ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

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Beautifully put Izabella...

sending love and strength.

x

love and strength OJ, i don't have the words, sorry

Wishing chair you are not being selfish i truely understand that is is difficult for you to read and post.
i think part of is that in some respects i feel that i have already "lost" Steve, The kids have lost their dad too. But the real loss is yet to come if that makes any sense.
Izabella i know that sadly you know how i feel cos you have walked the same path and have still been able to reach out and support me, it was good to chat on the phone.
i am hoping that he will be home in 2 weeks, the meeting to sort out funding is on 27th if funding is agreed then they need to get the carers sorted out.
if they don't agree to funding then we have to appeal.
thanks again for you thoughtful posts everyone.

Nothing to say that can help, OJ.

But sending you lots and lots of love. You are all in my thoughts so much of my time at the moment.

Lots of love and look after yourself.

xxx

Oh OJ . Izabella's post was so right. Wishing we could share the pain you must be feeling....

I mean share it out so it doesn't hurt so much....not sure that made sense when I saw it written down.

i think thats it Christie, the grieving process started with the DX, it is a horrid way to die to lose so many bits of yourself until you are not recognizable. The sad thing is that things are going to get worse, much worse,

Have been thinking about you today. [hugs]

thinking of you as always OJ xx

rum and hugs to you OJ
thinking of you

the rum is always welcome i don't mind the hugs but the rum helps me throu the evenings in a way that hugs don't

Steves had another fall thats three this week he doesn't understand that he can't walk. today he banged his back his head and grazed his hand.
he ate well today he had two toffee cheesecakes

I'm on the rum now, oj, you are welcome to join me

Bugger about Steve falling

Thinking of ye all as always x

The rum has been opened
i have some mates coming over soon to help me with the rum, dunno why they think i need help with it thou

Glad you've got company coming, OJ.

Thinking of you

Sorry about Steve.

Have a good evening with your friends.

i was feeling fed up cos the evenings and weekends are hardest,everyone seems to be part of a couple and playing happy families, but i have a mate coming over tomorrow and me and the kids have been invited out for sunday lunch

OJ, I hope you are able to relax with your mates although I know Steve is always in your thoughts. Good that you've got people around you this weekend as well. Remember, I'm only on the other end of the phone.

Sorry to hear that Steve has had another fall. is it just when he gets out of bed? Does he have a hospital bed with railings? Less than a week until the meeting. Am praying that he is home with you ASAP after that. xxx

When life is hard you can be surrounded by people yet still feel the loneliest person in the world, I know, been there. But when true friends call it not only helps you, but helps them too, so many people care and are desperate to help, thank God for friendship!

just delivering a case of hug-free rum for OJ

drink it responsibly with style

and let me know when you need more

Isabella, I will try to ring you tonight.
when I saw the mac nurse on Monday we talked about the kids and how elliot is asking questions she said that I need to be honest with him about Steve
Elliot has been asking all week if we can go on holiday with dad when he is better And all his bad cells have gone away.
elliot came in my room this morning and said that he didnt think that dads bad cells would ever go away
so I have had to tell him that he is right and that dad isn't going to get better, elliot said does that mean dad will die?I said yes he will die but we don't know when. We have spent the last few hours cuddling and crying. So now he knows and I wished he didnt, I now have find a way to tell abbey & bethan before elliot tells them.

OH oj

OH OJ massive (((hugs))) to you all , i know you have been trying to hold this back as long as you can but it's right to be honest with them , can't begin to imagine how hard it is though. Am so very for all of you you are all in my thoughts as usual.

maybe it is best that he has worked it out for himself - means he has understood enough from observing what is going on to project where it ends up.

Although it is awful - it is also positive that he has that understanding.

Maybe a way forward now is to talk about how difficult things are for Steve - so that in the end Elliot sees dad dying as a positive thing - in that it is easier for him than what he is going through now.

Do you have a feeling for how close the girls are to what Elliot now understands ?