I am ill- ill enough that I can't lift my baby who has croup and is on steroids. DH has to go to work. What can I do?

[ArtistFormerlyKnownAsSOH]

Title says it all. My parents are in Greece, ILs are on a narrow boat somewhere. I can hardly breathe and certainly can't lift 19lb dd who is pretty bad with croup. No friends nearby who aren't working. Is there anything I can do? DD needs regular trips to the bathroom for steam which is making me faint.

There is no chance of dh's employers agreeing to time off.

SOH, glad your dh has managed to take the time off to look after you and dd. My dh is a boss man and i have had to rely on other people/myself loads of times.

It's easy for others to say he's a knob etc but i know how it is to watch dh be pulled in 2 different directions. xxx

Hope you and dd are better really soon.

Will let you know scoot! I wish I'd known about dependents leave sooner. DH was in a right old tizz thinking he was entitled to nothing as he has less than a year's service and would have to end up taking the day off without being entitled. This only served to bring back some dark and hideous memories of being out of favour at work- through no fault of his own. They're still saying he has to have a day's holiday deducted if he 'insists' on staying at home.

re police force, it's been 2yrs waiting now and they are saying 'maybe March' due to budget cuts. It can't come soon enough.

Ah, you're all lovely to listen to me bleat on.

AFKASOH just to say if your DH is being forced to take a day's holiday - he doesn't have to do this as he has rights to dependents' leave, but dependents' leave is unpaid, so it may be better for him to take it out of his holiday..

Up to 10 days a year isnt it?Thats what my staff get anyway.. and I work in care so it doesnt seem likely they would get anything if my company werent literally crowbarred into giving it them!

Do let me know SOH..I can pack up my kids and be there in no time at all..I am always sick as you know and its rotten being on your sweeny with a poorly little'un that you are struggling to look after..so DO let me know..x

AFKASOH glad this is sorted for today, just saw the thread and was about to offer help as I live in Norwich.
Wonder if we should try and arrange a Norwich/Norfolk meet up, I think there are a few MNetters around here...
Hope you are all feeling better soon.

SOH my lovely, my older sister is a HR manager and I asked her about all of this. If your dh takes the time off to look after his ill wife and child they CANNOT touch him! She was to hear that they would kick up such a fuss!

And nobody can judge your poor dh if they don't know his previous history of crappy employers. From what you've said of him he sounds like a fab husband and dad and wouldn't ever put you and M at risk. His fear of upseting his employers is totally understandable given his previous encounters! Get beeter sweetie All here if you need to talk. I'm about as far away from Norfolk as you can get but if you ever need to chat you know where I am

*beeter?
LW has started inventing her own set of words it would seem lol! I meant better, ah but you probably knew that! Oh shut up LW!

Homestart. It's homestart (in response to earlier query) who send round helpers to parents of under fives who are in need.

SOH, just seen this, there's not much more I can say, so glad J finally phoned work though, I know it's hard for him.

I really hope you feel better soon, poor M having to go to hospital it must have been sooooooo scary.

Big hugs and well wishes to you, J and M.
xxxxx

Hi there, been thinking of you, and hoping yuou feeling a bit better. big hugs. xx

Oh good grief i have just seen this having been out all day. Think once you and M are over the worst you need to come and stay here for a break.

TYG and i were saying only today that we intend to turn up on your doorstep one day so your shyness is overcome When you can talk again please give me your number so i can phone you. I can talk to J if you like re: feeding help.

Lots of love to all three of you xxxxx

Just been with LG&T, so only just seen this, I hope you are all feeling better now, get yourself down to P'mouth and join LG&T, just one day with her and Hugs will help you both enormously Lots of love xxx

How are you both feeling now?