"I crack the whip, and you skip" - 10 / 10 Boot Camp

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

Oh they weren't horrid, honestly

just Lively and Boisterous and all that

(nightmare in the situation I was in, but not horrid boys)

yes it isn't strictly necessary at all but of course I will have forgotten all the bad bits and think it was fun

oh god forgot to say my PA refused to work 5 mins after I got there, so I did an hour of improvised stuff with no music. Yay me

Of course at other times he is truly lovely.

Franny, can we have a new thread please? This one is taking too long to load!

Franny, you deserve a medal. Thanks for the badge btw

Oh dear sorry TooT

can we stumble through tomorrow or is it getting urgent?

I need a new title in the first place!

AH yes TooT. This I know. I know this TWICE. Though my ds1 sounds rather like your dd (having read the thread) in terms of mild aspergic tendencies etc, and ds2 has DCD, so I don't speak as the mother of absolute neurologically typical boys.

My really big main tip? Grow an authoritarian bone. Really. If you can't, then get your dp to. Honestly. It's what it's all about. Push, push, shove, shove. Here are the boundaries. I sometimes feel that my ds's just endlessly repeat the Two year old phase of pushing the boundaries and wanting the boundaries put back. DD really doesn't do this.

Toughen up. Be clear about what is expected, what language is acceptable and what isn't. Have consequences. Honestly.

Did I say I got up at 3.30? Shall I go away and think about this a bit?

Will try to think while I settle dcs. Am not good at titles though.

Have thought a bit more. Is definitely a phase, and quite a good one I think. DS1 is much more ameniable now he's hitting ten. But I have done a lot of 'Don't you ever talk to me like that. I am your mother' stuff. Has been exhausting, but worth it. I think it's an early training ground for teenagehood.

Also, I think they have a tough time at school at this age. Really, I do. The peer stuff comes into play in quite a complex way, and they're all trying to strut their stuff. So the message is Stut Away Sonny, But Never Be Rude To ME.

Am I making sense? God I sound awful.

Dp's bones are TOO authoritarian. Far too much so. So I end up trying to balance things. Think I end up as a sort of comforting doormat a lot of the time and when I do say things firmly nobody really listens. Goodness I sound crap, don't I?

Am most excited by the HEing by the way.

Please come back and talk to me. Otherwise I'm here alone, grabbing Franny's whip and barking out orders at poor boys and the tumbleweed of 10/10 is blowing past me.

(I think the title has gone to 100's head )

that Groombridge place looks SUPERB. I must go there. Have asked dp where Kent is, in preparation.

But does the message get through eventually? In dribs and drabs? Even if they don't appear to be listening? And, sorry, what is DCD?

eat the tumbleweed, it counts as 1 of your 10

ah yes you and BBB have remained tellingly quiet about your food this week

so

coffee and brie?

oooh this sounds familiar. My dh is shouty. Far too shouty and often impusively so.

Perhaps you and dh need to find the balance then? DH and I had to because he shouted, unfairly, they reacted etc etc etc.

My best line was 'we have the action, we don't then all need to deal with your REACTION. Let's just deal with the action.'

I'm talking to much.

coffee

I knew it

But does the message get through eventually? In dribs and drabs? Even if they don't appear to be listening? And, sorry, what is DCD?

[groundhog day]

Oh, food. Yes well lots fresh fish, sardines in tomato sauce etc. Yummy. Salads, sangria (had fruit in, can't it count?) and mussels and erm, am trying to find some fruit and veg. Couple of salads. Lots of melons.

DCD stands for Developmental Co-Ordination Disorder. This is our third dx for ds2 and is currently my favourite as it is so handily short. Bascially it's dyspraxia, Spld type thing.

Sorry, not sure what happened there. Dd2 was helping.

And oh yes, lots of coffee. Bliss. Espresso. The works.

So, is that fine or gross motor skills? Both? Neither?

Does the message get through? I think so, I hope so. I mean the LOVING is more important of course, always. Lots of support, little nagging, just straight up and down 'that's not okay' without too much criticism.

I have no idea whether it works. But we had a good holiday. And DS1 is shaping up rather marvellously, to my mind.

Both. Though he's also outrageously clever (honest gov, I've been told by Professional Ed Psychy whatsits) so we have all that ticking about one side of his head, and an inability to write or hold a knife and fork too. Is complicated. I only mention it because sometimes ds2 really LETS BLOW, and I've been awful nice about it because I can see it's frustrating but recently I realized I had to start saying "No. It's not okay to shout and scream like that. We need to find other things to do. NO.'

See what I mean?

Look at me Franny, I'm SHARING.

AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

I have been with ds since my last post! He has only just gone to sleep! What's got into him? Dp has gone to get me some ice-cream.

Franny the ring is one dp got me. It has gone walkabout a few times now... I think it must be in the house but it's not in any of the places it should be

BBB - Edinburgh

Oh Tatties I used to have to rock and feed ds to sleep every night until he was almost 3. I was often up there till this time with my back hurting - poor you. It makes you so ruddy frustrated doesn't it? Ice cream will be good and I hope the ring turns up.

100 I think you should maybe go to bed before we are all tempted to ask you lots of personal questions. While you're sharing and all

Oh no ask away, I'm quite giddy with tiredness and coffee. Am going to make more.

Have I been to strict for the 10/10 thread do you think? What with the consequences and don't you talk to me like that young man I am your MOTHER. I worry about fitting in.