"I crack the whip, and you skip" - 10 / 10 Boot Camp

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

Good morning
Had a quick read - and have to say i don't like flower tastes either. My friend had those crying chocolates and i tried one - and thought it tasted like soap.

Only done one of the 2 paintings, so have to do the other one tonight.

Hope LL is ok today. And that Zippi is feeling better too.

Yes soap, that's right

although I think I had lavender something the other day didn't I? At that nice restaurant? and it was ok

ENTP I think you are sorely needed on the cc and bf threads - I haven't the heart for it

Boco can we see your painting?

have slept ...tiredness overcame me
Heating on,jumper on,full up with pear,apple,cinnamon,raisin porridge & lychee,strawberry & passion fruit salad.
Didn't have swim or go out for tea...dh decided he was too busy.Still have washing up from last night & breakfast to do,couldn't face it last night,
Going into town soon to buy ds yet more shoes for his alarmingly enormous ever growing feet & to find new jeans as cant keep any of mine up.
Going to a friends later for a couple of hours as ds is absolutely sick of my company & needs small people to talk to ...going to take our uber healthy lemon & blueberry cake...tee hee...she thinks am a complete cranky nutter
Her face when ds asked what chips were!

LOL at "what are chips?" Nice one LL

LL sorry to speak so bluntly but is your dh always so crap? Or is he just reacting very badly to the news of your illness and trying to run away from you / it. Because I have to say he sounds like he is being a complete tosser. Why is there still washing up left for you in the morning? FGS

Hi Lullaby

I hope you aren't doing too much

shouldn't you be getting a cleaner to help?

hope you have a good time with friend

Well, I don't know what soap you all use, but MY Montezuma's Orange and geranium crying chocolate does not taste like soap.

LL, you will get a cleaner won't you?

Mmmmmmmmm..Rococo do a lovely dark orange & geranium chocolate......Artisan basil & banana is my fav though ...
Cleaner ????????????some hope!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
dh doesn't do anything in the home apart from take the rubbish out!

MrsC, you may send me your homemade truffles for christmas.

Floral gums - yuck - my mums best friend used to paper bags full when she came to stay, and i used to get so frustrated, lots of pretty colourful sweets that we were never allowed, but they were so unsatisfying because they tasted exactly like the little plastic end of a biro that you can suck out and chew on when bored.

Franny - yes, i can show you, but don't really want to post the links here because its got my real name on. But can email anyone who is interested. I'm not exactly successful, but have enough work to get by on.

Lully it may be time to have a talk to your dh about the division of labour. How do you manage to make so many amazing dishes all the time? Dh must start doing the washing up, and take ds swimming while you lie down and do nothing.

he has a grotesque amount of work to do to keep us afloat..he mostly works 6/7 days a week & evenings

so no one actually eats flowers then

Boco....would love to see your work...lullyboo at hotmail dot co dot uk

erm, I have eaten elderflower fritters and courgette flower fritters and have been known to eat daisies. . .

LL, if your DH is working so many hours he must be in a demanding yet well-paid job, so surely he can afford to get a cleaner in for you, even if just every other day for an hour. A professional cleaner can get done in an hour what takes a mum with a child around her ankles about 5 hours to complete (no exaggeration).
My DH is very senior in his career and has a lot of responsibilities and works long hours, often weekends too. However he has also been getting up in the night to help comfort teething LO, he cooks supper when he can, he irons his own shirts, helps me do a whip round/hoover/mop in the evening or weekend - his view is that as a mum I am doing a full time job, just as he is outside the home, and therefore domestic chores are split betwen us, as much as is feasible because he is out of the house for most of the day. If the place is a tip, he doesn't care beause he knows my primary role currently is to nuture his child, not run a show home. He bathes LO, changes his nappy, feeds him, because he gets pleasure from interacting on that intimate level with his son. Childcare can be onerous for him at the end of a long day, as for me, but also rewarding, so he gets on with it. my DH grew up in a very male/female role bound household so men can change from the script they grew up with. Just a thought.
Right, LO is napping so I must away to my books - and some fruit.

I am quite worried that stress is going to be too much for you..I hope you can find someone to confide in and release some of it

you can't carry on regardless ...it just can't be done

Just to reiiterate what Possum said. Sometimes dh gets in from work and I push the baby and a glass of wine in his hands and send him to off to do a bath/get him ready for bed etc. He doesn't do much tidying in the evenings, he's often working too but he loads the dishwasher sweeps up etc if he's not working.

I would not count having a cleaner as a luxury at the moment, LL, you should factor that into your health finances as far as I'm concerned. It sounds like he has a good job? Even two or three hours once a week would get your floors and bathroom done etc.

and anyway, you said he'd taken the rest of the week off BECAUSE of the news. So how can he be too busy to help you, LL?

Someone needs to have a word with him.

ENTP perhaps, but there will be 100 other people reading the thread who may be dithering about what to do, and if no-one comes on and says "you are all completely mad" then they will have no other frame of reference

I think we underestimate how many people lurk on here - when I post my email address offering information on heuristic play I get literally SCORES of emails from people who have never ever posted on here, but read voraciously [peculiar feeling of being watched]

Possum some more coming your way after your post about your dh

LL, apologies, I think it is probably extremely bad manners to criticise someone else's partner, but I could not keep my mouth shut. I do hope you can get some help around the house if dh won't help.

Boco please email me with links, I would love to see them

I once ate some daffodils I was off my face at the time. They gave me a headache and I read afterwards that they are mildly poisonous. Whoops.

Sometimes people can be swayed though. It may be that before asking about something on here, their whole peer group/family are of a certain way of thinking and they almost wanting confirmation that their instincts are right.

I remember with ds1, I'd been moaning about a bad night's sleep and my friend said yes, her mother always says the hardest thing a mother has to is let baby cry themselves to sleep, but it must be done. I was barely 20, ALL my influences were of the cry cry/bottle/wotsits at one variety and I had to really broaden my social horizons to find others to confirm my instincts, that babies need their mothers, that's all, it's simple. The opposite of manipulation and cunning.

I wish I'd known about mnet then. Might not have been swayed to stop feeding ds1 at seven months. By the time dd got towards one, well, I was firmly cast in the role in earth motherdom.

Can you send me some info on heuristic play please? Occasionly I waver in the no baby einstein and flashy v-tech and I look at Lo's felt balls, lemons and sink plugs and wonder if he really would prefer a bright flashy beepy thing.

He loves them if he sees them elsewhere. Sometimes I can't really rememeber why I do what I do and wonder if it's selfish, you know, for aesthetic reasons, if that makes sense?

Do you really think people watch who don't post?

That is an odd feeling, like eyes at the window of your cosy room with the fire crackling, not necessarliy scary or unfriendly, just unnerving as you don't know who they are.

MrsC I will send it

can I make a confession as well? I have not taken your felt ball to my classes yet because I love it so much I just want to enjoy it for a bit more before it gets slavered on

it is so beautiful and unusual, I would like a set of 3 to put on my windowsill and stroke occasionally [no joke emoticon]

Yes there are certainly hundreds of people reading and not posting. I used to be one of them

Oh and they all seem very nice and normal when they email me! But of course those are the ones who aren't compiling lists of information about us, so they can abduct us and put us in their cellar