ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

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I'm in tears thinking about Steve's tears, it's heartbreaking love, even though I have never met you.

Me, my mum and my sister scattered my dad's ashes in the park where they met as teenagers, we did it surreptitiously in a lovely quiet corner with lots of heathers/alpines in a sort of rock garden with benches in it. Mum wants to be scattered there too but hopefully that won't be for a v long time

I went to see a dear friend today whose dh and child were killed in a plane crash last summer. Me and the girls asked her if we could go to the grave with her soon and plant some flowers - there are lots already but the girls really want to feel part of it. Last time we went up there they left a tiny plastic pig and dinosaur, which our friend noticed immediately of course

sorry to sound so maudlin, but your words re: the allotment made me think of these special places, xx

Thinking of you OJ xx

I think we should start a MN collection and have Steve's ashes made into a diamond for OJ to wear everyday. Afterall, Steve is her diamond

Sending you lots of love OJ. You are an inspiration! xxx

OJ, so sorry that Steve was in so much pain today. It must have been upsetting to see him so distressed. It was good that you were there at the time and that you were able to comfort him by holding him in your arms. It doesn't take the pain away but the touch of someone you love speaks volumes and I'm sure was able to somewhat sooth Steve's discomfort. Good that the girls now know about Steve as well and you don't have to worry about you or Elliot letting slip accidentally.

Are the blinds in place? That would be the finishing touch for Steve's home coming. I pray it will be next week. I can't believe they are niggling about costs at a point when Steve's condition seems to be deteriorating.

Much love to you. I am around tomorrow night if you fancy a chat. xxx

Hope they can make Steve more comfortable soon.

x

OJ, poor Steve, thank goodness you were there to hug him tighter.

I don't know if you remember me telling you that my friend has recently been diagnosed with a large number of brain tumours? She's currently having chemo but her outlook isn't good. When I read what you're going through with Steve I can't help but think that she and her dh might have to go through this in a few months.

Hi Oj,
I am sorry Steve was in so much pain today, so sorry for you, xxxx
Our news was not what we wanted to hear, I am sitting here shaking. The biopsy was maligant, the growth was in the bowel. The ct scan has shown it has spread to his liver, there are 3 small lesions. We were devastated to hear that, he goes into hospital on the 22nd April to remove the primary tumour, followed by 3 months of chemo, folowed by further surgery at Kings in London to remove the three lesions, this is our little bit of hope, as they are all in a part of the liver that can be cut away. That wil be followed by 3 further months of chemo, then we hope and pray it will all be ok. Its very hard to take it all in, the kids still do not know, but now will have to be told something. Life is a real bummer isn`t it?

OJ, I'm so sorry they are keeping you waiting like this XXX
Thinking of you all, as ever. I hope you can keep your allotment if possible. Sending you lots of love and echoing bundy's lovely post about special places being where you find them.
Triplets, I hope you don't mind my asking...is this your dh? I'm so desperately sorry to hear this news XXX

Hi Marina, yes it is...........its been along time since you and I met up.

Its funny but Harry has an allotment too, he is worried now that he still has potatoes to plant and will need to get them in before the op.

Oh, Triplets Wishing you both all the luck and love in the world in fighting this.

Hi, not really posted before in the health thread until I needed some advice earlier in the week and I stumbled upon this thread. Have read it a couple of times this week and just felt compelled to drop in and say I feel to both OJ and Triplets for what you and your respective families are going through. You will all be in my prayers x

Thank you xxx

triplets
I thought and worried about you all yesterday, fingers were crossed and postive vibes were sent, I am sad and gutted for you all. I will offer support wherever I can as you have done for me.
You are probably still in shock be as kind as you can to yourselves.
the treatment plan will give you something to focus on and make you feel that you are doing something.
I dont know much about Harrys type of cancer but I am guessing that lots of mumsnetters will know more.
Macmillan site has been good for us and the other people on there will be able to answer any questions you have.
sending you peace and hugs.
Oj.

OJ and triplets - wishing you both strength today.

gosh triplets,I'm so sorry, xxx

Love to you both, OJ & Triplets.

Love and best wishes to you both oj and triplets.xxx

Love to you both, lots of it, lots of good wishes too. Thinking of you lots xxx

i had a talk with the girls this morning, abbey was tearful cos she was sad about dad. i had told them in the week that dad wasn't ever going to get better.I Had to tell the girls today that dad was
going to die, both girls were tearful then elliot walked in the room and said why are you crying? i said they were said about dad, we all had a big hug and a cry, i am so proud of them.
Steve much more responsive today
He managed two trifles and a cup of strong tea.

{{{oj}}} do the girls understand do you think?

To oj and family - Thinking of you all xxx

yes i think they do understand, but they have no concept of time and i can't say when it will be, elliot asked if dad would be dead when it was his birthday (april) or his sisters birthday (june) i had to say i don't know.

Time does make it easier, OJ, they do get used to the idea, but it is so hard in the early syages, you have all my sympathy.

Mine are up and down a lot, dh has been quite rough lately, which brings it all back to them (and us)

O.J. love to you and your family my friend..x.x.x.x..x