Love, Love Will Pear Us ATart, Again - 10 / 10 splinter thread

[FrannyandZooey]

Do what you like

It's anarchy

zippi, when did he become a BF rather than some man you are seeing?

well he is still in the wavering departmnt i think you will have to look it nup on mn for the qnswer i doubt i am his girlfriend i see we are bith single on facebook

yes, of course, UR, I was thinking you had sphoisticated cheese tastes as a child, mine only really like cheddar! I forgot you knew this area. We nearly went to walsingham today actually, but the sea won the vote. I thought maybe the bluebells would still be out but dh reckons they're finished now.

zippi - Oh, well, would you enjoy going away on your own. I think I would like it in some ways.

I have sophisticated taste in cheese now, MrsC! Sadly, I live in a country full of cheese philistines who eat 'domestic' brie and plastic waxy 'cheddar' when they are being more adventurous than the good old American cheese slice of processed orange tasteless goo

I will catch up with woody goings-on when I have Time.

I can't sleep, ds2 keeps waking. My neck is painful and my throat less so, I feel well, ds1 is 3, ds2 is christened (cried at Solemn Moment), everyone had a fab weekend, Ellbell and her family are lovely.

I like the wolf man in the woods - I think he was doing a special speel of fruitfulness and bounty but he has bad vision and you looked a bit like his sister so he did staring and now you think he is a pervert.

can I put out another shout for "we eat lots of vegetables and fruit it is nice"?

I never talk to anyone these days as I am only on here at stupid times.

how is carrot?

Bbbeeeeeee you are up far too late. Again.

I vote for your title.

Bee he so was a pervert
he was lying in a heap of wooden cocks wearing a ruddy great wolf pelt and he LEERED

the title is getting more complicated
it used to be 'we eat fruit. It is nice'. That had a certain simplicity

I think I need more of a consensus on titles before I take the plunge here
let me know chaps, pref soon as my mother is coming in a couple of hours

melon, grapes, banana, raisins
ds making noises of great joy while eating the melon

Yes, lets have a plain title then, why not fruit and vegetables or we eat it or whatever

mango, passion fruit, grapes and kiwi with granola and yoghurt.

300 quid? how come?

just for the day avi
we have had a major power struggle already over lunch - she always likes to eat here and she has very specific ideas about what we have to eat and how we have to sit at the table and have it all laid out formally
I just cannot be arsed and have said we are going out for lunch
she has said "but I am going to bring all the food and do everything"
yeah right
it takes me bleeding ages to get all the stuff out and clear up, and I am constantly getting up and down during the meal to fetch more things, and I just can't do it atm
(I have already moaned to Boco about this so please skip all this Boco)
in the end I said "PLEASE can you work around me on this one occasion" so we are going out, but she is not happy about it
last time I did this she got my sister to ring me up and say we had to eat here!
ffs
anyway
it's just for one day

god, what a nightmare, Franny, stick to your guns. Why on earth do you have to eat at yours? My MIL was like this, it was always abut control and the fact that she felt she had to have the goddamn last matriarchal word. Pah.

oh, I have stuck to them, but I know she will have told everyone I am being a PITA about this pg and expecting everyone to run around after me

I look back now and she used to do the same thing when ds was little - we used to have to sit down and have these formal buffet lunches at the table - I KNOW probably most people eat like that every day, but we don't - we put our food on a plate and go and sit down with it - job done
I remember being STARVING bfing ds and having these meals where I was constantly hopping up and down getting things and passing stuff to ds - who of course wanted everything in sight - and not getting enough to eat myself - and my mother going "well i can see why you are so skinny ha ha ha"
and wtf did I not just say 'this is stupid'
oh yes because there is NO POINT trying to get things the way you want with her
she just raises the ante
oh god sorry huge rant about petty crap please ignore
I hate it all though

Strength, Franny

MrsC - take things a day at a time - no over-thinking - acceptance will come when ready. Rest is needed now

You are all ignoring me. I know I have been very tiresome moaning about trivialities , but

sorry anyway titles
yes do the plain one
does someone fancy doing it?

who's ignoring you bero?
the thread moves quite fast sometimes, I don't think we always get responses to all our posts
sorry you are feeling

sorry I just felt talked over the last 3 or 4 times I've been on here to report progress of big weekend, and I thought I would say it rather than passively-aggressively staying away or some such nonsense. Which of course leaves you all free to say 'but you are DULL, bero'. Which I may well be.

Hmm, well in that case, you have to think, stuff what she tells everyone else, you are about to have a baby and you want to go out for
lunch. End of.

You feel like getting out of the house.

You would like to eat out while you get the chance as it will be harder with the baby.

You don't want to tidy up or ask her to to tidy
up, it will be easier to go to a cafe.

Can you afford to buy her lunch? Extra tactics there, I woule like to buy you lunch mother...

sorry, Bero, it is quite easy to miss what people say, especially if you are having a conversation, sometimes there are three or four going at once. No-one will be ignoring you, stand up and shout it if it's missed!

sorry to hear that bero
I am sure no-one is purposely ignoring you
I can't speak for others but I know the thread is usually too long for me to respojnd to every poster so I just reply to any questions asked directly of me and share my news, then perhaps talk about anything that particularly jumped out at me

I don't think this is a cliquey thread but obviously there are posters on here I know particularly well and I am likely to end up talking to them more, as my time is limited
that is the way of things isn't it

yes i do need to think stuff it about what she tells other people
and stuff how she is cold and disapproving about it
but it's hard isn't it
and it goes on and on
last time I said "I find this really hard work can we go out for lunch instead" and was really appreciative when we did, and said "I have enjoyed it so much more, it has really made a huge difference to the whole day and I have felt really relaxed and looked forward to it"
that was when she got my sister to ring next time and say we had to eat here in future
I just feel so kind of helpless

we couldn't afford to pay for them every time but we could take turns - and I always offer - but they insist on paying - which does make it trickier
it just adds more power play in, doesn't it?

oh, of course. it was by no means about you or anyione particularly. Just I felt like nobody at all was responding