My lack of exercise and my refusal to care for my health has caused my DH to request that we go for Councilling

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Ok,
I dont exercise, I am size 16 (borderline 18) and overweight. I sometimes treat myself to cake and ice cream, but usually eat quite healthily.

My posture is changing, it is an effort to get up from when I am sitting, I pant on the starecase, my knees hurt, as do my back and pelvis (had bad spd).

My lack of willingnes to do something about this, like go to the gym or swimming pool 3 times a week has caused my dh to request we go to councilling after nagging me weekly for 2 years.

He cannot understand I am not taking care of myself. He says he doesn't understand how it is possible to not love myself and life enough to exercise so that I ensure a long and healthy life for our family.

He imagines us being 50 and trekking in the alps, but at the rate I am going, I will not be fit for anything when I reach that age, and he fear I will have a stroke or a heart attack and instead of having a happy and healthy life, I turn him into my carer.

I dont know what to think.

Is my outlook really that bad?

I feel that if I now start exercising I am giving into his nagging. If I dont, he will be upset. But really, should I just bite the bullet and join the gym???

HolidaysQueen, that is very inspirational.

I dropped off the kids to school and nursery, found somewhere to park by the river, and went for a walk!

It was lovely. The sun was shining, the birds were singing, who needs an ipod?

I was walking as fast as I could without slipping on the mud from last nights rain, 25 minutes each way. Got all sweaty, my jumper sticking, yuck. Then came home, had long shower, feel very invigorated!
I have had an apple and a youghurt, and a coffee. Will soon go to pick up Kai.

I herby pronounce monday as MY DAY!

I wont get any work done though, I will just have to be more efficient tomorrow.

Brilliant QS!! Well done, and doesn't it feel great! Now come and join us on the walker's thread

Where is the walkers thread?

That's a fantastic start but an apple and a yoghurt for breakfast isn't enough if you are trying to lose weight - have something with slow release carbs as it will prevent you getting hungry later on and 'grabbing' food. Porridge or muesli is excellent - as are eggs and wholemeal toast.

The other really good tip is to eat before you're hungry at lunchtime and cut out all carbohydrates after 3pm, filling up on fresh fruit and vegetables with high protein things like salmon and chicken breasts etc.

My bro says that one of the most common problems he comes across with our age group females post children is that we don't actually eat enough at the right times and too much at the wrong - I can agree with this as it's exactly what I was doing.

that wasnt breakfast. I had a bowl of Alpen Muesli with semi skimmed milk at 7.30 when I got up. Went for my walk two hours later, and needed something when I got home at 11. Had lunch at 2 pm, leek and potato soup and a slice of whole meal bread.

That sounds fabulous! You are making real progress and am sure you will start to feel healthier soon

Just a tip for you - Your body's metabolic rate would increase and you will lose more weight if you ate the yoghurt and apple at 7.30 (preferably the apple first) and then the muesli after your walk btw

I think that we need to see and feel results straightaway/ asap in order to keep the momentum up.

birds are alright for a day

youllbe ipoddiug soon

ha! cod i'm just about to eat into today's walking time p*ssing about installing blardy audible.co.uk! pah!

The walking thread is here

Well, theoretically anyway, if the link works

Yippee it worked!! (jumps up and down and counts this as exercise)

QS - well done

I have been feeling great the whole day, I am seriously trying to NOT go and put on my exercise videos, shall restrain myself till tomorrow!

Have ordered a yoga mat on ebay.

QS, long time no

Glad you have decided to sort this for yourself, you sound so up-beat and almost giddy

Hurray QS - what a great day you had! Enjoy the exercise vids today

I think you should start a new, postive thread with all this motivation!