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ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

747 replies

TripleyTigger · 05/03/2008 20:49

Done!!

OP posts:
TheDevilEatsNestle · 19/03/2008 08:47

Thinking of you OJ
x

ajandjjmum · 19/03/2008 12:53

You are brilliant OJ - thinking of you all.

ChutneyMary · 19/03/2008 19:42

Thinking of you OJ and sending love and best wishes XXXX

cookiesandscream · 19/03/2008 19:45

Oj are you ok love?
i have looked around and not seen you post today.
please let us know you are ok.

moodlumthehoodlum · 19/03/2008 20:39

OJ - how are you doing? Hope you have been able to spend some good time with steve, and have had a reasonable day.

Thinking of you.

Tickle · 19/03/2008 21:23

Just checking in on you, OJ & Steve. Hope you had a good day, and that radio silence means you are resting

Hulababy · 19/03/2008 21:29

Just checking in s say that I am thinking of you all. Your love and strength really does shine through your posts.

cookiesandscream · 19/03/2008 22:31

Oj love how are you? i am worried about you.

Mrsjaffabiffa · 20/03/2008 09:20

xxx as always.

lilyloo · 20/03/2008 09:25

OJ hoping the silence means you are spending some quality time with Steve

imaginaryfriend · 20/03/2008 13:01

Hope all's ok OJ?

onlyjoking9329 · 20/03/2008 13:13

Sorry if i have worried anyone, have just been feeling so down and overwhelmed with it all, steve is getting worse and i am finding watching him very hard.
it's nothing to what he is going throu which makes me feel gulity.

throckenholt · 20/03/2008 13:16

I guess there are only so many times you can type things slowly going downhill and I feel helpless.

I wish there was something someone could do to help you both.

WanderingTrolley · 20/03/2008 13:18

Don't compare oj.
You can't measure pain and grief like that. It's rotten for all of you, there are no degrees of awfullness to it. no two people are having the same experience, even your children will have different levels of understanding from each other.

imaginaryfriend · 20/03/2008 13:18

OJ, don't feel guilty about expressing how difficult this is for you. You're being so incredibly strong for him and your kids already, you're so allowed to express your sadness and emotional exhaustion. Most of us can only try to imagine the pain you're going through.

onlyjoking9329 · 20/03/2008 13:22

Steve has been away 4 weeks today, he is desparate to come home.
i can't get used to him not being here, i wake in the night to check where he is, i make him a cup of tea every morning but he is not here, i know we will have to get used to being without him , i just don't know how to do that

bundle · 20/03/2008 13:22

oh love it's bound to be really hard. I wish there was something we could do for you, xxx

Lomond · 20/03/2008 13:23

My heart is breaking for you reading this OJ, so sorry for what you are going through. I have such admiration for the way you have coped with everything.

thinking of you and your family x

Buda · 20/03/2008 13:26

Oh love. I am sorry. It is sodding well unfair.

wishingchair · 20/03/2008 13:37

It's just so awful watching on the sidelines as you go through this ... every day I think of you and your family and wish you strength and love. I've not been very good at posting ... I find it hard, which I know is selfish of me, because what you're going through is a bit like a view of our future, of what we might go through if DH's tumour starts growing again. So I can never find the right words, but just wanted to know I'm thinking of you x

imaginaryfriend · 20/03/2008 14:00

Your post is so moving OJ. I think perhaps it's especially hard at the moment because you can't face the future without him because at the moment he's still there. You'll face that reality when it comes. But for now you're in this kind of half-way house where he's there (alive) but not there (not home /very unwell and not himself) and it must be sheer torture.

Izabella · 20/03/2008 14:15

OJ (((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))

Its not surprising that you're overwhelmed. It comes with the territory. Please don't feel guilty about how you feel. You are suffering too, but just in a different way to Steve. Yours is the emotional suffering of watching your soulmate slowly deteriorate before your eyes. There is very little on this earth worse than that. You may not have the physical suffering that Steve has, but that does not diminish the fact that you are just as much affected by this as he is. Wish I could be there to put my arms around you.

Call me tonight if you want to chat. xxx

LilRedWG · 20/03/2008 16:04

I'm so so sorry OJ!

lilyloo · 20/03/2008 16:16

Oh OJ very little we can say other than it's ok to feel overwhelmed by all this.

BandofMothers · 20/03/2008 16:19

Oh OJ. What are the chances of him coming home???

I don't think you can get used to someone not being there until they really are not there any more. I don't think you can prepare for that type of thing, just kind of handle it when it happens, and we'll all be here for you, whenever you need us.

Don't forget I'm not too far away.

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