Emetophobe's dd just been sent home from school feeling sick - support needed please

[DumbledoresGirl]

Hi, it's me.

I am quivering and can hardly move for fear.

Need some calming words.

paws, I feel very very sad for the brave women you mention. But I'm sure they themselves would not think that their dreadful problems mean that no-one else can have any!

Just because being an emetophobe is not a life threatening problem, does not mean that anyone who suffers from this terrible phobia should not post when they need support, that what this forum is all about, support, regardless of the problem.

I too feel incredibly sad for the woman you mention and for others who have been through or going through similar.

Incidentally, I am an emetaphobe AND my ds had/has a life threatening condition, it doesn't make my fear any less just because people, including my own son, have life threatening problems

PAws, why don't you ask OJ and MB and anyone else in that situation what they think of your posts here?
I'd suggest that they'd be none too happy with you using their situation as a means to bash DG.

This phobia (not that I personally beleive it is a phobia) can be cured. Why not go do something about it instead of moaning, stressing and basically letting it control your whole life??

Oh what a good idea paws4thought. Do you know, that had never occurred to me before?

paws you are entitled to your opinion about how phobias should be dealt with, but you are not entitled to be cruel, i don't think.

There is something to be said for paws attitude you know, she is giving you a kick up the arse to face your fear and deal with the problem.
We all know that noone has ever died form just v**mitting, there is nothing real to fear, just as the button phobia.
What she is saying in a very harsh way, is to face up to the problem and deal with your fears, not avoid it and worry about it.

I know its easy for me to say as i dont suffer with it. And i know paws is out of order with her uneducated posts. But try to take a posistive light on it and her.

Paws;
Please do some research before posting again. Its making you look very dumb.

ok prat4thought so we will never post about anything else but 'serious' issues in future yes?

practice what you preach then love - the things you have asked for advice about seem pretty trivial to me

DG i hope you are ok today and DD is feeling better, i know what this does to you so ignore people who are too ignorant to understand.

And paws, as OldWotzBat said, if you have RL problems (might explain your misdirected rage), you will get support from mn just like any other person in trouble.

Haychee, I think some people do die from vomiting - choking on own vomit for instance - and I think it was this knowledge that partly got my phobia started. But, nevertheless, yes I know what you mean. I do try to tell myself all that. I know about thinking positive thoughts, taking control of what could be the worst case scenario, etc. Also, I don't think even paws4thought could be harsher on me than I am on myself. I am not some shrinking violet or a weak-minded person in any other respect. You would be astonished to meet me and put these phobic posts to the woman you saw.

But that is the whole point about phobias. It is not something you can tell someone to "get a grip" with. It is not some momentary self-indulgent thinking but a very deeply wired mis-connection in the brain.

Paws4thought is so out of her depth here.

Oh and elesbells, thank you for asking after dd. She was fine after a couple of hours yesterday - not sick at all. I am wondering if she let her blood-sugar levels drop. She has had an episode like this before.

The only thing to be said about paws4thought's attitude is that she's being a rude obnoxious cow.

Thanks haychEebeeJeebees for some support from you.

I'll have you all know though that neither am I uneducated, dumb or even a bored housewife. I really don't mind what you all think of me - sticks and stones etc etc.

Anyway, I'm off now to get on with my life as so many things to do and so little time to do them in. DumblesdoresGirl - I suggest you try getting a hobby - it might take your mind off your woes!!!

I'll leave you all consoling the drama queen! Bye Bye

From a practical POV, DumbledoresGirl, I find that a child's beach bucket lined with a nappysack perfect in these situations. Sits right by the child and is easily disposed of with no contact necessary. It can also be taken in the car

No one likes dealing with vomit (unless they are some sort of pervert). Not sure how old your dd is, Ddsgirl, but in the event that she does vomit somewhere other than down the loo, is she old enough to play some small part in clearing it up? Once my dd vomited so often in the night I ended up having to put her on the floor as I had run out of clean sheets (ds was also vomiting that night). After that, dd suddenly acquired great poise and accuracy in her vomiting as she realised the consequences of getting the stuff where it shouldn't go.

Sorry this is a bit convoluted but do you get my drift?

I think Paws has every right to point out that you are concentrating on your own feelings before those of your dd. Sorry, but if you post on here, you get people's opinions.

(Reaction to paws4thought's last post) I will not allow her to drag me down to her level by responding further.

I am glad your dd is feeling better DG. I know that I feel incredibly sick when I get over hungry. I find a banana helps as it is a nice slow release energy.

Elasticwoman, clearly you are as clueless as Paws about what a phobia is. They aren't rational and they won't vanish just because someone says "Oh you're being silly".

No elasticwoman, I don't go along with the "if you post on a public forum, you should expect all manner of responses". I have seen that argument put forward too many times on MN, always defending someone being extremely rude. I was careful when I wrote my thread title yesterday, as I was bearing in mind the unpleasant comments I might attract. (Those of you who are rude to phobics like myself, do you think you are the only person to be so insensitive? alas you are not). That is why I asked for "support". I don't think people would wade in as paws4thought did if the conversation was in RL, so I don't think she should do so here either.

well i've bitten my tongue so hard that it is now very painful but

it is just too absurd to proffer the advice pull yourself together in the face of any mental health issue

and even more bizarre to attack someone who has a mental health problem..that is just weird..if you don't like it then walk on by

DD, I am glad you are feeling better today. I suffered from this phobia as a child, but its much milder now (just as well as DS, 10 months, seems to be sick every week!) - when I was first teaching I went to the doctors about it coz I was terrified of catching something from the kids - he said best thing was exposure, and do you know he was right - plenty of kids throwing up in the classroom (and no, I still don't like it much but I can cope) and I have never once caught anything so I dont panic nearly so much now.

Dont know what caused mine really, its lack of control I don't like I think. You mention people choking on own vomit and dying - as far as I am aware that only happens if they are fuelled up with drugs and/or alcohol - wouldn't happen if you had a tummy bug as you would certainly wake up.

I cannot believe that Paws is for real - does she know no-one who suffers from any kind of mental illness/condition?

dg have you considered trying your GP again? I know he was pretty useless last time. Any chance of a more sympathetic doctor in the practice?

DG, sorry I missed this yesterday. You've held my hand before and I completely understand the need to 'witter on about it'. I am so glad that your dd was OK and I'm sorry for the unhelpful attitude of some ignorant morons posters!

Paws you talk Shite
please do not use my husband as an example for why other people shouldn't have worries fears and be upset.
DDG take no notice of Paws. how is your DD? and how are you?

I'm very relieved that paws the uneducated nasty weirdo bitch poster really doesn't mind what anyone thinks of her.

Wow. first time I have ever directly attacked a poster. Bloody deserved it though.