ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

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Done!!

The girls will be 14 in june, elliot will be 11 next month. I don't know if Steve will still be with us then.
wats we had a great time thou I was a little nervous.

Morning OJ -hope you have had lots of Choccies & easter cuddles from your little ones & more later from Steve.

Glad you had a good visit with Steve and that his mother is at least being civil. you are being so strong and I hope Elliot is okay today. x

Happy Easter OJ and family.

I hadn't realised you had twins. Lovely.

If you want to talk, you have my email. Families!!

Hi Oj.............just wanted to send you love on Easter Sunday, hope the kids have had a lovely day, mine are abit fed up, weather is grim, very long day, too much chocolate! Do you have to travel far to visit Steve?

its an 18 mile trip.
went to seteve this morning with the kids we got him a thorntons egg with a message on it and lots of chocolates
Steves mum came whilst i had taken elliot to get us some drinks when i got back to steve the girls were sitting there with an easter egg each a buttons and a creme egg one and elliot was given an areo one, he wasn't very pleased as he only likes caburys, gran looked somewhat annoyed that he didn't like his egg and i did feel a bit awkward for her, but can't help thinking that after all these years she still doesn't "get" autism still doesn't understand how rigid the kids are in what they like
she said the other week that she didn't know that elliot liked thomas the tank engine i mean he has only liked thomas for 8 years

i think the social story might be helpful to the girls but i would probably need to break it down a bit rather than do it all in one go.
elliot has been asking about his dad for a long time, the girls never ask.

Do you think the girls know but don't want it said out loud?

no the girls have no idea, it will be a massive shock for them and i really need to tell them but don't know if to do it separatly or together, i am thinking together cos beth is better at talking and abbey can listen and will take stuff in.

[big kiss]

OJ I don't know what to say but I just wanted to add my suport. I think you're amazing. Thinking of you all xx

Oh Oj, you truly are an inspiration to us all, despite everything, you still seem to keep a mischievious sense of humour, I think it helps, certainly has sustained me in the last 14 years. May need it in the weeks to come, a very anxious time, my three have no idea whats been going on.

OJ - thinking of you. I sympathise with Elliot - I only like Cadburys eggs too

Oj, glad you & the kids got some time along with Steve before his mum arrived. I hope today wasn't too tough for you. As for an understanding about autism, I don't think your MIL will ever 'get it'. As I said to you before it is sadly her loss. xxx

I think telling both together is right. They can comfort each other too.

Well most of the time i can find something to smile or laugh about. sometimes i have to search hard to find those things.
triplets sorry you have a lot to deal with at the moment, thankyou for thinking of us.
Izabella i know you are right it will be steves mums loss, she doesn't really know our 3 kids, her other 4 grankids have degrees so they, get taken to spain every year and lots of other stuff that luckily our 3 don't notice.

Oj as ever you amaze me, you are such a great wife and mother you know.
i don't quite know how you do it and with such dignity and humour, you put me to shame.

OJ, do you think it's harder or easier that your dds have the learning difficulties? I was thinking about how my totally 'normal' dd would be asking endless questions, having nightmares (she already has sometimes cried night after night just with the thought that I will one day die) etc. if dp was going through what Steve is. On the other hand I would be able to 'reason' with her emotions.

Do your dds question why Steve is in the hospice?

Glad to hear you had a nice day OJ

Sending love. x

the kids don't know that its a hospice, they think its a hospital the kids seem to accept something really well they know that Steve can't walk or feed himself very well but they don't ask why. In a way it is a blessing that they don't understand how things really are.