Have YOU or anyone you know, ever had an STI?

[FluffyMummy123]

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I'm not ashamed...
No way Not In Any Way
be careful who you shag
end of...

I caught Chlamydia when i was with exP for 9 years. After a year or so i'd built up trust and ditch condoms etc. Low and behold he cheated and i caught it, i was really, really lucky as i got symptoms and gpt treated immediatly. When i told him, sobbing, he asked whats the big deal you go to the clinic and get tablets?

He later caught Herpes and had nasty nasty repeated outbreaks! He told me how devastated he was as no tablet that time.

yep

don't shag ME for starters

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We used a condom. I got it after oral sex

I had genital warts when I was 17/18, I found out during a routine smear appt when the lady doing the smear test looked up at me in disgust.

It was terrible as it lays dormant for so long; I had been seeing my bf (now DH) for nearly a year and he was clear, so thought I had been cheating on him.

Just as I arrived at the GUM clinic I bumped into a girl who was the ex of a soldier with whom I had a brief fling with before I met DH....I think he liked prostitutes

Okay [dumb] emoticon can you catch clym from oral sex?

oh MP you dash my fantasies you biatch!!!!!!!

I'm not ashamed either. But I do think that some people are.

I'm ashamed
I was shagging someone what I didn't oughta have been shagging

A bit less indiscriminate than a cold, Cod - but I'm happy you've got the point. Ta.

(You do see how your initial post made for a tricky exclusive atmosphere, don't you? - "I don't know a soul" => anyone holding their hand up is already pre-identified as being the minority/under scrutiny/somehow "different"?)

Anyway. We're sorted now I think.

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god so you're saying "we don't need to teach this as none of my friends have it"?

REALLY, cod? you aren't REALLY saying that?

I didn't get clymidya.

I knew a woman who got a dose, and went to the trouble of finding a clinic 25 miles away from her home - only to find one of her neighbours also in the queue in the waiting room!

Actually, I didn't know the woman, now I come to think of it. I knew the receptionist who told me the story

Re the why are we teaching it - don't you think it's all part of the necessary message of Taking Sex Seriously? Which shades into all those things like Don't Be Naive; and Be Aware that He May Feel Differently Than You Do; and When You Say No You Are Entitled to Mean No? All of which we were so not taught, back when?

When I was at college we were given something called The Little Blue Book, which covered all the above, and was an essential for me. Especially since I found out, to grisly cost, that I was prone to cystitis - and that, accordingly, it was a fairly good idea to be a bit careful & it wasn't all going to be flinging the birds & bees to the wind. All of which I think people should have an idea of.

right, bink.

Though I do remember Catholic friends talking about sex ed classes which relied rather heavily on images of pustulent sores to hammer home their message that Sex Before Marriage Is Wrong.

Cod, are we misunderstanding you? It does seem rather odd to say that because your circle of (ahem) thirty-something friends isn't voluntarily offering up their STI status, we are over-egging the pudding to those who are about to become the most sexually-active demographic.

Actually what is interesting on this thread also Cod apart from the SHAME is the idea that YOU GET THIS FROM BAD MEN!

which is rubbish of course

I've had cystitis, is that an STI?

having said that mine was a bad man, also my first grrrr
cod mentioned HIV so if I read it right ( poss not am but pissed( but still less typos than The Fish arf)
then she knows a bit no?

They used to call it honeymoon disease or something pre 1990s before forplay was manditory

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I DID get it from a bad man MP; believe me, he was very very naughty indeed

Seriously though, he mentioned to me quite casually after we had sex that he had been with prostitutes when he was working abroad.

I think it is fair to say that those who are more promiscuous are more likely to catch/pass on STI's, I'm sure if the same question was asked to men they would blame bad women/slags.

no, cystitis isn't an STI, but it's a catch-all term.

Can be caused by bruising to the urethra through the vaginal wall (exacerbated by dehydration - always drink water befroe sex if prone) but also can be caused bacterially also, iirc.

dehydration yes - ie lack of foreplay!