Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support V

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Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

Well Done mMummy . that is such an achievement. It's an even better feeling when you don't even go down the drinks aisle any more

ooh i didnt dare go down the drinks aisle, the specials were right as i went in the door ! thanks daisy.

where is everybody? I've never seen this thread so quiet

I'm here.

Had some major Trojans on here vis my dd1 who decided to download some shite RnB. Told her it was bad

I'm still doing reduction. 1% a week, but the old fave, lager. Better than the wine therapy - stupid woman!

And I made my units last week with 4 left over to qualify for counselling.

PC is behaving badly. Keeps wanting to shut down.
Date went well. He wants to meet again next week. He's keen

How's everyone else doing?

Nite all x x

nope.

i think i killed the thread with my crowing about my few days off! sorry

well done purple though for the reduction (i think that must be hard).

What about you though, he's keen but are you!? whats he like?!

HI everyone.
Don't worry Manky, I'm sure its not you!

I went up to bed last night at around 8pm, as I was all tired and grumpy.

Ooh purple, nice for you to have a bit interest!

I miss those initial feelings when you are getting to know someone and fancying them like rotten...those butterflies in the tummy, and hoping they'll call.

good news on the counselling PO

hope you are less tired and grumpy today teasle.

i might have caought it from you....have got to go to the dcos later for blood tests for iron levels and thyroid function and then arrange for an ECG as I've vbeen getting horrible palpitations that are getting worse.

pregnancy is shit sometime, it really is; I just feel like crying today for no real reason.

oh I remember, Daisy- especially with my third pregnancy, I was exhausted, and worked up until a couple of weeks before the birth. Partner wasn't around and it was really tough.

Have a cry lass. Its ok to have these feelings.
x

aw daisy, just think of your beautiful son growing inside you.

go and do something nice for yourself... cream cakes? soak in the bath?

mmmmm fresh cream meringue with fresh fruit is sounding good to me...will track one down when I'm out in a bit.

DD is driving me nuts today as well. She is really grumpy and getting into everything she shouldn't.....wipes, nappy bags, pulling stuff out of drawers...and ignoring all her toys that are strewn around the floor.

haha daisy i can beat that.

DS ripped the full bag out of the vacuum cleaner and emptied it all over the nicely hoovered floor, dug up my runner beans and wee-ed in three places around the house already (am potty training day 2 though so to be expected!).

get me a cream cake too please... with chocolate and caramel, no healthy fruit for me!

lol MM...I think I'd go nuts if DD did that! good job we have a dyson

she has also dug up lots of the garden veg, and pulls the tops of the onions, telling herself she is bad as she does it! Not sure she knows what bad means but she sure uses it a lot!

sorry i disappeared earlier, I had to rush off to the docs for blood tests!

hope the potty training goes better tomorrow.

Hello MMummy well done on your alcohol free days. I found it a nice motivating reminder that not drinking does make me feel better.

We go on holiday for a long weekend at the beginning of July to one of the haven resorts. It will be my first holiday away on my own with the kids. Feel a bit nervous about it as I will probably be surrounded by people drinking in the evenings. Don't want to lose my progress by thinking WTF I'm on holiday.

Feeling quite emotional just now so I am at my weakest.

Well done Purple your doing great!! All down to your own effort. Glad the date went well .

Sometimes it hard not to revert to old chains of thought - a few glasses of wine and all this crap will go away at least temporarily.

Know this is just one of the lies alcohol sells you but when feeling crap it's hard not to get sucked into it all again.

Jelli yes you're right- its the old thought patterns that do it for me too.
On the positive, you're recognising that, writing about it, and you know its all those sorts of things that happen before we actually pick a drink up.
That you have thought about the holiday is good too- you're planning ahead and personally I've found that really important.
Don't ever forget how well you are doing. x

Arf. DD1 has really sodded up the home computer - so using a stupid 128MB one here.

Just popping in to say hello really. Things here are well, apart from nearly losing the will to live with this pc LOL

Major reformatting jobbie tomorrow I think.

Hope everyone is doing well? x x x

Is anyone alive out there?

Can anyone hear me?

Drank on Saturday night. Bought a bottle of good quality red but still didn't enjoy it. Felt really pissed after 1 glass but I was determined I was going to drink the whole lot anyway.

Woke up on Sunday feeling feeling like I had been beaten around the head with a lump of wood. Poured the left over lager down the sink and went back to bed (did think about drinking it anyway - but decided to evict it before my hangover eased).

I wanted to wind down quicker,feel happier, that everything is ok. I know I should know this by now but drinking just does not work for me. Felt better Sunday evening but only because life without hangover felt better than life with.

So that's the update on me.

I've been caning the wine for a while now. It feels like I've been drinking for Britain and it feels crap.

I am no longer pregnant. I miscarried over the weekend, which in some ways is a great relief. Perhaps it is a pathetic excuse for drinking so much - hormones having crazy parties - so shall I.

The doctor today was very nice and I am so glad that I don't have to even think about a termination. Later in the week I am having a seroma drained. I have a build-up of fluid on my back where they took out the muscle to build my new boob. It feels like a sloshy hotwater bottle under my skin and it is quite uncomfortable.

I hope people are doing ok. Alcohol is such a false friend.

Oh blimey Bladebla. Can I just give you some gentle hugs? I don't know what to say.
Please try not to use the booze as a crutch. Easier said than done I know.

Life is a bit shit here too, alcohol is a nasty friend, a back stabber and leads you into all sorts of situations. All of them not good.

Still going with the reduction. Trying so hard to stay positive but after the past couple days of crap, I'm tempted to go on a bender, but that would wreck everything....and am in some deep shit so don't wanna jeopardise that.

My doc sent me a prescription for vitamin B tabs and Thiamins tabs, which I am pleased about. Another alcohol keyworker appt tomorrow.

Everyone else doing okay? x x x

HI everyone,

Bladebla- hope you just get through what sounds like an incredibly difficult time. Keep posting how things are going if it helps. You have so much to cope with and I'm in awe of you, even if YOU don't feel like you are doing very well, you have been through a really difficult year. Just try and be kind to yourself.

Hey Jelli- how are you doing?
Purple- keep hanging in there. I really understand how you want to go on a bender, but you are sooo right that it won't help anything will it? Actually, it makes everything worse, its just when life gets hard or we get fed up thats what we do isn't it?- reach for a drink to try and change how we feel.
Obviously, speaking for myself there.
That reflex of wanting a drink will probably always be there for me, but I can deal with that.(just)

Hope everyone else is good?

Could be around tonight if anyone fancies a chat?

BlaDeBla, I hope you are OK; also sending you some gentle {{{{{hugs}}}}}. This time will pass and you'll get back on track with the booze. Take care of yourself and be aware that these things can come back to haunt you when you least expect it. The miscarriage association have a good helpline of you feel you need to talk to someone about your experience. hope your wee op goes well and your body gets back to normal soon....hormones and all.

PO.....hang in there babes; you are doing a fantastci job of getting through this even if things seem to have taken a step back at the minute. I know you are worried about the EWO stuff, but surely the fact that you are seeking help will go in your favour. you know all about trying different diversionary tactics...time to pull out all the tricks you know to avoid that bender which you know won't help in the long run.....

we had a lovely weekend in Norfolk, and I'm keen to go back there at some point, but definately NOT to stay at Pontins....still it was a cheap weekend that we couldn't have afforded otherwise.

this is so not geting the housework done or unpacking and Dd has disappeared and has gone very quiet...she will be guddling in the cats water bowl I bet!

Hi teasle

sorry to both of you; that post was a bit rushed and sounds a bit preachy rather than motivational/aspirational

We're in Norfolk, Daisy! Where have you been? We used to be in North Norfolk by the Broads, but we're now in South Norfolk, just south of Norwich.