Love, Love Will Pear Us ATart, Again - 10 / 10 splinter thread

[FrannyandZooey]

Do what you like

It's anarchy

trying to imagine pokey

It's true ur.. I think when abroad / in a new place all one really needs is one very good female friend who "gets" you. Everything flows from there, the confidence with new faces, someone to offload on, someone to back up your judgement or tell you it's crap. Soemone to completely be yourself with, moan about children etc. But it's not always easy to find that person.

pokey kisser UR

cunts

My rule of thumb is if someone says crap or fuck by the second time I've met them they might be alright.

so greensleeves, my new best mate

It's not easy to find that person. Especially when your friends are culturally different.

Stuffit, it's probably best not to try and imagine. I was going to try and describe it but decided better and will spare you the details

bero you sopund a bit down

its hardly a consolation but i have hardly seen anyone this week

and no one at all socially since i saw bf ;last weekend

Greensleeve

Greensleeves

it's everyone else's loss zippi

It's funny, UR, that (as I said) two of my closest RL friends are British and the other is not actually Britlish but was brought up absolutely steeped in British culture and very English in a lot of ways. I don't think it's just about the shared cultural reference points either.

I don't actually have much company from day to day. Living as we did for a few years in an area of Germany where we never really felt comfortable, being a SAHM, WAHM and WOHM all at once (at that time sole breadwinner, university teacher of English language/culture with periods of almost no work and then ridiculously overloaded ones) and really disliking it, feeling bad for ds1 even though I was giving him as much of myself as I possibly could - led to me just getting into a habit of being in our little world, focusing on it being ds1-and-me, and being in just-to-pay-the-bills jobs (i.e. far from my actual passion) have blunted my edge a bit. I have so many sparkling ideas and plans, and I have a clearish idea of how I would like to live but have got very tired and turned inwards somehow.

if you need the time i'd say it's worth a try

I have been posting so slowly.

Avi, can you give it a go for a day?

Bero, you have a very little one and I am sure that doesn't help with things. You sound overwhelmed. I think having a clear idea of what you want is good. It's hard when you can't make it happen easily though.

There are too many threads for me to cope with.

night bero
hope you sleep well

whats going on? I dunno you spend time away and then....

Shall I talk about non veg items in a subversive manner?

I had homemade CHIPS and BURGERS and ICE CREAM

mwahahahahah

there was salad MAYO

I had lots of one piece of fudge to help with marking.

i'm drinking flat coke, hoping the sugar will keep up another while....

hello bero. no gut-wrenching, you lovely, lovely woman. hope you are feeling more chipperer by now, it was aaages ago.

morning,

am doing x-rays and waiting in hospitals today as it seems more and more likely that ds has broken his wrist.

He thinks this is 'cool'.

I will take him to the garden centre for lunch afterwards. Is that okay you think? Treaty but not elaborate?

Have a good day veggers.

UR, you are right, he is so little still - we just expect so much of ourselves, don't we? And here's me thinking I see through and am immune to all this cultural pressure stuff.

I did sleep well (thank you stuffit), and we are going out now to a new specially-for-little-ones playground in a very cool, trendy and (as the Germans say) child-rich area near us. I am dreading the sand (any Germans lurking: what is it with German playgrounds and sand? Using it as a surface over the whole playground?) but ds1 should enjoy himself.