THREAD FOR WISHING PEACE TO STEVE AND STRENGTH TO JO AND THE CHILDREN

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Thinking of you. (Not sure if ayone has started one)

(hugs) oj, I am so sorry that Steve has moved on. I wish there was a way to ease your heart ache. Hopefully in time, your memories will make you laugh and smile again. I'm thinking of you and your children. X

It is very early days OJ. You have to allow yourself to feel. You have been so strong and so brave throughout all of this, maybe you need a time to be 'Jo', to think of 'Jo', not be brave, not be strong, a time just to allow yourself to grieve for the man you love, your soulmate. A really good cry! Just let it go.

Thinking of you and sending lots of love and so wishing there was more I could do for you xxxxxxx

Hi OJ, just wanted to send my love again.
I wish I could find the words to express how sorry I am that you lost Steve.

Thinking of you x

Oh and hello mumtofour/Tracey,very pleased to meet you. We have heard a lot about you!

oj.let your self grieve.It is only a week like you said.This is the most difficult time between the time steve passed on and the furneral.it not a lot of good to you to say that time is a great healer but it is.How about considering grief counseling.It will bring your feelings out.Dont let them build up.I know you must miss steve so much even the sad/good times will make you sad. You will look back on them and they will bring a smile to your face .Just not yet as you dont want to have lost steve.He must have been a great husband /father to have stayed so long.He is still watching over you all.Cry as much as you can it of course wont bring him back but it will relieve the pain/heart ache.Always remember steve would not want you to be upset.God bless you have your lovely children and friends.You will feel lonely but take strength from those around you.xxxxx

You must give yourself time for you - it's still so early, and your pain must be so raw.

You have been totally amazing throughout the last 10 months - but don't expect too much of yourself.

OJ I have no wise words. I just want you to know you are stll in the thoughts and prayers of so many people.

Morning OJ still thinking of you today and all this week.

x

hello Oj.I am glad you coped with fathers day,i am sure it was very sad and painful for you all.Steve wil always be with you in whatever you are doing and wherever you are.The ones we love and lose are never far away from us.Do look after yourself, although now i suppose you are getting ready for wednesday.Did you find the clothes that you wanted ?

oj- this is he hardest bit or i do hope so....i am crap at advice but thinking of you x

Oh oj, sending you huge hugs. Thinking of you as always x

Well Done OJ. you got through yesterday. We are proud of everything you have faced.

Tracey is right, feel free to cry, cry at the tough times, cry at the memories, cry as you feel sad. Cry your heart out lovely, who the hell feels able to judge you.

It will get better, honest, you will adapt to the change that Steve's passing has caused. You will Never forget each other.

Love and strength as always x

can people send some vibes that a certain witch will fall off her broomstick very very soon

and sending some for you OJ.

I'm vibing like mad!!!! What a cow to do anything more to upset you.

i have had the kids social worker on the phone, he wanted to know if i had heard from MIL, he has not been in the office since wednesday and came back to two messages to ring her she didn't say what about but we know it won't be a request to see the kids
he will ring her tomorrow, he told me not to worry as any allegations she makes
will
go in the bin be laughed at given her previous.
how can she do this, not just to me but to the kids who are Steves kids too.

oh sweetie, I'm sorry this is still happening to you you and the children really don't deserve it especially right now.

people are weird and I doubt anything anyone says to this woman would make a difference

just bbreeeeaaaathhheeeee through it, xxxx

OJ
We already know she is not a normal human being. Try and accept that and put her totally out of your mind - she is just not worth wasting any energy on.
You concentrate on yourself, your family and giving Steve the tribute he deserves.
I don't know you, yet I'm so sad for you and so angry with her.
You take care of you - and we'll all send seriously bad wishes in her direction.

Oh, OJ, lovely, you're going through the mill at the moment aren't you?.

It must be so tough. Glad Steve got his cup of tea yesterday. The club sounds like a great idea. Was thinking of you especially hard today as it's a week today since Steve left ...

Hope you're as OK as you can be at the moment, lovely, and sending you lots of love and strength to deal with the wicked witch of the west.

XXX

Oh OJ. What the hell is the self centred mare getting out of tormenting you and the kids? Hopefully the SW will be able to handle it.

You should not have to be tolerating this ever. All I can do is send you love, strength,peace, good vibes to you and the vibes you need to deal with your toxic MIL

sorry to hear that Steve has passed on OJ, hope everything goes well on Wed. ?(((Hugs)))) Sending you lots of 'witch falling off broomstick vibes'

I'm back OJ- talk tomorrow xxxxxx

waves to Tracey

OJ, I've been away from Mumsnet for a while and have come back to find the sad news that Steve has passed away, at least he is now at peace. I am sending you all big hugs at this difficult time and my thoughts will be with you on Wednesday. Take care sweetheart. Sparkler xx

Sending the witch falling off her broomstick and into her own cauldron vibes

Thouhgts with you all as always x

Hi oj just wanted to send you hugs and say I'm thinking of you. I havent been on much as we have friends staying at the moment. I really hope everything goes well tomorrow and the ILs behave themselves.

hi oj and sorry she is still trying to cause trouble for you ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((oj))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))