Daisy, I'm so sorry. Don't expect too much of yourself over the next few months. You've got such a lot to deal with as it is. Keep posting for support xx
I just got sent this in an email from someone that knows I'm an alcoholic. Sorry it's long:
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty
mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas
between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a
unanimous 'yes'.
The professor then produced two glasses of wine from under the table and
poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty
space between the sand.
The students laughed.
'Now', said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ' I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things; your family, your children, your health, your friends,
and your favourite passions; things that if everything else was lost and
only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house
and your car.
The sand is everything else; the small stuff.
If you put the sand into the jar first, 'he continued, 'there is no room
for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the
small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important
to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to you happiness.
Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your
partner out to dinner. Spend some time with your friends. There will
always be time to clean the house and fix the sticking door. Take care
of the golf balls first; the things that really matter. Set your
priorities. The rest is just sand'.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the wine represented.
The professor smiles. 'I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that
no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple
of glasses of wine with a friend'.
'Please share this with a friend. I JUST DID'
I know that the person probably hit send and then thought "oh bollox, what have I just done"