Just had a + pg test. How the hell did this happen?

[BlaDeBla]

I've got a coil in, which was only checked a couple of weeks ago. I'm on anti depressants and on drugs for colitis. I've had a mastectomy for breast cancer and I'm middle aged (In my early 40s).

I am shocked, to say the least and I don't know what to do or what to think. Dh is out, so I haven't told him yet. He will go white I expect. He will not be pleased.

I've had a coil for years without any problems and I thought I was possibly a bit menopausal, not bloody pregnant. Don't know what to think. NOt a good situation.

Just seen this.

I hope the GP was helpful and you are feeling less shocked.

Don't spend any time thinking about the letter. I have had vicious letters from my mother and they just in the box in case they are needed for court.

hope everything went ok bladebla. thinking of you

How did it go?

Been thinking about you all day.

Oh kind people! Thank you! .

The doc said not to think about it if I can help it, and not to try and make any decisions. I have an appt at the Early Preg Unit on Mon,and we'll take it from there. I don't really want to be pg at the moment. I wanted another baby before, but the feeling has passed. Anyway, I don't really want an abortion either.

I've started to do the same as you, NotABanana, keeping letters etc. I got a big load of information about all sorts of things from Womens Aid. It's just horrible feeling SO unwanted by parents.

Anyway, I'll let you know what happens on Mon. I also have a lymphodema appt on Mon, so one will have to change.

If you want to talk you can email me. mushy31894(at)fsmail(dot)net

Bla de Bla I am also always here if you need support. I understand about the abortion thing not an easy decision, but yours and DHs to make or not make

Thank you!

Still thinking of you Bla ...

good luck

good advice from the doc, you have time yet to make this decision and finding out if it's even a viable preg before you panic or worry too much is a good idea.... after all with the coil there are risks.

i hope monday goes ok for you and that whatever decision you and dh come to it all goes well.

Does sound sensible advice, Bla - thinking of you too, and wishing you luck

Glad to hear that the GP was sensible and unflapped by this.

All the best for your EPU visit. How is your DH about it now?

Hope you can manage to take the advice and not worry, but I am sure you will anyway. We are here!

Thank you all for your fantastic support. A pregnancy is SO what I could do without right now. I don't feel very pregnant and could do with a stiff gin!

I've got an appointment on Monday morning at EPU.

It's not good to be up the duff when you don't really want to be.

Hope you are ok Bla. I thought about you today when I was in a meeting for some reason.

Anyway, hope you are ok.

You are so right, Ruby. It is very much a health issue, and whatever happens, at the moment it doesn't really feel as though there is a right or a wrong thing to do. I haven't been in touch with my breast care nurse yet. I should really because I have a build-up of fluid on my back where they took out the muscle for the reconstruction and I haven't told her about the lymphodema. The fluid build up on my back feels like a hotwater bottle!

Its not going to be an easy decision whatever you chose to do. I'm glad that dh is being supportive and that your GP sounds sensible too.

Good luck for Monday.

How are you Bla? Hope you are feeling OK today?

I've managed to change the appointment on Mon so I can do both the lymphodema clinic and EPU. I've read a bit about being pg with a coil and the FPA suggest having it removed. The possibility of a miscarriage is higher by having the thing taken out, but apparently it's much higher still if you leave it where it is.

I've never had a mc or an abortion and I didn't really enjoy being pg much. I still have awful piles which need more treatment and they can't operate on them because I have colitis these days. Whatever happens (to my body) in the immediate future is not something to look forward to.

I like your frankness, Ruby. It feels like too much for me too, at the moment. I try to be pragmatic. I would love to drink a few beers but I don't quite dare, just in case... So, one beer then.