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ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

747 replies

TripleyTigger · 05/03/2008 20:49

Done!!

OP posts:
TiggerMeJigs · 17/03/2008 15:29

O.J. Steve has been so thoughtful at different points along the way.

I guess he knows there is more to your relationship than the sexual side so he is not intimidated by saying that you should find another partner(which takes real love to say). But you know, I expect what he is really trying to say is that he wants the best for you and doesn't want you to struggle. Perhaps he feels like you will only be able to do this with an extra pair of hands? Maybe its his way of getting some reassurance that you will be o.k.
Just keep telling him that you will be able to cope O.J. and he might drop the issue. I know your humour will carry you through if he keeps going on about the issue(smile).

You're right,every love is different and you won't find two relationships that are ever the same,but that doesn't mean you won't be happy in the far off future and you might decide yourself that you want to be on your own. My mum has never had or wanted another partner and is very happy.

O.J. try not to look too far ahead,you are doing a marvellous job chick.Baby steps..every day as it comes. Hopefully this is something you won't have to think about for a very long time.x.x.x

VanillaPumpkin · 17/03/2008 16:33

Thinking if you OJ.

dejags · 17/03/2008 17:17

You and Steve were in my thoughts today OJ. I logged in and did a search on your name just to check how both of you are doing.

I hope he has good day tomorrow.
dejagsx

onlyjoking9329 · 17/03/2008 17:51

Thanks as always for your kind posts, it helps me loads to be able to think aloud as it were. i know that Steve wants the best future for me and the kids but it is very hard to think future when Steve won't be part of it, i know our lives will go on and i know my job will be getting the kids throu this and trying to make things as ok as possible for them, i guess the place i am in at the moment doesn't let me see how that will happen, but in time we will get there.
Had a cuddle with Steve today and he did manage to wake up for ten minutes, He wasn't able to get his words out today which upset him, in his eyes he looked scared and bewildered. he is sleeping a lot at the moment. At least whilst he is asleep he is at peace.

TaLcYonHerTodd · 17/03/2008 17:52

oj, sending you and yours love x

BoysAreLikeBunnies · 17/03/2008 17:55

Bless him OJ

CarGirl · 17/03/2008 18:05

OJ Steve just wants you to be happy in the future what ever choices you make

so very for you both

TimeForMe · 17/03/2008 18:19

Lots of love OJ. Thinking of you xxx

3NAB · 17/03/2008 18:59

Been thinking of you all today.

onlyjoking9329 · 17/03/2008 20:17

saw the mac nurse this morning, she is going to kick arse talk to the OT about the hospital bed
The Mac nurse is very wonderful but there is still a part of me that can't let go and really cry in front of her i think it is for fear of never being able to stop if i start, i am on auto pilot still and whilst i am around the kids and doing things then i can hold things together it is only at night when the kids are in bed that i allow myself to think,feel and cry.

trulymadlydeeply · 17/03/2008 20:28

So hard to read this. Must be almost unbearable to be living it, OJ.

We (MN) are here as a sounding board, able to absorb anything you care to throw at us; just wanting to support you as best we can in impossible circumstances. We all feel helpless and wish we could do more.

We'll all be here for as long as you need us, OJ.

Sending you all love and hugs,

xxx

onlyjoking9329 · 17/03/2008 20:57

i think it is unbearable for steve mostly.
we kind of adjust when things change and they become our new "normal" this is not the life we choose and it feels very unfair, not that i would wish it on anyone else as such. i just wished cancer wasn't in our lives.

missorinoco · 17/03/2008 21:16

following your thread. my thoughts are with you and your family. xx

Tickle · 17/03/2008 21:57

Good to hear you had a nice, if brief, cuddle with Steve - if he is sleeping a lot I hope you can rest a wee bit, knowing he's peaceful.

Keep going OJ - you are doing a fantastic job for Steve and the kids - love will carry you through.

x

robinpud · 17/03/2008 22:29

Hang on in there OJ; you are doing a wonderful wonderful job of holding it all together. Thinking of you.

imaginaryfriend · 17/03/2008 22:48

OJ your posts break my heart and warm my heart at the same time.

lucyellensmum · 17/03/2008 23:00

OJ, again, im lost for words The love that you and steve have must be so very special.

onlyjoking9329 · 17/03/2008 23:55

the love we have shared and still share keeps me going, that and the kids and of course the rum & coke.
had a lovely chat on the phone earlier with a friend which helped then my mobile battery gave up on me.

BoysAreLikeBunnies · 17/03/2008 23:57

OJ hold my hand for a while sweetheart if you like.

stleger · 18/03/2008 00:38

You should be in bed! Hope you have a good night and sweet dreams. And that tomorrow is a good day for you all.

onlyjoking9329 · 18/03/2008 08:50

I was in bed for 1.30 and I didn't wake until 5.30
the kids are going out later so I can hopefully spend some time alone with steve. I still haven't heard from his mum me thinks she has forgotten to tell me about next weeks meeting

LilRedWG · 18/03/2008 08:51

Glad you got a good solid block of sleep last night OJ. Enjoy your time with Steve today. x

cookiesandscream · 18/03/2008 12:07

As always Oj sending you much love to help you throu these very dark and difficult days.
((((hugs))))

TimeForMe · 18/03/2008 14:56

Lots of love OJ. I hope you are enoying your time with Steve Thinking of you xxx

yorkiemom · 19/03/2008 07:47

My heart really goes out to you OJ, I wish I could think of somethink to say other than every morning I think of you and your lovely family.
Lots of love xxx