Today I have accepted that I must end my love affair with white wine.................

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I adore it............consume it in bucket fulls and like a gorgeous man it takes over my life and leaves me feeling shite most of the time. Im fat, pasty , dry skinned and constantly tired and now it is starting to affect my work and home life. Yes I function very well and my children are happy and healthy cared for a lot of the time by a nanny as I work 60 to 70 hour weeks but I dont like myself very much and I know I could do so much better without this obession in my life.

So no more wine ( red or white ) or beer etc. Its gin and slimline tonics from now on and only at the weekend. Goes well with the weight watchers plan too.

Anyone else want to join me in suuport ?

Hi everyone
Just checking in since it's Monday morning, well done for last week! Good luck for this week

Hello 2 glasses of rose on friday night and LOADS saturday as on hen night. Probably about 2 bottles in total - we were out from 5pm. None yesterday. None tonight. My brother's birthday is on wednesday so might drink then but otherwise it's the wagon all week.

2 alcohol free nights, not bad for the weekend am planning on staying wine free until 5th November til friend arrives we'll see. This is being spurred on by dh being ill and on antibiotics, so much easier when he's not opening the wine. Good luck this week all...

Well done Sibble

That's fantastic Sibble.

I am afraid that I had three pints of Guinness on Monday night. Husband was elected to the Board of Management at local school so we went to celebrate after meeting. Felt a bit groggy yesterday made worse by the fact that a car didn't stop for the lollypop lady and my neighbours child cycled into the side of the car. I was just lucky that my children didn't race across the road like they usually do. Ended up with a migraine...

I was much better last night and plan to have an alcohol free week. Thank god for this thread, it's my second conscience.

Good luck everyone.

Congrats to your husband. Reckon I had about a bottle last night as it was my brother's birthday and we went for more drinks after the meal. It was a good night but regretted the extra drinks this morning.
No more til saturday.

Haven't posted on this thread for ages but thought I'd come on and preen (). Ever since joining this thread I have basically not drunk Mon-Thurs or during the day at weekends (i.e. if we've gone out for lunch or something I drive) except a few special occasions. DH has also cut down considerably and has even had a few alcohol free nights. Mind you, if DH rocks up with a bottle of wine tonight I feel the weekend may begin early ...

Hope everyone else is doing well on this.

Hi Wheely

still feel dodgy after wednesday so no drinking tonight. How's everyone else?

Managed to stay alcohol free last night but am afraid had a couple of beers on Thurs.

Under lots of stress at the moment (who isn't?) and find it too easy to reach for the bottle. My husband probably has one alcohol free night a month (which I find worrying), he won't discuss it so we just go round in circles. MIL is having radiotherapy for oesophageal cancer, my father has Alzeimers which is progressing, DD1 has another UTI, DS awaiting surgery on his testis...

Does anybody else think that they are about to drown?

Ooh Detta, you really have got your hands full. Sorry to hear about what you're going through No personal probs here, but work is sheer hell and I work half the weekend every week as I have thursday and friday off (not that it's time to myself as I look after ds who is 3)so it feels like I'm never away from the place. The manager has always been weak but he has recently denied knowledge of something I told him in order to get himself off the hook - at MY expense! I am so furious and imo it is the final insult hence I am looking for a new job

That said, still keeping to the regime well. I drank on wednesday but it was a special occasion. Didn't drink yesterday.

Sorry to hear that Ladylush. You're right to look for a new job. If he has done it once with your knowledge, what else has he done or is capable of?

I also work, Mon to Wed, childminding, as well as looking after my own three. It means that I don't have to hand them over to someone else and am in my own home. Four of them are in school until 2pm so it's not as bad as it sounds. Then they get picked up at 5.30 in the evening.

Well done with the abstinence. This thread has made me more conscious of my drinking whereas before I would have conned myself into thinking it was ok and that feeling awful the next day was down to lack of sleep...

Keep up the good work.

You're right - he's a devious git. Does the childminding pay well? Doing it part time sounds like a good idea - don't think I could handle all those kids 5 days a week, but 3 is ok.

Went out saturday nights with friends but didn't drink as much as I usually would. No alcohol fri or sun as lots on Wednesday. Start of the new week so good luck everyone.

Went out Sat night with DH and drank a bottle of wine. Didn't feel too bad yesterday, had a couple in the evening and fell asleep on the couch. Was in bed at 10pm (new time). DD2 woke up at 5.30 this am so glad I went to bed early.

It's a bank holiday here today so DH did most of the looking after, even cooked dinner!!!

The childminding is ok. I have three children of my own and I childmind two more. So there are five altogether. I drop them to school and pick them up at 2pm. They get picked up at 5.30pm. They are my friends kids so I don't charge her the full rate. She takes most of the school holidays off so it works quite nicely. Two 6 year olds, 5, 4 1/2 and 2. Fun, fun, fun...

Even better if they are a friend's kids

I had a couple of drinks on tuesday night as I knew my period was starting and I had been so hopeful this month that I might conceive........so I drank in defiance!

HI, I have just posted a new thread about my drinking - I drink far too much - usually 4 - 5 pints a night. gave up for 3 months earlier in the year - felt the best ever - lost a stone - now I'm back to square one. Feeling dependeant on it, but not alcoholic (yet). Can amy of you give me some tips for not drinking once the kids have gone to bed, or when DH opens a can etc etc

Welcome, forgawdsake.

I don't know about any tips, it's sheer will power in my case and I often falter. Some nights I treat myself to a pedicure (home made I'm afraid) after a long bath. I can only run the bath after the kids have gone to sleep or they would want to get in... The only trouble is by the time I've got the kids asleep I only feel like a nice chilled glass of wine. So, it's down to will power. I tell myself that I will thank myself in the morning and take it half an hour at a time.

It's very hard when DH cracks open a bottle of wine and he rarely has an alcohol free night.

I'm hoping to give up for month of November. (It's a religious thing, month of holy souls and all that. Don't want to bore anybody with that.)

Well done every one this week and enjoy your weekends. (I failed miserably and have not had an alcohol free day until yesterday).

Yup, same. I've been good most of the week, but had a bottle of Julio Gallo last night to myself, and since it's the weekend there's always the temptation to have another tonight, and then another on Saturday whilst I'm watching the boxing (go Joe Calzaghe!). I'm overweight too, have dodgy skin and I hate feeling so shitty the morning after. I always say "no more", but then by 6pm the niggling idea of "maybe" getting a bottle for the evening sneaks up, and by 9pm I'm sat on the sofa with a glass in my hand and the bottle on the table beside me. It's such a waste of money, time and skin/brain cells!

Anyway, I'm also on the "no more wine" bandwagon, and wishing everyone else luck. xx

Hi forgawdsake and amy Good luck for the week. My tips are to buy a decent alcohol free beer replacement (see my post earlier on in the thread for the name of the beer I get). You can drink that while your dp is drinking his beer and you will feel smug the next morning Also to eat dinner earlier. I used to eat dinner late as I would have a glass of wine before eating dinner and then I would have one with my dinner. Then another tip is to exercise as you can't do it if you have had a drink. The first week or so are difficult - I can't lie. It gets easier though. I have setbacks - like last week when I was pissed off that I got my period so I drank several nights in the week but I get back on the week wagon

Hi, I haven't read this thread as it is ENORMOUS! But am beginning to think I might be alcohol dependent. I get edgy if I don't have the prospect of alcohol in the evening. LOLOLOL. When I see that written down it's like, well YES, you quite blatantly ARE alcohol dependent.

Everyone on this thread seems to be doing really well, I don't think I have your will power.

What do you DO instead of drinking with a meal or just generally throughout the evening? How do you wind down after an epic day at the front with two pre-schoolers?

Welcom CDBCDB.

Hope everyone had a good w'end.

Have been on the wagon since Friday which has been helped by the fact that I'm on antibiotics!!!

I think not drinking is a change in habit and way of thinking. I look at my parents who don't drink. What did they do when they were stressed out? It is sometimes the easy option and too often becomes the hardest habit to break.

Good luck to everyone this week.