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NEW THREAD FOR OJ - REST IN PEACE STEVE - STRENGTH AND LOVE FOR OJ AND THE CHILDREN

726 replies

Buda · 18/06/2008 11:15

Hope this is ok - both other threads seem to be full or almost full now.

We are all thinking of you Jo.

Trifles and rum and bubbles at the ready.

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sfxmum · 18/06/2008 21:19

trifle eaten thinking of you all
XX

trulymadlydeeply · 18/06/2008 21:22

Had my trifle and raised a glass to your extraordinary Steve.

Hope that he would have approved of today and that it went as well as it could have.

Thinking of you with lots of love, OJ,

XXX

onlyjoking9329 · 18/06/2008 21:50

it has been a bit of a day.
Richard who did the service had been briefed about the IL's which was just as well as stevs sister started kicking off at teh start she stoog up stout and was told to dit down, there was plenty of heckling from them.
steves sisterstood up at one point and was looking to say something but richard who did the service talked over her.
the service was lovely and i fel t they were atrur reflection of steve and his life.
when it camr time to leavr we were told we vould leave first but we knew that they would follow us, everyone else was ushered out, all of steve family were waiing at the door,to kick offrted out for us to go out the back to the waitng car, felt like we had done something

moodlumthehoodlum · 18/06/2008 21:55

OJ I'm so glad that the person who did the service knew the score and was able to manage it. Sounds like he did a great job. I can't imagine having to manage your grief, Abby, Bethan and Elliots' grief, against a backdrop of being on tenterhooks in case your outlaws misbehave. Thank goodness you feel that the service was what steve (and you) would have wanted.

chocaholic73 · 18/06/2008 21:56

I cannot begin to understand why anyone would want to kick off at a funeral service which is totally to do with the person who died. However, it was obviously kept under control and I guess it could have been worse. Hope you and the children are not too bad Oj. Do you have anyone with you tonight?

sfxmum · 18/06/2008 21:57

I am sorry for the thoughtless unfeeling people
am glad you felt the service was fitting and things did not get out of hand.

huge hug to you and yours

Hulababy · 18/06/2008 21:57

Can't believe that your ILs can act like this even at SSteve's funeral. They really are the lowest aren't they? Please you were able to have someone deal with them for you, and sort it out for you to avoid them as much as possible.

Glad you gave Steve the send off you wanted.

onepieceoflollipop · 18/06/2008 21:58

OJ so sorry that you have lost your dh and have even had to go through a funeral, but I hope it was a tiny comfort to you that the service was lovely.

x

tori32 · 18/06/2008 22:01

OJ,I am so sorry you had to endure that from the ILs. How sad that they could not even behave in a dignified way at the funeral . You will be far better off without them in your life. At least you will get more peace. I am glad the service itself went ok.At least you know that you will never have to see them again.

triffictits · 18/06/2008 22:03

Pleased that the service was lovely for Steve.

I cannot believe how low the IL's are - to kick off at Steve's funeral is really the lowest they could stoop to. Just shows that even on the day dedicated to Steve and his life they could only think of themselves - they are utter wankers OJ.

You can always hold your head high and know you did the right thing despite all the crap they put you through.

Hope you and the children are ok tonight after what must've been a heartwrenching day for you all.

VaginaShmergina · 18/06/2008 22:03

OJ I am glad the service was nice and Richard had the back bone to ignore Cruella and her Rottweillers (sp?)

Is Tracey with you tonight ?

I am glad you were protected to a certain degree and everyone was aware of their evil capabilities.

I hope you are not feeling as unwell as you were and our trifle got eaten and the bowl licked out too.

Big hugs, x

onlyjoking9329 · 18/06/2008 22:12

MIL has aggarrange to meet with the kids SW next week, danny says not to worry as it will end up in the bin
MIL made a big public shoe of coming over to kidd the kids Abbey turned her face away and elliot an beth let her kis them.
at the nd of the very lovely servive elliot was cuddling abbey who was tearful.
bethan was very brave and very sensible.
elliot said dad i will miss you so much and never ever forget you, i will be the man of the house now.

onebatmother · 18/06/2008 22:16

Oh OJ, I'm so sorry that you've had to put up with this today. What a wonderful and brave family you are.

ZacharyQuack · 18/06/2008 22:18

Oh Elliot
Your kids sound lovely OJ.

WatsTheStory · 18/06/2008 22:20

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controlfreakyagain · 18/06/2008 22:21

thought of you today oj. sounds like you and the dcs gave steve the goodbye he deserved.
am so so sorry re all the gyp you and the poor dcs have had to put up with from mil etc. simply dont understand who their behaviour is aimed at. the arrogance of thinking this is all about them. it astounds me.

Dotsie · 18/06/2008 22:22

OJ, was thinking of you Abbey, Bethan and Elliot today, and said a quiet prayer for you all.
So sorry ils couldn't have behaved reasonably on this day of all days.
I hope the day has gone as well as it could and you and the children are coping ok.
Love and prayers to you all.
D xx

bonkerz · 18/06/2008 22:23

xxxxx wishing you strength to grieve xxxxx

smartiejake · 18/06/2008 22:27

So sorry your day was more stressful than it should have been Jo. I, like many others, have been thinking of you all day.

It is totally reprehensible that the ILs should be so disrespectful towards the memory of someone they claim is a loved one at a funeral, never mind in front of three grieving children (with autism to boot)and their mother.

They are totally amoral if they can't control themselves in such a sensitive situation.

One small light at the end of the tunnel is that you can choose never to see them again.

AND what goes around comes around. Somewhere sometime they will get their comeuppance.

bossybritches · 18/06/2008 22:29

Elliott is a little treasure- all the kids are

imaginaryfriend · 18/06/2008 22:47

What the hell were they thinking, OJ? What were they heckling about?? Have they no shame at all??? I feel so sorry for you and the kids, you've been through so much without this kind of pressure.

Well done for getting through today OJ, and to the kids too.

mumtofour · 18/06/2008 22:53

To MN'ers big thanks for your continued support and kind words for Jo.

To Jo, today we gave respects to a true gent, a loving husband and devoted father. I was so proud to be there and to have been part of his life. The service was a beautiful tribute to Steve and dispite the disrespectfullness shown by IL's it was filled with love and memories of his life. You and the kids did him proud babe.

mummylin2495 · 18/06/2008 22:58

Im glad the day has now gone for you OJ,im sure the service did Steve proud and im equally sure that Steve would of been so proud of you and the children.I hope that you can now gradually rebuild yours and the childrens lives ,although i know it is very early days and you will all be grieving so much.I hope each day brings a bit of relief to you in the coming weeks .As for your sil and mil,words fail me.what despicable people they are.You will be well rid of them if its possible.x

BoysAreLikeDogs · 18/06/2008 23:09

Oh OJ I am so [gulp] at Elliott Abbey and Beth

Try to get some rest sweetheart, holding your hand.

onlyjoking9329 · 18/06/2008 23:12

tracey is a super starr er DH was bad as were ger three boys.
we collected £150 for the hospice today