Poor BBBee, but none of us are up at 1.30 you know, it's no good shouting where are you all because we are all in bed. You must come and see us earlier!
Bero - glad you had a nice weekend. I hope you feel better soon too. It is very easy to feel ignored on mnet but usually this is outweighed by the general support and laughs and stuff.
Don't let them pay every time, Franny, or there is the power thing of it appearing as if you are asking them to buy you lunch, and they say lets eat in, and it seems as though you are being petulant and saying, no, I want an expensive lunch. You are probably eating it now wherever you are but next time, absolutely do not stand for your sister ringing you and saying next time you have to eat at yours. I mean, wtf? What is it to do with your sister where you eat lunch, why has there been a discussion about it, and why is it such a big deal?
Families are very strange. My mother is the opposite to that, she would just arive and wait to be offered something, although, post-op, she did make her own coffee.
I said, you know, mum, everyone who has visited has offered to do a little job or made some lunch or something and she says, oh gawd, I can't even do me own, and then carries on chatting about whatever. You have to laugh really.
My MIL was the control freak, every last little detail, every arrangement, visit and so on. She has been dead two years and I can still feel her looking at me disaprovingly.