again

exactly, I know after a few glasses of wine I will be gagging for a smoke and then it will taste vile and my giving up will be reinforced

Oh i love reflexology, have a fab time

Hi guys -- pampering.. reflexology .. why didn't I think of that!

Glad to hear all is going well. I'm surviving and luckily going on hols this w/e which will help. It's now about eight or nine days now Bling. I can't remember exactly, which is a bit odd. Thought I'd be counting the minutes. Moss I'm a day less than you.

I was swimming every day but not for the last four days which may be why it's suddenly become harder.

Gladbag good to see you! You're not weak. You've done a whole week and hated every minute. If that's not strong I don't know what is! Many congrats. I know exactly what you mean about not telling people in RL. It makes it such a big deal it means NEVER NEVER NEVER - instead of saying to myself it's just for today then the next day just another day.

I have told my dh and children this time. I ask them for reassurance all the time about how brilliant I am and how much nicer it is not having a smelly grumpy mum. That helps me.

ps Tilly at weight loss! are they going to have to take in the dress? Winter weddings are wonderful (vested interest: I had one)

bluesky - not sure.... Have my first fitting on the 4th, so will see then. I've almost lost 2 stone since ordering it - but I did order a smaller size.

I know what you mean about not telling many people. Dp knows (obviously because he is stopping as well), but I haven't mentioned it to anyone else. I'm out for my hen night in a couple of weeks and quite a few of my friends smoke, so that will be difficult.

Am very excited to see halloween smilies Easily pleased ??? Me ??

blue sky Im day 11 today so you must be 10 wow how great are we ???

Good luck everyone who's giving up! I've been clean for 4 years and it's great to be free! It took a few goes but I got there in the end. I never want one or think about them at all. If I can do it anyone can, although I know it's hard. God, now I look back and think 'Why did I spend all those years doing that to myself? What an eejit!'

Mosschops... please please don't see having a smoke tomorrow as okay. You have been so strong. You're hoping the taste will be disgusting and put you off. It won't. Or it might, for the first few drages, then you'll be back. And... once you have one, sunday will be like starting the whole process of stopping all over again.

I promise you, that if you get through going out drinking this weekend, the next time you go out drinking it will be easier. And then it will be easier still.

Smoking is both an addiction and a habit. So having one tomorrow will do nothing to break the habit and will be giving into the addiction. You wouldn't say to an alcoholic, "oh, it's okay, you can have a drink now, you've been good for two weeks."

I don't know why, but I feel weirdly emotional about this. You are SOOOO strong. and so nearly there.

Thanks for the welcome all.

Mosschops, for me having one would be the slippery slope, I just know it would.

I'm fighting so hard against my inner demon which is saying "Look, you've prooved you can stop for a week - would one rolly do any harm? You could cut right back. Maybe just have one or two a day - that's not really smoking at all is it? Or just have a couple with a drink every now and then. That would be fine wouldn't it?" and on and on. But I know that if I have one, I'll have another, and even if I do cut right back I'll still be a smoker and I'll still be smoking. I wish I was one of those folks who could do 'social smoking' - having the odd cig when out for the night. But I'm not. I'm an all or nothing sort of gal.

Having said all that - have a fab night out and I wish you luck!

I know what youre saying is right bling and I really am hoping I wont have one, Im not going into it with the mindset that i can smoke, but I also dont wanna stress myself out and ruin a night I have been looking forward to for ages.

The way I feel at the moment I wont smoke, havent had any cravings for the last two days and the smell is making me feel sick when I walk past people.
I will take my inhalator with me
thanks for your support bling

We are super fab great Moss. I must admit I would like to be where Raspberry and Bling are but ten days is, I don't know, I'm really pleased with myself. Thanks for the support all, it's making a big difference to me.

Bling the last time I gave up smoking I actually cried during my last cigarette. This is SOOO different.

I'm going to bed (different time zone). Moss don't do it flower. You've done a brilliant job so far. Just think how llaaarrvveelly you'll feel and how immensely proud you'll be when you wake up on Sunday and remember you didn't!

gladbag, I was where you are a few days ago, kept thinking i could just smoke in work, or just before i went to bed. Its like a mourning period, like someone said its like an ex you think 'oh I'll just txt, or I'll just phone, or just one last shag to get it out my system'

just think you will get through it and in a couple of days you wont want to shag that ex

I will try and report back on monday

you will do and tell us on monday how virtuous you felt.

Hooray for all of us!

5 weeks fag free for me today. I'm still dealing with cravings but, you know what, ignoring or battling through a craving just feels so blardy brilliant to me now, as in I am so proud of my own strong-willed magnificence, that I might possibly be getting a little bit addicted to that funny denial feeling. IYKWIM?

Mossy - I echo what everyone else has said, please don't have even a whifter at the weekend. Because it will be the undoing of everything you have done so far and you will go back to enslavement (very very stern emoticon) and you really have got to kick the habit for good sometime, have you not? and it may as well be now seeing as how you have made SUCH A GOOD START!!!

OK????

You are all doing brilliantly! I found it was like being an alcoholic, in the sense that I know that one might send me back on the slippery slope, probably even now. However, that said, if anyone does smoke at the weekend, and I hope they don't, but try not to see it as a failure and go "Oh well, I might as well just have more now I've had one" ifswim. I used to hate it when you met ex smokers who said they still wanted one ages after giving up. It isn't true in my case, I really don't. It's just that when you first give up the addiction fools your brain into thinking it's missing something. So once you've got through the initial battle it's all good - keep going and you'll have freedom from the evil weed! Good luck X

How are we all doing ladies ?!

We had a pretty stressful weekend (nothing major - just dc's being hell on earth and deciding to wake up at 5.15 am yesterday and the whole day being fucked up because of the clocks ). DP and I were threatening to chain smoke 10 marly lights once the girls went to bed but managed to talk ourselves out of it. It was a close call though

yay I did it girls, I got through the whole weekend without a fag . I must admit that it was touch and go at times (after lots of wine on saturday night) but I used my inhalator and it got me through. I was amazed at how supportive my friends were (the smokers and the non smokers) and dh too. In fact he even said in the car last night how proud he was that I got through it. I feel like Ive done something really special, all the times Ive given up before Ive always smoked when Ive gone out for a drink!

And yesterday in the queue for a ride I almost asked someone to put their fags out because the smell was unbelievable

Well done tilly for getting through a hellish day without the evil weed, it wouldnt have made it any better, and you and dh supported each other which is great!

Bluesjy and gladbag, how did your weekends go?

Tilly and Mosschops - WELL DONE. I'm so pleased for both of you. Every time you get through a difficult time without smoking, it gets easier. I promise.

You are right to be swaggering mosschops - that must have been so hard - really good that dh and friends are supportive, as without that it would have been a nightmare. You are brilliant. Hope eveyone else's weekends have been successful.

I'm not nearly at your stage. If I see someone smoking in the street I want to follow them, breathing deeply, like a Tom Cat version of me following a roast chicken in a cartoon, inhaling the visible smell. It's not good , is it?

Having said that, I haven't smoked, so that is cool. Dh bought me an inhaler thingy, and it's actually been really helpful (I think I might have been being a tad tetchy, and he hoped it might help ). I'd sort of thought I'd go it alone, will power and all that, but actually the inhaler has been a life-saver a couple of times over the weekend. I've only used 1 capsule a day, so I hope that means I wouldn't get hooked on it!

I'm eating like a carthorse though. I'm so impressed with those of you stopping smoking and loosing weight. The weight loss will have to be my second step I think. In the mean time, chocolate is helping.

Well done Mosschops - just think, if you can get through a night out without smoking, then you can do anything. I'm on my hen night next Friday ..... It will be a test

well done gladbag as well - glad to hear the inhalator is working

Bluesky - are you still off the evil weed ?

Where is bluesky?? Bluesky if youve fallen off the wagon please come back and we can support you again believe me I was sooo close at the weekend!

gladbag I find the inhalator works wonders. Sometimes I wont use it for days and then (like Saturday) I'll have it in my mouth for hours. It really helps those cravings, much better than patches IMHO.

Tilly good luck for the hen night (not just the not smoking but also being trussed up with 'L' plates and condoms lol ) you will be fine, I bet youre glowing now after being fag free for so long, be strong and remember you will be a beautiful fag free bride

Mossy - shall we go and stalk Bluesky around the mn and bring her over here ?! . Maybe she's just so over the smoking thing, that she doesn't even think about it any more [hopeful emoticon]

Thanks for the good luck wishes. It all be very "subdued" compared to some hen parties. Its just a meal and drinks out with friends really. We're all too old for L plates and condoms . There are just a few smokers amongst them so I'm hoping its soooooo cold outside that I won't be tempted to go and join them

Ha ha never too old for 'L' plates and condoms IMHO I love trashy hen nights, well only ones Im on, the rest of the time i think 'god look at those chavs, no class' lol.

Yes we should stalk bluesky, wonder where she is? Hope she's ok and as you so is so totally over it that she doesnt need to bother with us anymore

come back bluesky we miss you

hello all clever brilliant giver-uppers

Well done Mossy -- it sounds like you have so much support among friends and family

Am still on the wagon ..I was on holiday without the internet.

Doing ok but I still need to ask the children "is it really better now I'm not smoking" etc etc and every time they say YES don't ever go back to it -- it gives me a bit of extra strength.

I have a big battle with myself coming up though, I have deeply stressy decisions to make and on Monday when everyone goes off to work and school I'm so tempted to buy a packet "just to help me focus" bah humbug I'm going to have to keep SO BUSY to stop myself.

Tilly when is your exact date? if you don't mind me asking..