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Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support IV

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lackaDAISYcal · 07/04/2008 00:07

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justwaterformethanks · 22/04/2008 19:15

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!!!
thats the sort of night im having ,will see you all tomorrow

oiFoiF · 22/04/2008 20:17

bottlebin, well done. Its bloody hard in the co-op atm as they are having a bloody 'wine festival' I went in earlier for chicken and there was wine wine wine everywhere

luckily I have been a good girl

BrassicMonkey · 22/04/2008 21:44

Oh God, I hate that Fio. They often do a multisave offer on Smirnoff in Tesco and it really gets to me. I only have to go near the booze aisle for lunch box drinks now and I usually send DS down there to pick up what he wants.

CBT was really hard today. I felt lighter after my last session, but tonight I feel churned up and a bit desperate.

I'm back on Thursday morning for a pre-detox session. Then next week I start the actual detox. The week after we move on to group therapy and CBT sessions. That will mean being at the hospital 4 times a week for a month or so. I'm getting really scared now about how I'll cope with this. I'm already finding the sessions hard and I have a week to recover from them. Next week it's going to be intensive...to say the least.

Anyone else want to share about counselling and therapy?

sillytilly · 22/04/2008 22:17

I'm having a hideous evening - dd has had probs with a girl at school for most of this year and has just said she can't play with about 10-12 girls in the class as this girl says she can't join in

this kind of thing would usually have me reaching for some vino - have got an alcohol-free Becks instead

dreading tomorrow, think we'll see the head - I'm so pathetic, I know I will cry

gerbrajess · 22/04/2008 22:34

Brassic - so sorry you felt bad after today's session?- do you think it's because there's more to come - and more intensive by the sounds of it? Or was it questions you were asked but not comfortable answering?

My year of counselling was quite a while ago now, but I do remember it did get worse before it got better. Throughout the first few months I was binging and boozing my head off but I think this was almost expected from me at the start of the sessions while I worked through reasons why I was doing it.

I don't actually think mine were CBT as I wasn't exactly given alternative ways to deal with things, more given a chance to talk about what I was feeling and why I might be using alcohol and food to deal with things.

You're only human to feel scared about next week . I wish I could be more constructive and helpful but even though it will definitely be difficult, I'm sure it won't be as difficult as you think...it always helps me to think about what I want the end result to be - it somehow makes the process of getting there a little easier...

Hope everyone else is well?

Dilly I bought that redbush tea you mentioned and it's lovely stuff!
Hope you get things sorted at school tomorrow - it must be horrid to feel helpless - I reckon you're doing the right thing seeing the head if it's upset your DD.

I'm on night 2 sober . Can't decide whether I'm feeling together about it or not! Saw a trailer for the apprentice tomorrow and an image of a glass of wine popped into my head - that's the kind of trigger I've got to try and break.

On that note I'm off to bed to try and sleep - this is the worst point of the night for me.

Take care everyone

Gerbra x

gerbrajess · 22/04/2008 22:37

Sorry brassic - put question mark in wrong place in first line - makes sentence look rather odd!

Definitely time for bed I think!

Gerbra x

gerbrajess · 22/04/2008 22:43

Dilly? DiNNY - sorry!!

gerbrajess · 22/04/2008 22:44

Dinny? SILLYTILLY - man alive - I'm not even drunk!

sillytilly · 22/04/2008 22:46

oooh, I may have to become Dilly....

stay off the lemmo, Gerbra!

jellibabe · 22/04/2008 22:54

Home from the lions den now. Thanks everyone for your sympathetic thoughts.

Feel very isolated at work. After last weeks annual leave, predictably I have come back to an overflowing intray and everything is a either urgent or a priority.

Unable to delegate any of the work to so it's a case of what am I going to get into the least shit for not doing? If volume of work is anything to go by the rest of the week going to be hell and next week doesn't look good either. I hate crying at work. It makes me feel pathetic and weak.

Off tomorrow as my car is really ill and needs urgent attention from a qualified mechanic. The dashboard is flashing like fairy lights.

Juggling work, life and kids is so tough.

Stripteasle · 22/04/2008 22:58

It IS tough, and you are doing a brilliant job at handling it all... remember that. x

BrassicMonkey · 22/04/2008 23:05

LOL Gerbra. Thanks for your post. I was feeling really self-pitying earlier. I'm not really being asked many questions. I have weekly homework assignments and they don't mean a lot to me when I'm doing them, but she gets hold of them and she turns into Mystic Meg. Stuff that I thought was meaningless is like secret code to her, and she gets it right every time and it's like a kick in the teeth to be confronted with it.

I'm really sorry. I must have missed your post today about staying sober last night. Good for you - how's the sleeping going?

Dinny - good luck for tomorrow. It really hurts to see your DC excluded, I know. I hate crying in public too. I hope you hear something positive tomorrow and get some reassurance

Stripteasle · 22/04/2008 23:06

Hey BM

BrassicMonkey · 22/04/2008 23:07

X posted with you jelli. Work does sound shit for you at the moment.

We're all fighting back the tears on here tonight

jellibabe · 22/04/2008 23:10

Brassic I was at the clinic today after a neckbreaking drive from work to get there in time. Was so stressed out by today that by the time I got there I just spewed out anything that was in my head. Not even sure it was suppose to be a counselling session but the poor guy wasn't given a chance. My head still feels scrambled tonight. The only clear thought I had was that things would be a hundred times worse with a hangover.

Gerbra well done for resisting all that wine. Perhaps your partner would consider storing it out of eyeshot in the garage? Everything helps.

Habitual I am scared to drink again too. Don't think I could stop if I start. The way I feel just now it would become some sort of liquid selfharm.

Stripteasle · 22/04/2008 23:12

Jelli you have been doing SO well, you really have- you must be knackered tonight- what a long day.

jellibabe · 22/04/2008 23:22

Thanks Teasle

Find that everyones shared experiences and support on this thread really helps. I don't feel so alone.

My mind is in overdrive tonight so I'm going to stay up for a while.

BrassicMonkey · 22/04/2008 23:38

I'm like that at my councelling sessions as well Jelli (I know it's different because they are counselling sessions, but I don't really know what I'm supposed to be doing). I think I get so anxious about what's expected of me that I start mentally listing topics and reminding myself of all my issues way before I arrive - I get in there and just explode. I come out feeling better (usually), but I do wonder if my therapist thinks I'm a jibbering idiot.

When do you go back again?

jellibabe · 22/04/2008 23:52

I go back in 4 weeks. It's precautionary more than anything else. Not confident of continual sobriety yet. Still as time goes on it does feel easier to maintain.

jellibabe · 22/04/2008 23:58

Am only just keeping it all together as it is so to start drinking again would be pretty destructive.

BrassicMonkey · 23/04/2008 00:01

Over-confidence isn't a great thing anyway IMpersonalE.

If you're back at work tomorrow, hope you have a better day. You sound really conscientious btw

jellibabe · 23/04/2008 00:02

Night x

glowwormish · 23/04/2008 06:00

Hell don't knowwhat to say. Am teetering. DOn;t get time to get on the net really, only when I wake early, mind buzzing.
I am disgusted at human kind and this lottery mentality. Everyone seems to be out for what they can get. Being in business is vicious. Are there any nice, decent people out there? Sorry this thread seems like the only support I get and you don;t even know me.
I am sick to death of it. We're all on our own, no-one around us in a new area, don't get time to socialize. I am dreaming of having a nice house in a nice area (not this shit hole) doing normal stuff with my kids who don;t have to go into full time nursery. I would like to be able to go to yoga and cook good food for my family. I would like a little herb garden and to grow some veg.
Words cannot express how difficult life is at the moment and i seriously worry about my and my dp's health through acute stress.

glowwormish · 23/04/2008 06:08

Jesus wher can I get some help

sillytilly · 23/04/2008 07:27

Gloworm, you still there?

so sorry life is so rough for you atm. what is your business in? you sound so stressed. what area do you live in? D x

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