Hand hold while I wait for ambulance for daughter

[StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance]

Currently waiting for an ambulance for my daughter. Been sent as category 3. She's not been right for a few days now, not eating, not drinking, just laying slumped on her bed. This morning she collapsed in the bathroom and went really pale.

She has a learning disability and complex mental health problems so she can't tell me what is wrong as she doesn't verbally communicate when she feels unwell.

She was in hospital a couple of weeks back due to an infection (see previous threads) so I hope it's nothing to do with that.

I'm so worried, I feel sick.

@StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance sadly to cover themselves

There's no chance my daughter would have got in a taxi.

I've had numerous health professionals tell me she needs to go into hospital and with her condition she needs full support to get there. Usually the paramedics are amazing but this lot weren't.

111 always send ambulances most people refuse them and find their own way there. But obviously in your case its different due to your daughters disabilities however if the paramedics didn't help get her out the house anyway and she just walked out she could of just walked out to a taxi but you will know for another time

Some of the people on this thread should watch the bbc program ambulance. I’d say 90% of their calls are not category 1 immediate threat to life calls.

@StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance

i really hope your daughter feels better soon . My son vomitted faecal fluid ( spelt wrong I imagine ) when he was younger and had xray and enema . Just still think ambulance isn’t right option . I suppose what is though ?

I was just thinking that. And they're all far more understanding that the paramedics here, and some of the posters on here.

The ambulance was appropriate because the OP is just assuming it is constipation. She collapsed earlier, sounds more or less non verbal and has been unwell for days. Give the poor woman a break and stop assuming you know better based on a few words.

I really hope she's ok and you followed the advice of 111 who sent the ambulance but I can also see the other side of the paramedic who may be missing calls out to people with heart attacks, choking, strokes, RTA's etc... so I wouldn't put a complaint in, just look after your DD and I really do hope she's ok

I would complain based on their refusal to help. In past experiences the OP hasn't been able to move her, so for her safety she should have been helped. What if she'd collapsed again and they'd both tumbled down the stairs while her mum tried to move her alone?

That’s why they’re overstretched.

I think the paramedics could have handled it differently but can also see their point of view and they probably think it’s valid now that OP and her daughter got themselves into the ambulance without the help of the paramedics. Presumably they didn’t have to perform any treatment en route so it could have been a taxi after all (to their minds)

Hope shes on the mend soon

Well no. The nhs had to do a whole campaign reminding people unless you were in a life threatening emergency situation to not call an ambulance. It might be very important for someone to get to hospital without requiring an ambulance. If you can wait for 8 hours and walk the patient to the car then that's not a life threatening emergency situation. Just because it's difficult to get them there doesn't mean they require paramedics.

I do empathise with op. The worry makes you do whatever you can. However when I worked in a gp, a guy spent 3 hours lying down waiting for an ambulance because he'd had a heart attack. The issue is worsened as people are using them for non emergency situations.

@Barrenfieldoffucks they took her to hospital what more action could have been done

But it's not a paramedics job to assist someone to the hospital, its their job to provide life saving treatment on the way to the hospital.

If they don't need that, they shouldn't be called really

Doctor just examined her and she is going to be admitted.

I'm also not going to feel guilty using an ambulance as I had no other means to get her here and it was recommended by numerous professionals who know my daughter.

Can people please take their ambulance debate elsewhere? I'm really stressed about my daughter and really don't need telling that I was wasting peoples time.

I’d be minded to send in a complaint - or constructive feedback on your paramedic experience. I

@BusyMummyWrites01 complaint culture

Hope shes better soon

I posted in the health section for support from other mums, hence my post containing the words 'hand hold'.

Your a&e department is right on the ball. Triaged, blood results, speaking to a dr and being admitted all in under 2 hrs on on a Saturday evening thats amazing

My goodness. The Mumsnet horrors are out tonight. OP - hope your daughter gets a diagnosis and treatment starts soon. Fingers crossed for you.

@Differentstarts They are brilliant tonight, not too busy. Came in a couple of weeks ago and there were people on trolleys in the hallways.

Thank you and also thank you to the other people who have been caring and supportive. It is appreciated.

I don't understand why people have to be so horrible.