This is the one where none of us fail! -Quitting fags thread.

[charliecatthenonsmoker]

Waiting for some friends to join me!

Oh and Mink just admit your gorgeous...you cant dumb down all these lovely piccys!!!

yeah mink your pics are soooo lovely! You and your babies are gorgeous - no wonder you want to have about four kids!! Ever thought of signing them up with an agency, or would you feel weird about that? Have we spoken about this before (if so, sorry...) S and D did a couple of ads when they were babies - I put them forward for jobs cos people said twins got quite a bit of work (cos you can swap them over if one gets cross) and also I was desp to get out of the house and meet grown ups! Am not a crazed showbiz mother, honest!!! also we stopped when they started to crawl cos they were too speedy and it was all too stressful. Good laff at the time tho...

cc re bunged up-ness am sure it's just the remains of your flu and the smoking crap coming out of your body - it'll take a while to clear tho maybe exercise would help to speed things up a bit, could you get out for a swim or something, when you've completely shaken off the flu? Even just getting outside for walks as much as you can and away from stuffy central heating might help.

42 cigs not smoked!!! aren't we all doing well girls!!! This feels like a new start that's one for each of us who are regulars on here at the mo!!

COME ON LET'S HAVE SOME NEW QUITTERS!!!!!

My non smoking cousins coming round today, we used to sit chuffing away over our teas and our coffees and seeing her always makes me fidgetty!
It so embarrasing when people say You still off the fags and I grin and say Yep and they say how long...and i say 2 days or whatever ah shes fell back in the ashtray again...
Im going to try not to mention it but its 19 bloody days this time and ive not smoked 670 fags.

Remember you told me to be proud regardless of how long i had not smoked? well you should be too cc, you are way ahead of the rest of us!!

I haven't a cure for the central heating! my nose is also dry and i keep twitching it to breathe!! i keep it off during hte day as it can also aggravate (bad spelling?) ds1's eczema. okay normally but right now i'm in the only roomwithout a radiator and my fingers and toes ahve frozen as you can tell from the typing.

i joined a modelling agency ages ago for ds1 but hten his eczema flaired up but now (fingers crossed) is settling. however, it's a bit difficult getting to any agency at the mo with the double buggy (how did you do it fg?!) and 1 kid running around like a mad hatter. like you say fg, would be nice to get out and do it but can't conceive how to at the mo!

plus i can't drive motorways

good morning so far, 1 lozenge and still fighting fit!

btw, only a crappy 99 fags not smoked on my meter if that makes you feel any better

At least you didnt have a 20-35 a day habit. of r youdd be up there in the hundreds with me. i cant drive fullstop so your beating me there!
i am proud, its just embarrasing admitting in on day XYZ which means ive failed at least 10 times since i last saw whoever

mm I emailed you re gift! thanks so much xxxxxxx

yeah cc you should be v v v proud, you too mm!

Girls I just lost it majorly with the boys, roared and slammed their bedroom door on them. They'd asked for a friend to come round and I said yes, then all they wanted to do them was play playstation which really gets my goat - what's the point of having a friend to play?

Finally 30 mins before friend's mum came to pick him up, I switched p'station off, and the 3 boys played this mad dare game, running round screaming upstairs, knocking lamp over, flinging dd's toys, upending toybox - as soon as friend had left I just LOST it...

am on verge of tears here... sucking madly on a lozenge...

can I please ask girls, and anyone who happens to dip in here: is that a normal reaction, or is it just the fag monster? i am horrible

No, you're not horrible, you are coping with (a) addiction withdrawal (b) children being totally and utterly maddening. Either one of these drives a person over the edge. Combined - well, there isn't a shudder emoticon...

Thank you mother inf!!! Could hardly type my nickname in, my eyes were so teary and blurry.

It always gets me like this, you think you're coping well with no cigs then it all cracks (am still sucking, not fagging btw!)

Found the boys both sobbing and feel like sh**t. We had a long talk about the stuff they could do when friends come around. They seem to have 'lost' it with their toys, prob cos a lot of stuff is too young for them or impossible to find in the chaos of their room. Am the kind of person who needs to think of a solution to a prob, and am thinking maybe it's better to have a loose kinda plan for when other kids come over, like we'll play out, or I'll have fished out something scintilating for them to play...

sorry to burble on about myself here girls

dh cracked last night but has agreed to smoke outside (he'd normally have cigs in kitchen after kids are in bed)

am not gonna crack..........

I hate making my kids cry esp due to raging temper.

btw mm 99 fags not smoked is hardly crappy!!!!!! god lord woman!

Fg, its half fag half the kids.....I nearly ripped Tasha apart this morning, she was shouting at Tanya who was only trying to help and she was just going on and on and on and I wanted to tear her into pieces. I managed to just grab her away and said/shrieked "Will you stop that" And I thought chill out chill out. But they do push buttons dont they? Suck that lozenge. And remeber to escape for 5 mins every so often as you would if you were smoking.

Well done you for not cracking. A fag WILL NOT help. Mr FG must be kicking himself
Maybe tommorow if your not working you could sort out the boys room and have a declutter?
It will make you feel better and give you something to do while you strech your long gazelle like neck

Hi guys, 190 cigarettes not smoked, I can hardly believe it! I used to smoke THAT much?
cc viz. the cold turkey, I tried giving up using patches, gums etc before, it just didn't work for me, I have to go cold turkey. It's only the first 2-3 days that are truly horrible. So it's not heroism or anything... I am drinking a lot more than I used to, though. And chewing gum constantly (well, not when drinking wine...), I look like a mad cow!
MM, where are your piccies?

Isnt it nice to see the number you havent smoked? I dread to think how many ive smoked over the years. It would probably be so many id die looking at the number.
You are doing Excellent mammya, you are well and truely over the worse thing now and now its a case of deep breathes and moving on with your life.
How much of your day is spent thinking about fags, or even just the fact your not smoking?
I only tend to totally forget at nursery where im so busy with other things I cant think of fags, but tonight I was making dinner and helping dd1 with her homework and It dawned on me I didnt smoke, hadnt smoked for days and wasnt going to smoke again. It was nice!

It's so brilliant that you felt like that cc, about realising you don't smoke! Another move forward surely, away from the fags...
I'd love to get to the point where the idea of smoking a fag seems totally alien, wouldn't you?

mammya that is fantastic am in awe of your strength!

and cc yeah you're right, I need to sort out boys' room, am working tomorrow but hopefully will tackle at weekend... good to hear too that other people lose it, tho it must have been horrible - there's always the guilt isn't there, seconds later...

hope you had a good stress free & fag free day mm...

anyway seem to be needing loads more sleep since quitting (??? why???) so am gonna say goodnight... xxxx

hi everyone, very late entry today i know!

had a good day thanks, kids were being good (astonishingly) but i know just what it's like when you're having those kind of days...remember when ds1 gave me grief from lunchtime till the evening and drove me to get a packet? it's like that big post cc printed a couple of days ago. i know that I find excuses for having a ciggie when really i should be taking the time out to relax away from all of that stuff whirring in my head. i think sometimes we should just walk away!! it's horrible and brings you to tears - we should print out all these incidents and show them to the kids one day to make them realise what we do for them!!!!!

next time it happens fg go outside and heavy breathe as you would do with a fag. if you stand out there for at least 10mins you should start to calm down a bit and feel better

good for you cc! it's so nice when you have those feelings isn't it?

what do you do in times of cravings/crisis mammya? i cannot imagine not being able to stick a lozenge in my mouth...so psychological i know, but it helps me so much. you are a woman of steel

oh, and will cat you now so that i can send those pics to you!! (please don't expect to see anything special re: ME as fg and cc are being TOO KIND )

night night all xxxxx

Morning girls, im going to have to bore you with some gossip about my other neighbour...shes about 48 and shes got 2 girls and when she moved here she was getting away from an alcholic man.
She started looking for a bloke about 7 months ago and she had 3/4 sort of 2 week relationships but none of the blokes were interested so she bounced back and that was that.
THEN im guessing 3-4 months ago she met this bloke and he has stuck around, in fact hes even asked her to marry him.
Which is fair enough but through the grapevine we know his wife left because he beat her up.
They are spending thier spare time at the pub, she had stopped drinking and smoking before she got together with this bloke, and now shes doing both again...and its obvious to me and everyone else that hes a pisshead.
When hes drunk shes having to sort of raise her voice over the top of his slurring one and SURELY she can hear herself , that shes talking to him like hes 2 and he treats the girls like dirt. In the morning when hes still in bed hes shouting at them to be quiet when they are getting ready for school and its not fair on them.
And its not his place to say, is it?
But shes one of those desperate women, and it seems shes bypassing all these faults because he is a man and thats what she wanted.
Im waiting for her to get fed up with the drunkenness but it hasnt happened yet. Im also waiting for the shit to hit the fan and to hear her getting smacked around.
Theres nothing I can do, but I needed to get that off my chest as last night he fell over my recycling bin, full of bottles of glass and it was after midnight and he was f*ing and swearing and shes going "Will you please be quiet?" And he was going mad, saying hed nearly broke his neck, well ive saw him stumbling along a straight corridor, bouncing off each wall to get to the end so im taking no responsibility for the fact he nearly ended myself.
Its playing on my mind and I needed to get it out.

yeah cc I can see that it'd be worrying, esp with them living so close to you - not like you can escape or not hear the goings on. I lived below a poor woman in London who ended up being knocked around & finally stabbed in the stomach by her monster of a boyfriend, was v prominent in our lives, all the raging and screaming & police coming, etc. He was arrested after the stabbing. It had happened in front of her little girl. Not sure I can offer any advice, cos am sure you don't wanna get involved in their domestics, but it's hard to sit back & do nothing if it does escalate into violence...

re ciggies: that's a much better idea mm, to go outside and pant a bit, like a fag break without a fag, instead of raging and banging doors etc... oh, and am gonna try that link, re a. mccarthy - need a bit of light relief!

We are gonna do a toy sort tonight to help the boys to play again! Playstation causes too many ructions, wish we'd never bought the damn thing (dh's idea!) I HATE it and the rows and bickering it causes.

not craving too badly but replying on lozenges for sanity & to keep brain working, they are great, a miracle little helper!!

yead mammya you are doing BRILLIANTLY. You should buy yourself a wee treat at the w'end.

hope you're having good day girls, have heap of work so will check in this eve hopefully not as a ranting frothy gobbed maniac.... (61 fags not smoked!!!

(talk about see-sawing emotions....)

ps last night I roared, 'When will you start to behave?? I have put up with this for nearly eight damn years!'

they are gonna divorce me...

Im worried about her and the girls FG, im not sure if he did hit her that she would have the strenght to tell him to f* off out of thier lifes.
As shes so accepting of his other ways, being horrid to the kids and being way over the top drunk everynight I cant see that she would suddenly find her feet and say Get out. you know?

Well have a good day working and after doing the toys tonight you will feel much better and hopefully the boys will play nicely for a while

hi you two (mammya do you work during the day?). I used to have a lady come round the house to help clean whilst i was heavily pregnant with ds2 for a short while and even in that time irealised that she was being beaten up by her boyfriend. one warm day she came round with a vest top and there were bruises all over her arms and she said she had tripped on a kid's toy and fallen down the stairs. at the time i believed her but quickly realised that this wasn't the case. in the end she moved to escape him but then he found them and her teenage son had a fight with the bloke and the guy had fallen and hit his head and DIED. don't know what happened after that but at least she had the courage to leave him. so many women just can't...maybe your neighbour subconsciously finds alcoholic men 'attractive' - maybe she has family history? poor her and esp. poor girls. men can be such b***ds, how can they treat other human beings like that?

poor you for having to listen and see it all - do the girls ever witness this drama? it's so hard, you can't pick your neighbours can you. and in this situation you can't get involved, too dangerous! POOR CC

FG - i'm also worried about the state of play once my boys get older as dh is an avid game player tho i don't actually mind as he keeps it under control but i don't want the boys to think that that is the only enjoyable thing to do!

girls am off again to b'ham tonight but back tomorrow as dh has a meeting up there and i may as well go and visit him mum. hope you all handle these 'crises' with lots of heavy breathing

oh no, baby awake alert SEE YA!

My girls never see any of this no, they hear me and dp shouting at each other one a month or so, but none of this pissed parents dressed up in nappys caper that we have mixed together on both sides here...
Hope you have a nice time away MM, dont stay away for too long...we miss you too much!!!
Your old cleaners life sounds bloody tragic
My mum lived with my dad for 10 years and he beat the shit out of her..she left him when I was 5, but he was nice, very very nice, till the night he moved in.
He was a evil shit through and through to men and women alike.
Hes dead now, maybe they do get what they deserve eventually, my dad on his deathbed sat up and screamed like hed saw the devil...that pleases my mum no end
FG was having a stressy time with the girls and was panting and huffing while getting them dressed and then Tasha let out 3 squeaky little farts and I dissolved into giggles instead...nervous hystria probably, but it was better than the banshee lady who was just gonna emerge!!

hurrah for kids farting cc!!

I forgot to add mm, yes the schlepping around to baby modelling jobs with the kids did become too much aggro and we only did it for a few short weeks - the double buggy was too much a fiasco and I kept getting clamped (the car that is not the buggy!)

also v belated ta mm for your nice comments re book, am charging on with the new one, has to be done by jan... SO HAD BETTER GET OFF MUMSNET!!

cc am gonna try and see the humour in all kiddie related situations today! am feeling pretty good. 64 fags not smoked on count-o-meter. am starting a new life drawing class tonight, drawing nudie ladies & men so will report back v v late or maybe tomorrow...

keep them lungs clean & be proud girls! xxx

btw cc am so glad you can see humour in the terrible situation with your dad, ie, the devil vision on the deathbed!

Have you managed to be humourous FG? I have had one of those days that passes with nothing much doing...3 weeks tommorow...get the flags oooot!

wow, well done cc! am off now so speak tomorrow!

xxx