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Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support IV

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lackaDAISYcal · 07/04/2008 00:07

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jellibabe · 15/04/2008 20:27

The dentist seems to be a bit of a recurrent theme here. I had an appointment last week and have to go back for root canal treatment (yuk). Was prescribed antibiotics. "You can't drink alcohol on these" the assistant warned me. Cared not a jot - first time it's ever seemed like a positive advantage.

dandycandyjellybean · 15/04/2008 20:28

Hello, gerbrajess, thanks, things are better now, although I do feel as though I've been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. And well done on the smoke free front.

Am pre-drink, just...apologies for my very self centred post last night, but was in a mess.

oifoif, can't beleive your mother, how crass and insensitive can you get? But you are a solid gold, diamond hero for not giving in under that kind of pressure and temptation...polish that halo!!! also kinda like the picture idea....NOT!!! no it would be good, if only i could actually achieve an after!

Jellibabe, love the liberation you're feeling.

Purpleone keep posting, it helps.

Dinny, i too had fairly mega eating issues, going back to about 12 right into my late 20's early 30's. Bit like the old alcoholic thing, don't think you can ever let up, I still feel the need to be vigilant about my thinking around dieting, eating, etc. Am really interested to know how you get on....know what you mean about the sod it attitude, i eat really healthily and sensibly as a matter of course during the day but when I'm drinking i eat all manner of crap, and even if i eat healthy food i eat way too much.

Teasle, well done for staying sober especially when you're struggling.

Brassic, I'm really, really proud of you for coming on here and saying that. And I think you are doing really well and the right thing for you atm. Sounds like your therapist knows what s/he is doing. Brave, brave Brassic, keep you chin up.

Kokeshi, way to post big, babe! Tell me you cut and paste some of that and didn't just come up with it off the top of your head?!! And as usual loads and loads of sense.

Right, am off to check on the syrup sponge pudding i've got bubbling in the oven for dh. xxxx it feels good to be back.

gerbrajess · 15/04/2008 21:08

Glad you're okay Cubby!
Gerbra x

teasle · 15/04/2008 22:46

Good to see you back cubby.

Thanks everyone for kind words. Thats life I guess, sometimes it is a bit hard, and I suppose 'drink' is my default setting, as it were.
But hey, I'm glad to be sober, as they say. Good to see people posting too. x

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:01

Anyone about at this late moment in time?

BrassicMonkey · 16/04/2008 01:12

I'm about gerbra. You ok?

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:17

Hey brassic - feel pissed and stupid tonight...
How are yoU?

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:18

forgot to say...as per...

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:19

...I mean 'as per' me - not you!!
x

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:20

oh gawd - am drunk...

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:28

I 100% swear - I did not talk about wooden worktops when under the influence...(Good Housekeeping section) - I did though - no one's answered me...)

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 01:34

Just been watching the most horrible programme on making 'staffies', 'pitbulls' fighters... The terrier 'steal rate' round here for dog fighting is huge...

BrassicMonkey · 16/04/2008 03:24

Sorry Gerbra. I forgot that I'd posted and went away to sort some laudry. I'm sure you're asleep by now anyway.

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 08:12

Oh god...
woke up on sofa, TV on, with glass of wine on table next to me (feel rank rank rank).
Now have day to fret until DP comes home from work and asks - ????
Dont know what happened - one minute i was posting and the next ... well...

Oh god...feel awful...

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 08:14

I'm cringing looking at my posts last night...they don't make sense

FWIW I did post in good housekeeping on wooden worktops - but no one answered!

Off to crawl under a rock now...

dandycandyjellybean · 16/04/2008 11:19

Don't crawl under a rock, honey, I've done some really cringe worthy things whilst pissed, falling asleep on the settee aint even on the radar!!! Your posts made sense to me, even the one in GH, not even any typos! Stop worrying woman! Today is another day, as we all say on here. {{{hugs}}}

I drank one large rum and a bottle of wine, and I am actually chuffed with this . Mainly coz I didn't give in the the enormous urge to go and buy gin, which I would have poured down my throat, and also because I drank slowly and steadily and was totally compus mentus when i went to bed. I actually remember going to bed, listening to the radio for a bit before I fell asleep, etc, which is the first time for a long time. I also had a good nights sleep, kind of. When I'm really drunk, I sleep very heavily...someone on here commented about less sleep but more quality, and that's how it felt last night. I woke up quite a lot, but got back off to sleep okay, and slept well. So, baby steps. I am going to try and maintain this mindset for a week or so, then attempt an alcohol free night. Just one. I have been using a very slow, babysteps technique to address some other unhealthy habits in my life and establish some newer, healthier ones. it really is working, so I thought I would try it with this too. What about everyone else, how are you all doing? Teasle, really know what you mean about drink being your default setting....so well done for staying sober.

It's really helping to make myself talk before I drink each night...thanks for being there. xxx

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 12:47

thanks cubbie - i'm still half under the rock but you've cheered me up! (I do a lot of proofreading in my work so I always check for typos - even when pissed!)

Well done you for getting things sorted - slow and steady I reckon is the best way. Interesting to read what you say about sleeping - that's one of my major problems when not drinking.

Had eating problems dating back years which I managed to get (just about) under control 4 years ago or so. Had a filthy smoking habit until Monday so am working on staying smoke-free at the moment.

After that, I'll address the drinking...

An addict's work is never done! (quite depressing )

Hi everyone else - sorry for hijacking the thread last night with pissed nonsense

Gerbra x

gerbrajess · 16/04/2008 12:48

p.s. no one on here is a wooden worktop expert are they?

oiFoiF · 16/04/2008 16:35

I have a wooden worktop gebra, wha do you want to know? not than I am an expert mind...

brassic, how are you finding CBT? does it help/work? and is it expensive?

BrassicMonkey · 16/04/2008 16:53

Aww Gerbra. Don't be embarrassed about your posts last night. I feel really bad that I encouraged you to chat and then sodded off and forgot to come back. On the Making An Arse of Yourself scale, that doesn't even register

Hi Fio. The CBT is really good. It's come at the right time for me, as for the past year I've practicing 'confessing' things on here, at AA and with a few people from here offboard. I don't think I'd have been ready for it without the build-up. It probably is expensive, but I've got these sessions through the Community Alcohol Team on the NHS. I'm really impressed with the help I'm getting at the moment. I'm not being rushed either. On Monday I spent over an hour discussing strategies for dealing with DS's tantrums and obsessions (he's autistic). I apologised at the end of the session for using her time up on non-alcohol related stuff, but she just said that I'd obviously brought to the session what I needed to talk about. It probably will get more intense and uncomfortable after I do the detox though.

Thanks for asking How long has it been since you drank now?

kokeshi · 16/04/2008 18:55

Wow thread is really active, this is great. Just posting to say hello, I'm feeling a bit run down myself so that's why I've not been on much. I have been lurking though and reading about everyone's progress.

I had a lung infection which would have been treated by penicillin but I am allergic to it, so the GP decided to leave it to clear up on its own. Anyway, it got worse and I handed in another sputum sample (blee) and they called this afternoon. Apparently the first infection has got worse, and now I have a second infection. Waaaaaaaaah.

I'm sure I never caught anything when I was drinking. Sure, my liver was hanging out my arse and I looked like I'd been tangoed, but apart from that I was bug free. Maybe I was uninhabitable!

kokeshi · 16/04/2008 18:56

I think it's really brave of all of those who are still posting when things aren't going so well. It takes a lot of courage to be this honest.

oiFoiF · 16/04/2008 19:37

poor you kokeshi Weirdly I developed pneumonia after I gave up drinking a few years ago (after i had an awful bout of alcohol poisoning) I had given up for months, was having counselling, was losing weight blah blah blah never felt better and then I caught the flu and within a week I had pneumonia! Typical isnt it? But I hope you feel better soon x I am also allergic to penicilin so i had to have these tablets that were 'new' and looked big enough to be suppositries. They did work though but I cant for the life of me remember what they were called.

BM I have only been 'completely' sober for a week. But had only started drinking again a few weeks ago, before that I had been off it for almost a year with only very 'light' drinking on 'special' occassions. It just goes to show though that i cannot cope with any kind of drinking and maybe its best if I just stay off it altogether. Well this is really honest for me, so maybe I should slink off again

and last night i was so stressed and as a complete non smoker i smoked one of dhs fags and it made me lightheaded so i think i need to stay away from them aswell

I just wish i could stop fancying a wine

dandycandyjellybean · 16/04/2008 21:03

Hi everyone, kokeshi, sorry you're feeling so crap, mmm sputum samples!!! You poor thing, you must really be suffering . I really hope things improve for you soon. As always, you were the one that gave me the (gentle) kick up the arse to get back here, and i'm grateful that you did.

Although tonight this is the first chance i've had to post as someone else has been hogging the puty I am still feeling relatively 'in control' of what i'm drinking. tonight it is gin, which I felt able to purchase today, and see if i could drink it without pouring it down my throat, so far so good. The baby step thing really seems to be helping. I am taking my ds to my sisters tomorrow for a 2 night sleepover with his cousins Ellen 10, Florence 8. He is so excited...as am I. Once i'm back home i'm off to superdrug to get me a face mask and some exfoliation stuff and some fake tan and a new nail varnish and some scrummy bubble bath and i'm really going to spoil myself. I also purchased a couple of 25ml bottles of cava tonight, which is a real favourite tipple of mine for a treat, but can't just have one glass (it'll lose its fizz....!!!!) and have to finish the bottle. So thought it would be nice to just have the one glass, without feeling like i had to finish a whole bottle. (although of course i will be finishing a whole bottle, but ykwim!!!)

Brassic, your cbt sounds really good, hope it helps once you start your detox, am really, really rooting for you.

oifoif, you are doing so well......i too wish i could stop fancying wine.....gin.....beer.......rum......that crusty old bottle of sherry at the back of the pantry that's been there since we moved in....................

Hang in all, will try and post again tonight. xxx

teasle · 16/04/2008 21:46

HI Kokeshi . Nice image of your liver hanging out your arse. Difficult to wear trousers I presume- sort of a sling type affair was it at the time?

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