I am ill- ill enough that I can't lift my baby who has croup and is on steroids. DH has to go to work. What can I do?

[ArtistFormerlyKnownAsSOH]

Title says it all. My parents are in Greece, ILs are on a narrow boat somewhere. I can hardly breathe and certainly can't lift 19lb dd who is pretty bad with croup. No friends nearby who aren't working. Is there anything I can do? DD needs regular trips to the bathroom for steam which is making me faint.

There is no chance of dh's employers agreeing to time off.

here is stuff about emergency leave your DH is entitled to, doesn't have to lie. And you and DD are more important, doesn't matter if the business stops I think.

TMH I know you're joking but I'm sobbing at your post. I cannot cope today. Sitting at the computer is making me wheeze and pant. DD stopped breathing this weekend and then again twice in hospital. I am not able to help her.

I can't find any clause that says dh can have time off- most things are dependent on him having been there a year and he hasn't. Problems with any kind of emergency care for her is that she's 4 months old and exclusively bf- will not take a bottle so I have to care for her but I need help. Have found some numbers and dh is ringing around.

you left a message for hv,so you can spaek enough to call your dh and tell him to come home

sounds like you could do with a mother's help for a few days, I suggest you get you husband to call the local college that runs nursery nurse courses and see if they have any students who can come out to you, they would probably do it for minimal pay as it would be experience for them. Alternatively a local babysitter may do it say a student in their gap year.
The other thing is if you did have to call an ambulance and couldn't speak they would trace your call anyway and send an ambulance so don't worry on that front.

the only other thing i can think of is going to A&E and getting you and DD admitted to hospital

and you don;t have to just cope

we will all find a way to help you

your dh must phone in and explain, the world will not stop if he doesn't go in

may I add that your dd is so gorgeous and I now feel v broody

it's not about a clause. every parent has the right to time off to take care of their child when there is no other option. ffs your daughter is struggling to breath and he's oof to work??!! ffs! what is his job?

grief, this is making me soooooooo bloody sad, am teary myself now to think of you alone.

WHERE DO YOU LIVE - TELL US SO WE CAN HELP YOU.

DS1 had croup a few years ago when DH was in Bosnia. I took him in the kitchen, shut all the door s and windows, put pans of water on to boil, and sat on the floor with him. At the time I also had a teething baby, and hadn't slept in what felt like a week. it wasn't ideal, and it may not be ide3al for you, but it could help a little. Sitting on the floor of the kitchen is better than passing out in the bathroom.
I think though your DH needs to stay off

agree with the rest who've said your dh cannot go in.

I know you defend him but I mean, what is he thinking of, leaving you alone?

My DP wouldn't consider it, and he definitely has an unhealthy obsession with work.

oh he hasn't gone to work yet!

lock the door and don't let him go

sorry but really no job is so important to put yours and your dd health at risk,is it?

Thanks for the link beanbag- going to plead voicelessly for dh to read it and consider.

LL I wish I was in Hampshire, rabbity help would be much appreciated. We have tons of biscuits I could have paid you with!

DH does not have a boss, he is the boss really but works under the umbrella of the council. Their designated cover is on long term sick leave with stress and they haven't replaced him.

Am trying all options and then appealing for a local MNer if I can't find anything.

Thank you for your support.

For the record I am never, never ill and never admit it. I wouldn't make a fuss if I just had a cold. I'm asthmatic and have a very bad chest infection.

I was not trying to be unhelpful or cruel, but we are woman and we do manaage. ASOH Where are you?

"we are women and we do manage" but she shouldn't HAVE TO, ffs.

C'mon AFKASOH (is that a namechange, I am confused) tell us where you are sweetie, we'll dispatch an Mner tout de suite!

What is with the name change LL?

AFKASOH is ShowofHands I assume.

especially as her DD is so ill and she might not be able to phone for an ambulance if she needs to

hardly a sniffle, is it...

it is the council's problem they have not replaced DH;s superior... he is legally entitled to take unpaid leave whilst DC under 5..... i'm sure the council would know that

SOH- are you doing the ringing to get help or is your dh? are you trying to sort this out while your dh merrily gets ready for work?

If you're near me, I'll come. I travel long distances for delicious babies and biscuits..

Oh thank you, I was trying to figure out what SOH was.

Sorry, I forgot about my own namechange! It's for Pirate Day (Arrrrr!)

How are you doing, SOH - I hope radio silence means DH has decided to stay at home.

What council department is it? I think we are all used to the idea of a council department not functioning properly. It can hardly matter for one day. I feel that your dh is being so pigheaded.

TMH I know women manage. When dd was 7wks old I had a similar episode but she was not ill so I battled through it and stayed in bed with her. My concern is not for me it's for my 4 month old dd who stopped breathing on Sunday. My sole concern is her. I don't give a flying rabbit's arse (sorry LL!) about me.

SOH.. should DD not be in the hospital?