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[charliecat]

Hello girls....

whoops day four!!

I know you're not the same person, sparkly. Just love winding people up.

Glad your chest feels clearer. There's probably a small amount of shite that will get coughed up and then you'll start to feel really good.

Be good today.

What does dh think of non-smoking mieow ? Is he being helpful ? Might he be tempted to quit too ?

minkmamma, WHERE ARE YOU ?

Did you muck things up and reach for the fags this AM ?

Best of luck if you have stopped.

Post when you're feeling disgusting / got a craving and someone on here will hopefully keep your fingers on the keyboard and off the fags.

I need help!
My mum is coming to visit and she doesn't know I smoke, she thinks I am still stopped from the last time I gave up!
I am 38 wks pregnant and appalled that I'm smoking anyway. I started again about 2 months ago when my father in law died. My hubby knows that I'm smoking but is coming back from sea soon and will have expected me to stop. I've already had one today and my mum is coming 2morrow! I hate myself for always thinking "it's soooooo bloody unfair that smoking is sooooooo dagerous and horrid for us" because I could just smoke and it would be fine. I know that's stupid and I suppose I don't really feel that way. Oh I don't know, how am I going to quit!! Help

DH says "good on ya girl!!!" I have noticed he has cut down, so maybe he is heading in the right direction....
The cravings are getting less, and I hardly notice them now, I tend to keep myself very busy and then I just forget about smoking....

TR: I can think of better ways of grieving for the loss of your FIL than his precious DIL spreading cigarette toxins through her body - not to speak of his unborn grand-child...

I read briefly about your PND, stepkids, and submarine man too, so I can imagine your situation may be harder than most, but to be honest, I'm not sure what you're doing is acceptable.... And I don't think you do either, or you wouldn't feel guilty about it / be worrying about 'getting caught' etc.

I've posted a few times about a book by a bloke called Carr - 'How to Stop Smoking' or something like that. Have you tried reading it ? Get it from the library if money is tight, or post here and someone will probably offer to sell you one they've used. It has a lot of useful information and suggestions.

Sparklymieow quit 4 days ago, stinkmamma quit last night (I think), and it might help you to continue to post here and discuss your feelings / concerns / how you're coping with the cravings etc.

Good luck.

sparkly: so pleased you dh is being supportive. I am sure he admires you for doing it. So definitely rub it in and be the most sparkliest you can be, coping with everything and being deliciously smug that you are a non-smoker.

When you're in a strong place, do the best thing that any ex-smoker can do, and offer the gift of support to a smoker to help them quit..... maybe dh is next ?????

Hello,fellow soldiers.Have been away for a few days and just read Hub2dees harsh words of wisdom-be gentle with us-Im on my thirteenth day and it is still so hard-at least Trinity has the guts to admit what she is doing as did Prettyfly1 and indeed myself- we know smoking when pregnant is very wrong but we are not here to judge each other,just be supportive.
Well done,Sparkly and Stinkmamma-hope youve stopped and your first day is treating you kindly.
Ive really missed being on here the last few days and have been in alot of very smoky places but the lozenges are getting me out of trouble.
Are you around,Prettyfly1??

Still doing well, Just had a mad dash to the school, DD1 fell off a trike at school and banged her head, she has a massive bruise now, but she is ok....
I am finding the support here great, its a bit strange that total stranges are being so supportive, but its working....

I have a weekend off and it takes me half an hour to catch up!! Welcome to all the newcomers, and keep going to all the oldies.
My advice for giving up smoking id that you have really got to want to do it - simple as that. And accept there are going to be tough times, and try to prepare yourslef for them. I think i gave up smoking 11 weeks ago, and i still think about it everyday. When i start to get the urge i do something to take my mind of it - mn, cleaning, reading, eating, going for a walk, phone someone.
Hub2dees words are harsh but true - smokers are very blinkered, they are so at risk from numerous diseases but think it will never happen to them. And if it does it's too late.
I gave up as i want to see my DD grow up and i want to go on cruises when dh retires (32 years and counting). I loved smoking and will no doubt fall off the wagon occasionally but am hoping those thoughts will carry me through.
I have just reread this - how deep is that for a monday lunchtime!!

Hey drop - yeah i am around now. Bein very good at the moment. Have had a couple of lozenges - feel a bit tense but not too bad - how you coping?

i know I'm crap, sorry to have asked for help when I am acting unacceptably, sorry hub2dee and all

Tr, you ain't acting crap. Its an addiction and we are all in the same boat *(well, except Hub2dee. he is just a nasty man with harsh words, but they do work!!)

Anyway, you can do it but you have too want to do it....

Good luck!

ok trinity - sorry hub2dee - you have been through a huge amount and are under masses of strain. Guilt will not make you stop smokin or none of us would do it. You know you want to quit and you are trying - its a big thing and well done for you having the guts to come on here and talk about it but honey stop beating yourslef up. You have enough going on and are holding it all together - give yourself a well done for that before you start knocking what peopl ewill perfect stable lives find hard. YES it is harmful to smoke with a baby but you WILL get there and we will all support you without judging you in any way at all. We all know how tough it is. Feeling negative about it and doing that to yourslef will just make you...............want a fag - not helpful. Focus on the positives of trying to quit - healthy baby etc, instead of the negatives of what you consider a failure, and i promise you you will do better. EVERY cigarette you dont have counts towards the day when you can be FAG FREE and noone can say that isnt or wont be an acheivement in itself. Just keep going.

Hub2dee - please dont be offended, but try to be a little more tactful in your approach with certain people. Like dropinthe said before me we are here to support and help each other, not make ourselves feel worse when we have a lot going on already. I think its fantastic that you have obviously done so well yourself but any ex smoker knows its tough. Keep up the good work just dont be too hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here,here Prettyfly1! Said with tact!!

Hey drop - i do try - how you doin mate?

Im fine,hon!! Just starting useless threads/reading them and generally wasting my time but am least not smoking!! Almost did on Friday-got pissed in the day as it was my mother in laws retirement party -dh said some nasty things and so cornered one of his mates for a fag-had two drags(am not counting this in fag free period),nearly threw up and put it out.

Oh dear, I appear to have upset several people.

I apologise to any individuals, particularly Trinityrocks or prettyfly1, who have been upset or made to feel worse by my posts.

I take on board the comments made, but would like to point out in my defence that we should all recognise that there are multiple ways of addressing the challenge of giving up cigarettes.

I'd also like to confirm, incase there was any confusion, I am not an ex-smoker, I only helped my dw quit.

NO offence taken with me but you just have to treat us quitters like little china dolls (Ha! with seven heads,fangs and talons!)s sardinically!

heh heh, that sounds about right. Seven heads and a temper your average psycho would envy!!!!!

Dropin You can not count two drags mate. Hub2dee was not offended or made to feel more upset, was just perhaps a little concerned when one of the other girls was! Dont worry - chill

As best I can without a fag!! Nevermind,after six I can have a glass of wine-ooh,I think Im going to start a new thread on wine drinking habits!!

oh i so wish- mind you making myself a stylish tea will have to do instead. Really feeling a bit down today which isnt like me. Baby is moving about a lot and lots of braxton hicks and back pain which probably isnt helping.

I Think it may be chocolate monster night - now there is an addiction i cant beat.

OOh,That went well-have you spotted it?? When I was pregnant I still drank a glass of wine at night-the French think red wine in moderation is good for the development of your babys and it is not frowned upon.

OOh,That went well-have you spotted it?? When I was pregnant I still drank a glass of wine at night-the French think red wine in moderation is good for the development of your babys and it is not frowned upon.