Franny Had A Little Yam - 10/10 thingummies :o)

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ds2 is G&T though isn't he Franny, had we not already established that? he's like his big brother. He will be fashioning genitalia from clay in no time

DD did the flaking thing. Vaseline was the best stuff for easing it. It didn't stop until she had lost a complete layer of skin but unfortunately it didn't come off all at once like a snake's does so that we had a dd shaped skin cast. In a fit of the PFB's dh went out and bought expensive baby skin creams but none of them eased it like vaseline did.

OB, I am so cross for you. What a shitty thing to do. Have you heard from him yet?

Well, I rang him at 7:30 (I tried to hold off but I needed to get a start on expressing my rage) and hung up on him. Not my finest hour but I'm getting my stroppy teen on in practice....

Now I need to devise the next installment

everything smells of cauliflower
this is not good

Avi a little orange cardigan to match the hat! You are clever. I wish I could knit
it's very beautiful, thank you
and it will fit the giant freak large darling

Os-ba has he appeared yet? I'd be furious if my ~DH did this

I don't know. I left my phone at home so he couldn't call me.

I am letting him stew. He probably is unaware of this!

OB - I don't know if I would be thinking of a punishment as such, more that I needed to address a serious lack of respect in the relationship. I can't imagine any 'punishment' would put someone off enough to not do it again if they really wanted to stay out. Pissed or whatever at 3am or whenever, saying oh, god, OB will chop my best shirt/not speak for three days/refuse sex for two weeks and everyone laughs and says you're in the shit. It all becomes a bit of a joke or banter doesn't it?

I don't know how you go about it, everyone's relationships are different but I would be deeply upset by that and I think a punishment with pizazz, rather than serious talk, makes it into a more lighthearted thing. Does that make sense? God I sound boring.

Franny - are you putting anything on his skin? I have a natural baby balm from Neil's Yard that is very good. You could also try increasing the good oils in your diet, I know you eat well but maybe take a flax seed oil or something to boost it?

No, it does make sense MrsC and I know I can come across a bit weird sometimes but by punishment with pizazz I was really thinking along the lines of how best to try and let him know how angry I am without resorting to gibberish screaming.

Just trying to poke fun at my situation to make it less itchy, I am fucking fuming but don't really know what to say.

I'm sure I replied to MamaG earlier on today. But I can't find it. Maybe someone ate it?

Anyway I was at the 20:52 post last night

Yes, I see. It is hard to know what to say. DH used to be like that and I did my share of banshee behaviour. He never does it now though, not for years actually but it was a change in our relationship that stopped it. I can't pinpoint the change though so that's not very helpful is it.

I want croissants.

Sorry for mention the name that everyone argued over - it was Franny's fault really for mentioning Handsome Tom.

OB, why did he not come home last night? I'd be furious for not letting me know. I think a Serious Talk is in Order - you know, Respect, Consideration, We're grown ups etc. And perhaps a little stroppiness on your part is allowed. I hate it when I end up screaming like a banshee when I wanted to be calm and mature about things. Or I do my quiet sulking brooding which I hate too. I'm quite a good stroppy teenager

Now I'm all stressed about (and I know some of you hate this word but it's what they are called here) a play-date tomorrow morning. It's at 9:30. I thought we'd go to friend's house and play. But now it is an extravagant lunch with all organic food and, 'don't worry, you will love what I come up with'

I said I'd bring fruit but it seems a bit small when she's making a huge lasagne. Argh. Not sure what to take now but have no fruit in the house so will have to go shopping tonight. Bugger.

He drove his mate over to Bath to DJ at a friends' party. Why said friend couldn't drive himself is beyond me. He has a car.

I guess he just decided to stay. He was supposed to be home at 1ish. We are both supposed to be holding it down and behaving ourselves in the week. He was still up at 7 when I rang.

I think I might have to play the silent treatment card. It never comes out right when I try the sensible conversation about respect etc. That way he might do the talking, which tends to work out better.

I want to go out and get my own back, but that just gives him further excuse to repeat it. Plus, am really trying to be sensible in the week.

Ah, but if she's making lasagne, won't you be too full for something bigger? Could you take something nice / fruity to drink?

OB dh did that once (years ago before dc) but I managed to track him down after midnight (having spoken to him at lunchtime and saying see you after work - he wasn't at work, he had a friend staying). I think I went a bit quiet but we did have a serious conversation about how it was Not Ok. I was soooooo angry though. I didn't stop boiling with rage for about 3 days! I didn't have a go any more or anything but I just think it's sooooo bloody rude and I fumed.

DH's parents never knew/asked where he was though and my mum's thing was always she had to know where I was going, who with and when I'd be back.

Anyway, just thought I'd let you know I feel your fury!

Cress (prob not full portion!) mango, raisins. Oh dear.

OB, it all sounds like something one might expect pre-kids. I'd not be pleased at all.

It's not his first offence either.

you're right about it being pre kids behaviour UR. And he was out Friday and Saturday night till late too, so not exactly like he needs to 'cut loose' or whatever.

Feel a bit better for venting! Just hope I still have enough rage to see me home without just caving in.

UR if she's doing lunch then she's expecting to do the bulk of it, I would say. So a little extra of fruit will be lovely.

Idris, I did see your reply

Just thought I'd update you... I now have a can of coke and some salt and vinegar crisps and all is right with world

hurrah for the crisps

more fruit
in a peach yogurt

I don't like my midwife (the one who visits postnatally not the one who helped deliver him) - she has never done any single thing about anything I have asked for help with

eg when in hospital
ask staff on children's ward for laxatives (sorry but you know how it gets when you are in hosp and you've recently given birth)
"oh we can't give you those ask your midwife"
"well when is she coming to see me?"
staff ring her
"tomorrow"
next day midwife does not turn up
"can you ring midwife and ask her to come?"
midwife comes next day
"can I have laxatives?"
"yes tomorrow" (ie 3 days after I first asked)
midwife nor laxatives ever seen again
When I got really ill I asked the nurses in the other ward for some and they brought them within an hour

I asked for help with bf from the day he was born! she just writes "bf well" in his notes

anyway evil midwife allegedly coming today
so am tense
silly mare

That sounds a not nice midwife. Maybe she won't come [hopeful emoticon]