This is the one where none of us fail! -Quitting fags thread.

[charliecatthenonsmoker]

Waiting for some friends to join me!

Must get off pc before dp kills me so night for now

Hi everyone, well done for still not smoking!
Had some EEEEVIL cravings today, at the bus stop and then while dd was watching TV (my usual time to sneak out for a quick puff in my previous life as a smoker). How do I deal with them? Just tell myself "it's gonna pass, it's gonna pass, it's just a craving, AAAAARGh!" . And chew gum maddly, till my jaws ache!
Was it you MM who asked if I work during the day? Well yes and no, I've just finished a training course and am now on work experience, mostly out of the house in the morning, sometimes online during the day if working from home, but generally I only come on mumsnet in the evening. Have emailed you BTW.
CC, feel sorry about your neighbour, was once in that situation of being knocked about (which is why I am now a single parent). All I can say is I would have loved for my neighbours to call the police when they heard (because I know they did) what was happening. That's what I would do if I heard one of my neighbours in trouble for whatever reason and I felt I couldn't intervene directly. Also perhaps call social services, about the children? I'm sure you don't have to tell them your name.

Mammya, I cant belive my neighbour isnt seeing what everyone else can see. Even her nanny is weary of him.
I have rang the police because of neighbours being beaten up. These walls are so thin I could hear one girl being hit at number 5, im number 3 and theres a number 4 between us.
And when number 4 was a different neighbour the girl was 9 months pregnant, there was 2 kids in the house, and he took the keys off her so she couldnt get out and was tormenting her and hitting her and she was 9 MONTHS PREGNANT.
Plus various other incidents. People here think we are boring because we dont do the pissing it up the wall smashing each other about thing!

Right the craving at the bus stop and when your dd was busy are just memories of when you used to smoke.
You need to acknowledge them for what they are...oh yes I used to smoke at this time didnt I? And move on...if it wont go out of your head sing hum chew whatever, if you can go and fold some clothes go outside suck in some fresh air...whatever it takes. BUT that was 2 bad moments in how many days????!!!!!!
You have to compare it to waking up knowing your going to spend the day smoking. Knowing every fag is killing you and all the time your having them your not stopping...
You have stopped now, no matter what dirty tricks your brain trys to trick you with YOU ARE a non smoker.
Yes you will remember, youve been doing it for years, but it doesnt mean you have to have one, it doesnt even mean you WANT one, it just means you have remebered. OK???
Big Hugs and again you are doing brilliantly!
Also well done for leaving a nasty other half
Im out shopping today so wont be back till later but type till the cows come home if you need too.xx

That must have been hell for you mammya, brave you for getting out.. and you are doing fantastically re fags - getting through the evil cravings without any substitutes of the niccy variety.... think you should buy yourself something non practical & pampery this weekend...

Really terrible what was happening to your pregnant ex neighbour cc, unbelievable that anyone could do that to their partner.

on a lighter note... went to a life drawing class last nite & drew a nudie man (very badly). Took my mind of smoking anyhow!!!

did post last nite after nudie man sesh but for some reason it didn't come up - oh yeah, think I logged off v speedily as dh came in and I had just stormed away from him for NO REASON apart from wanting a fag! It is SO helpful to be able to storm in here and type furiously. Like a fag break - time out from the family or whatever situation's kicking off. (like mm said, or something like this, it's still good to have a fag-less fag break!)

Btw cc, the counter clock thing is such a motivator - no way do I wanna switch it back to zero no matter how tearful or angry or hellish I'm being, cos IT WILL PASS....

you must be feeling so good now cc, what's your fags not smoked score?

I like the thing you say mammya about it being a craving, it'll pass, repeating it like a mantra. Maybe we're getting to the point where we know the evil tricks nicotine plays and are starting to figure out ways of counteracting it or at least getting thro v difficult moments.

(oh yeah, like screaming at my kids & banging doors!!

may not get to post till tomorrow, have a lovely evening girls... (am gonna get dressed up & mildly p*ssed even tho we're just staying in, am not gonna crack! am not gonna crack!!!)

Hey hey Hey...im back after a hard days shopping! Glad your still on track Fg, the counter seems to be stopping us all doesnt it? If only we had discovered it on the first thread...we might have been 3-4 mnonths clean now
I am 3w and 7 h and 746 not smoked.
Being with my mum today and seeing how wrinkly she is, and listening to her cough was quite nasty today I wanted to say Look FFS STOP IT!.
Must dash to get the girls dinner on, think dps not gonna be here tonight so ill be posting lots!!

Had to drown some baccy that I found laying out of the bin with at least enough for 20 roll ups in it. Must internally be quite determined and focussed as i took it to the bathroom drowned it and then tipped it down the loo thinking PHOAR that was a lot of baccy but never the less!
So that was a hurdle.
I think I have to do that. Fags of other peoples I can accept as not mine, fags in the shop I can accept as not mine but some unwanted dregs...well I could smoke that!!!!!!!!!
Dps out on a night run to somewhere near stonehenge. So night to myself...gonna see whats on TVxx

Oh yeah and because I like talking to myself...update on neighbour, she came to the door tonight and explained that the bloke had fell over the recycling bin coming home from the pub, hed been drinking stella was her excuse for him...she said Ive told him hell be out on his ear if anything like that happens again. So that was quite good news, if shes sticks to it.

Oh poor lonely me

Thanks for the feedback Mink Did you have a nice time?
My friends coming round today, she chainsmokes outside so I dont really see that much of her unless I go outside with her and since its approaching November I dont think I will
My mums having dd2 tonight and me and dp and my sister and dd1 are going to a firework/bonfire display/procession thing so ill need my thermals on.
Ohhh goody, I can say to my sister...Nearly a whole month now Usually its 2.5 days, 5 days, 1 day, actually im smoking.
Dp says hes gonna cold turkey it on Monday, I said well if your gonna do that quickly read A.C over the weekend as its like ammunition to fire back the beastly cravings with..nooo, so hes gonna stop for 2-3 hours again give in and bash his confidence as well. It must be like men and maps this men and substitute thing

As its a nice day I thought I would take the kids out for a ride to the park on the bikes. Omg what a disaster. DD1 CAN ride her bike, however, she cannot steer it without instructions from me...turn the handle bar..or use the breaks fullstop, so you can imagine what it was like....AND she was peddling along crying and makes NO attempt to sort her self out if she does fall over and sort of was chucking herself and the bike to the floor when she did wobble....RRAAHHHHHHHHHHHH
Then I came back to the house and the front door was not only unlocked It was WIDE OPEN. I have not been robbed amazingly, my purse was on the bed with 150 in it and there 500 quid in the drawer waiting to be put in the bank for the rent.
PHEW.

Bloody hell, that was lucky!

kids and their tantrums...can hear mine (ds2) now with dh downstairs!! my sis and her boyfriend have come to visit for the night so have been 'allowed' to go out to hte cinema for a girlie night out whilst dh plays babysitter/xbox.

had a good time thanks, but was knackered when i came back, mental stress of having to think about what ds1 is up to all the time! will prob fall asleep in the cinema!!!

glad you're back mm!! Hope you enjoy the movie (I tend to fall asleep during KIDS' movies, like Cat in the Hat etc... zzzzzz)

God cc that was dead lucky! And that was your reward for being good mum and doing a bike ride - tears, tanrum & a nearly robbed house!!

am going to a small halloween party tonight, we have to dress as dead rock stars - am gonna be Mamma Cass who cc prob won't know cos you're so YOUNG! v v v fat, long blonde hair, in 60s group the mammas & pappas. Am gonna construct a fat suit from cushions and wear an old flowery nightie from the charity shop. Just as well am not trying to pull!!

should be a laff but the trouble is, our friends both smoke (tons) and J - being a non believer in substites like your dp cc - is fagging it loads too. Am just gonna suck suck suck in my fat suit.

WHY WILL MEN NOT USE LOZENGES???? You're right cc - for the very reason that they won't ask for directions when they're lost. THEY WILL NOT ADMIT TO NEEDING HELP.

Am amazed by your fags not smoked total cc!!

have a good eve girls, catch up tomorrow xxx

Hi guys... 251 cigarettes not smoked!
How are you all doing?
MM have received piccies, you're all gorgeous, cc wasn't exagerating...

thanks mammya, as i have mentioned to cc before, my dh did the night feeds, therefore i am the pretty one with the beauty sleep and my dh looks like a toad your dd is lovely, she looks like so much fun!! you seem to be blessed with great weather in all your pics though

we are all doing so well aren't we!!! hope mamma cass just does the old 60's waccy tonight...am laughing imagining you as her!!! how appropriate for this time of year '...all the leaves are brooooowwwnn...'

saw 'SAW' tonight - good film! won't say a thing about it, you lot should just watch it yourselves.

off to shower xxx

Arent we doing just fab? I went to a firework display last night and we walked with the procession and I was thinking how much I would have hated the walk had I been smoking. I didnt even remember to suck on a lozenge I was so busy not thinking about fags...woohooo, I am 3 weeks and 2 days, which means I am due on VERY SOON but I am doing ok, I have been quite worried about it, as I am demon monster from hell over bugger all but as long as I dont have a fag I will be fine and my plan is to drop my lozenge intake after I finish my period so that but the time my next one comes I will be Nico free...thats the plan anyway....
I have no idea who you were fg... hope you had a good time though!
That was short post Mammya...my emails [email protected] if I could see your photos too BTW and I will send you out ugly mugs. Please dont compare us to Minks lovely brood as there is no comparison

Oooh, charliecat, couldn't resist taking a peek at this thread. Not ready to join in, but as you've already seen our ugly mugs, I'd love to see yours too!

Email me and Ill show you then Carla.....Yours are still floating around my puter somewhere!!

Going out now BTW so it wont be till later xx

Hi girls
yeah we are doing so so well!! Something has clicked, and being a non smoker suddenly seems like the far better option, not a life of hellish misery and deprivation after all! (which is allen carr's big message isn't it... it must be filtering into my brain via cc!)

night out was a laugh but had to get out of fat suit after 20 mins as was roasting & BO became a real worry - everyone fagged it but me, and I didn't really want one, didn't even feel urge for a lozenge - smoked passively enough anyhow! Was pleased to not just 'get through' a faggy night, but enjoy it too - tho do have a mild tiredness all the time which I always get in early days of quitting - does anyone else? - lack of niccy stimulation I guess. A slight zzzzz feeling. So wasn't as up for it as I usually am & was v glad to hit the sack at 12.30....

hope you're having good w'end girls - I 'awarded' dh a lie in till midd day today and he's gonna take kids for a romp about a forest so i can do a bit of work...

am feeling really really pleased about not having a fag in nearly a week. Mammya your non faggy total is fantastic!! If you think about all those fags it's pretty horrible isn't it - all that crap and tar and poison would've gone into your body.

am gonna start running again next week after weeks of loafy-ness. Just short ones, 20 mins or so. help to shift the gunk.

speak later girls xxxxx ps btw your family are lovely cc, what you on about?????!!!

ps My kids wanna cuddle & kiss me more!

Mammya, CC is being v. silly indeed! She has a beautiful family which i'm sure you've seen by now!

Well done on a good night fg, parties are one of the hardest as they remind you of being non-mum and doing what you want and often you just think 'oh just tonight i'll smoke as it's a party!' (not that i go to any parties ) SO BIG PAT ON BACK!! btw, the idea of you in a huge nightie with sumo blocks strapped to you is vaguely scary...

Well done CC too on a good fag-free outdoor night! it's so nice to be free of the niggling thought 'wish i could light up now' esp. outdoors as that's where we USED TO puff! and no more frozen fingers trying to roll up, light the lighter or hunching over to block wind from putting out light! we don't look so silly anymore!!

Mammya, yes always too short posts!! fg, cc and i are always moaning about something - you can too you know

sis and boyfriend still here, will drop them off in brighton later...

fg, yes the lethargy does hit me as does the profuse sweating!! really bad bo these days....

yeah the sweats are lovely aren't they!

am also munching A LOT...

yeah the fat suit was a bit scary mm, cushions strapped around me with a dressing gown cord. At this munching rate am gonna be able to dress up as mamma cass without any cushions...

finding it hard to concentrate today. grrrr...

Lozenging out, period is imminent...Dragon Alert...tiding kids toys to amuse myself. Did you declutter fg?
Must go lack of concentration and patience!

4 blackbags and a huge box full leaving the premises... my front room is a bomb...

6 black bags kids still up front room still a bomb...please help me the mess is consuming me...must say havent had a fag thought though

oh dear cc, don't worry, it's always messy before it's tidy!! think about how much you actually have gotten rid of!!

i just came off and was in the worst mood ever! don't normally suffer from it but found myself snapping at anything - had an almost permanent face on...was still in an odd mood yesterday, okay today so hopefully it has passed.

dropped off sis todya and caught sight of her housemate's packet of fags on the window sill complete with lighter and back door and started to get all jittery and started salivating!!! all those thoughts went through my head incl. should i ask for just one...

of course i didn't.