NEW THREAD FOR OJ - REST IN PEACE STEVE - STRENGTH AND LOVE FOR OJ AND THE CHILDREN

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Hope this is ok - both other threads seem to be full or almost full now.

We are all thinking of you Jo.

Trifles and rum and bubbles at the ready.

Thanks for the link OJ. I came on here to check on you and see how Mr MBE was doing.

Morning OJ.
Glad you had a good weekend.
Hope you're ok today.

Glad you had a good weekend oj. Thinking of you as always x

Hope the hand is ok. Thinking of you and your children and wishing you strength for the coming weeks/months. xxxx

love to you and yours

Hi Jo, hope today was ok for you. Lovely to hear that you and bossy had had a great time!

Was it today that MIL was going to see the SW? I hope he set her right in no uncertain terms. How are you doing? I was shocked to hear about MB's husband. I knew he was sick but I didn't think he was that poorly.

Hope you are able to get some sleep tonight. Call me anytime. xxx

we are muddling throu thou I feel like I am in a fog, sometimes it feels too real other times its just a dream.
the girls are keeping close to me and won't go to respite carers or youth club, elliot seems ok.
tracey is a star and has been helping us with everything and I know it is hard for her cos she has lost Steve too.
I had a lovely card from lisa & linda steves oncology sw asking me to go out to lunch with them next week, they know next week will be hard as the kids are going away with school for a week.
there are still lots of things to sort out.
I havent heard from the outlaws thou I know Mil is meeting with the kids Sw this week to make her allegations about me, wonder what she will come up with.
steves ashes will be ready soon and I know that there will be more trouble from his family cos they want the ashes and they want them scattered in whitby, Steve wanted to go to lanzorote.

you are next of kin though and they should be in your care,surely ?

I would have thought it is up to you OJ.

Just a though - wold Steve have been OK with you giving them a small amount of ashes for them to scatter at Whitby? Presumably it had some of sort of meaning for him/them, even though Lanzarote was mroe important to him.

But if there is no way he would have wanted it, then just put on your (well worn) armour and ignore them.

Hmmm Whitby or Lanzorote what a choice! As lovely as Whitby is, I think I'd rather have my ashes out in Lanzorote

Thinking of you x

for oj ((((((((((((((oj))))))))))))))

I am next of kin and the ashes can only be handed over to me, but I expect that they will start hassling me as soon as they think I have them, I dare not have steves ashes here, the funeral place is gonna keep them until we go to lanzarote.
lapin I am posting from my bed on my phone at the moment so can't do emails, once i have stopped feeling sick i will email you.our mac nurse is debbie and she has the same surname as us which is very weird indeed.

Good morning OJ. I just wanted to let you know I am still thinking of you. I hope you are all as well as can be expected. Lots of love xxx

Silly thing to argue about after they have put you through.Try to think what steve wanted.They ILs havent been fair to you .Not telling you what to do but it is your choice.If you decide to keep the ashes untill you want to decide it is quite soon to make that much of a decision..Why have stupid INLAWS got in for you.Sad they couldnt help him when he was here.Let them get on with thier stupid lives.I would think time to grow up for them.You have done so much now blank them you have every 1 on your side .

tracey is here and she has just snogged sen the postman. What can I say..... What a very special beautiful rose called " in loving memory" from the mumsnet girls.
it made me cry but happy too. Thankyou.
It will go in the garden where I spend some quiet moments and feel close to Steve. I still can't believe he has gone.
today is going to be a better day, today we are going to book a holiday I will follow steves wishes and set him free on his fav beach in lanzarote.

Lapin i have emailed you good luck with making any sense of the email

it is going to be ups and downs I am afraid with that feeling of unreality, like you could almost imagine everything has been a bad dream and he has just popped out somewhere. You have had to be so strong you are bound to get a reaction at times. I think you are doing great. So all 3 are going away next week? That's very tough on you so soon. Wish I wasnt so far away (Herts) but I'm usually around the here a fair bit. Take care ..and go and book that holiday!

so thats the holiday booked then, me and the kids are going for two weeks tracey and her DD are coming for the first week.
couldn't decide which villa to have it was a choice between the villa that steve and i went to last time or a different villa that we haven't been too, have chosen the different villa. the villa will be perfect as lots of room for the kids and it looks very nice,Tracey didn't put up much of a fight over the ensuite jaccuzzi bathroom
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Looks lovely and just what you all need.

I think the different villa is a good move. Too many memories otherwise although i know you will be remembering all the time anyway. Oh bloody hell - I make sense to myself anyway!

When are you going?

Lanzarote sounds a lovely place to have Steves ashes scattered, it will mean a lot to you and the kids. The ils will have to take a long walk off a short pier on that one, if there is one at Whitby! It will be lovely for you to all have some time together well out of the reaches of the ils. Thinking of you as always x

Thinking about it i do have some ashes in the bottom of my stove fire
we are going 17th july and have the schools blessing to miss the last few days.
in some ways it seems too soon to be thinking about a holiday, but i know steve would be saying life is for living and holidays were our thing.

Go for it OJ.It will do you and children Good.Give the ashes From your stove to MIL she wont know any different.Have a nice rum and coke too and a tifle for steve.Steve will be with you all.Hope you have a great time there.It wont be the same but like you said life is for the living and i am sure Steve wouldnt want you to be sad.You will always feel close to steve.He will never leave your side while he is in your heart.xx