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Just had a + pg test. How the hell did this happen?

121 replies

BlaDeBla · 09/06/2008 22:24

I've got a coil in, which was only checked a couple of weeks ago. I'm on anti depressants and on drugs for colitis. I've had a mastectomy for breast cancer and I'm middle aged (In my early 40s).

I am shocked, to say the least and I don't know what to do or what to think. Dh is out, so I haven't told him yet. He will go white I expect. He will not be pleased.

I've had a coil for years without any problems and I thought I was possibly a bit menopausal, not bloody pregnant. Don't know what to think. NOt a good situation.

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claricebeansmum · 09/06/2008 22:25

Thinking of you.

I have a mirena coil and had a serious scare this week. Made me think very hard.

naswm · 09/06/2008 22:27

oh dear poor you sending hugs

QueenyEisGotTheBall · 09/06/2008 22:27

do you take breast cancer medications? some medications contain HcG and can affect the urine levels. i would book in to see your GP as also there is a higher risk of ectopic due to the coil fitted and due to your age.
do you already have children?
xx ei xx

QueenyEisGotTheBall · 09/06/2008 22:28

wow i sounded quite hard then sorry sorry this is happening to you hun >
xx ei xx

amner · 09/06/2008 22:29

Wow .... thats a bit of a shock.

Do you know how far along you might be ?

Would another baby be so bad ?

Is DH back tonighht

Things will work out ..whichever road you take

RubyRioja · 09/06/2008 22:31

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fishie · 09/06/2008 22:38

crikey. early 40s not middle aged

BlaDeBla · 09/06/2008 22:47

I don't know what to do. I'll have to go to the doc ASAP and find out. A friend said that having the coil removed was quite likely to dislodge the pg. No symptoms of pg yet, I just feel as though I am getting fatter and fatter. Normally my period would arrive and that would be that.

I'm not on any drugs for breast cancer, just the colitis ones, and vitamins for that and bc and nicotine lozenges and anti depressants. What a cocktail.

No signs yet of being ectopic. Must be about 5 wks or so. Bugger bugger bugger. Have 2 gorgeous girls who are both under 4.

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emma1977 · 09/06/2008 23:12

Blimey, must be a bit of a shock to you. Have you any ideas at the moment as to how you would like to proceed?

See your GP tomorrow (as an emergency if necessary). On account of having a coil, you will need scanning ASAP to check that the coil is still in and that the pregnancy is in the womb not a fallopian tube. If your coil is still there, you may have to have it removed, but often they are left alone depending on whereabouts the pregnancy has implanted.

I wouldn't get too worried about your medications, its early days and lots of time to tinker and swap things around. When was your breast cancer diagnosed?

BlaDeBla · 09/06/2008 23:24

I don't know what I am going to do. I only did the pg test because it is the 1st thing the doc would ask. If they had asked, I would have said no it's not possible. I was diagnosed with bc last August and had a mastectomy in October, then just after that, I was back in hospital with colitis. Oooh, yum!!

Dh and I will have a joint age of well over 100 and without a telegram from the queen! We don't have any money either.

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emma1977 · 09/06/2008 23:39

Goodness, you really have been through the mill!

The reason that I ask (which you are probably aware of) is that a pregnancy will pump you full of oestrogen, which is probably not what you want if you have had breast cancer (especially if you have ER+ disease).

You obviously have a lot to discuss with your dh and GP. It isn't going to be the most straightforward decision, but then life never is. Blame your dh and his supersperm.

PinkTulips · 09/06/2008 23:48

all that aside, how do you feel about the thought of another child?

i'm not dismissing the issues you have to deal with by any means but maybe it would make them easier to deal with them if you have a definite emotion regarding the baby.

early 40's is not old, plenty of women have babies at that age and at least there'd be a small gap between this one and your dd's.

would the health issues and medications affect a pregnancy? you need to discuss that with your gp to make a decision i'd imagine.

Weegiemum · 10/06/2008 06:44

I got pregnant with a mirena in 5 years ago. It had slipped little into my cervix and stopped working properly - they reckon it happened when I had a smear - pulled on the strings.

Anyway - I was on antidepressants as was still depressed after the birth of the previous two, and had just got over a very painful kidney problem brought on by pregnancy. I needed high doses of painkillers right through the pregnancy.

For us, termination wasn't an option. I had a ghastly pregnancy with 12 hospital admissions and an operation during it, took the antidepressants right through it as well as opiate painkillers and was flown out to a more specialist place (we lived very remote then) for the birth, in case baby had been affected.

She was fine: I was ill for another 2 years with same kidney problem and more serious depression than I had had the last time. When she was born my other 2 children were 3y10m and 1y10m. I was a sahm and it was hard going.

But now ... I have a fabulous extra dd, she is brilliant, wonderful, brings special joy to us and to so many other people. Lots of people comment 'there's just something about her'. Despite the pain and the problems and the illness and hurt, the struggles we had for those 3 years, it has been worth everything because she is amazing. I am just finishing off a 2nd degree and planning on doing a Masters degree next year. She starts school in the Autumn!

I'm not saying this is the option for you ... and I was only 32 when she was born, which is a good 10 years younger than you. But I wanted to tell you my story of an unexpected and unwanted pregnancy, cos mine has a happy ending!

Oh, and dh has had the snip now!!!

BlaDeBla · 10/06/2008 08:11

That's lovely for you Weegiemum. I am planning to go and study in the autumn, and I would really like to be able to find a job that pays a bill or 2.

Dh didn't hit the roof. Will go to docs today and keep you posted!

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Elibean · 10/06/2008 08:51

Good luck today, BladeBla, can't relate to coil bit, BC, or ADs, but did do pg at 45/46 with dd2 and had many qualms...and sleepless nights....but like Weegiemum, have now got a very special dd I wouldn't be without for a minute.

You're a spring chicken, remember that

belgo · 10/06/2008 08:55

Gosh what a shock for you. Agree that it's important to go to the doctor's.

Good luck.

BlaDeBla · 10/06/2008 09:02

I've got an emergency appt for this morning. My knees and my lower back feel dreadful. I was going to go to the doc anyway about my knees. I think it must be all those hormones having parties. Also have lymphodema because of the breast surgery.

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TheMadHouse · 10/06/2008 09:05

Bladebla

I have no qnswers, but just wanted to klnow I am here for you

kjaysmum · 10/06/2008 09:25

I feel for you Bla, your situation is even more complicated than mine but I shall share mine with you in hope that it will help put your mind at rest on at least one aspect of your situation until your GP can contact you Gastroentreologist. I am nearly 43 and have one Ds aged four. I take 4x 400 mgs of Asacol daily for Colitis and have possibly conceived. My Gp rang my Gastro for me this morning and assured me that it was ok for me to continue taking Asacol despite the possibility of pregnancy. I have also previously been assured that prednasone although steriodal can be used during pregnancy without risk to the unborn child. Hope this helps be it only a little..my thoughts are with you x

copycat · 10/06/2008 09:37

So glad DH didn't hit the roof Hope everything goes well at the doctors this morning and that you feel a little better later on. Thinking of you...

BlaDeBla · 10/06/2008 10:09

I'm on 6x 400mgs Asacol at the mo. My next gastro appt is in Aug at about the same time as my mammogram etc appt.

Poor Dh. He opened a letter from my dad, which is a big mistake. My dad has a history of wife-beating and child abuse and is wrong-headed. I hope I do not have to take out an injunction against him. I would also prefer not to have the hassle of going to the police for his behaviour.

This, and hormones, and being homeless.... NOt good...

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lulalullabye · 10/06/2008 10:13

You need a scan, as has been said before, breadt cancer meds can giver a false positive pg test.

Weegiemum · 10/06/2008 11:00

Bla - hope it goes well at the doctor this morning. Glad dh didnt hit the roof. Take care adn let us know how it goes.

BlaDeBla · 10/06/2008 11:08

I think I'm feeling sick with worry. Just about to leave, now. Dd2 has a bit of ringworm so we are both trotting off to the doc....

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Weegiemum · 10/06/2008 13:45

How are you Bla? Was the doc able to reassure you at all? Thinking of you xx