"I crack the whip, and you skip" - 10 / 10 Boot Camp

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

how strange people on this thread..seem to have more in common at every turn..

how can there happen to be people who have ever had thoughts about bridges and written them down randomly talking about f&V

yes I do feel I have wasted my entire life so don't feel bad about mentioning it..when i emtnion it people get very annoyed

still no brickies or fruit and veg

reading a silly book with the intention of getting into the swing and then reading a less silly one

and idly thinking what should I write an art and design essay on as part of my to be created portfolio..has to be something spatial

blackberries,raspberries,blueberries,yoghurt,granola,toasted almonds & a pomegranite.

Am shaky,tired & scared....went for CT scan yesterday & was in for 2.5 hrs..drunk yucky stuff in plain water as cant abide squash,had canula fitted,dye injected,lay in tunnel with arms above head for what seemed like hrs..in & out,holding breathe etc...then was left alone for ages stuck in wretched tunnel.
Eventually the consultant who did my venogram,pelvic scan,organ scans etc appeared & it seems when he did the liver scan on Friday he did see something.but didn't tell me.
I have multiple tumors in my liver,eight to be precise.
He is hoping they are a benign tumor,Hepatic Hemangioma but wont know until a biopsy is done.Have to have a mammogram too.
He thought he would be having to talk to me about life expectancy yesterday but having seen the CT is a little more optomistic.
Dh cant stop crying & has taken the rest of the week off...I'm just numb & cant take it all in really.

(Toot....am a non jabber with a great homeopath )

Oh god LL, how scary and awful for you! When are you having the biopsy and mammogram? It's great that the consultant is optimistic and that he thinks they are benign, but can see how scared you must still be.

Thinking of you, take care of yourself xxxxxx

I dont know..have been sat by the phone waiting for hosp to ring...the danger is if they rupture apparantly..so biopsy is dodgy.

lullabyloo..how awful

you must be scared, wishing you well...don't know what to say really I am rubbish at this

xx

LL, whereabouts are you geographically? Do you have people who can help you entertain DS? It must be exhausting keeping things on a 'normal' even keel for him. How is he? Has he picked on the stress levels in the household? Is there anything any of us can do practically speaking? Sorry for the avalanche of questions. Don't hesitate for a moment in asking if you need anything. sending positive vibes >

Oh damn LL. And to echo what Saggy just said.

yes where are you..for real life help

Lullaby, I am appalled for you Here were we all wishing they would find out what is wrong with you - and a fat lot of good that was.

What happens if they are benign? Did they go into that?

Just want to second what Possum says - don't hesitate to ask if we can do anything.

God LL Agree with Possum that you should get help with ds is you can.

Boco do you paint? Tell me more!

Avi, very of the kitchen and SPACE! Ds looks lovely too

Just realised I didn't check in yesterday Do you think I got away with it? Yesterday was good f&v wise. Didn't go to the gym but I was very active and hardly stopped all day, running around the park with ds then hoovering and stuff... Today so far I have had prune juice, banana, raisins, apple and houmous. Went for a walk this morning (ended up carrying ds half the time ) but will aim to go to the gym if this afternoon goes well and I can get dinner made in time.

Where is 3andnomore? She is the expert on exercise videos isn't she? I would like a recommendation of something I could do that ds might join in with (some task I know..)

Oh and does anyone drink white tea? Just curious...

Ummm...am in Kent
Ds is impossible,very agressive & negative towards me...all play is crashing & bashing & angry...very out of character
When we got home last night he told me he didn't want me to be here anymore......a bit too close to the mark for comfort last night
Havn't told anyone in rl...cant face it
Dh is home ...but that means he's up in the turret working..not playing with ds
Have taken him breakfast up & cups of tea & putt on my cheery face & consoled him.....but could really do with a decent motherly figure now.I'm tired of being mother

Oh LL, it's just awful you haven't got more support. I can't imagine what you are going through

I'm dreading how much all this treatment is going to come to,it's going to completely cripple us,£3,000 already & it's hardly started

shouldn't it be free? or am i being dozy

LL that sounds almost the hardest thing Just when you need love and support Completely normal for children to behave this way at times of crisis, and shows how secure and loved he feels to be able to express these difficult emotions. But so unpleasant for you.

I've had to go privately

Sorry I meant your ds's behaviour sounds terribly hard - hadn't read about the money. Good god.

He tripped over me earlier on & bashed my leg & made me cry..normally he would rush to snuggle me but today he said 'I want you to be hurt mama'

LL, is there just one person in RL you can tell, who won't fuss and suffocate you with well-meaning faffery, just be calm and practical and act as an anchor to you? Someone DS knows and trusts, who can entertain him in your presence so you are there for DS but not having to take the brunt of his energy? Sister? Girlfriend? Aunt? Older friend who is like big sister or aunt? you must be on tenterhooks and having to keep it together for DS is all you should be expected to do right now, everythng else should be taken care of for you. Including cooking for you and generally mollycoddling you and making you put your feet up and having lashings of TLC.

Your DH is presumably locked into his coping mechanism, so who else can brdige the gap and provide what you really need right now - i.e. looking after? I bet there are people you might be shy of asking who would actually be delighted to help. People often feel flattered when you turn to them in an emergency. It shows that you trust and value them. They wouldn't consider it a chore, more a compliment.

but surely no one can afford this kind of treatment out of their own pocket..can't you change ot the nhs?

how old is ds?

He is really angry with you for having gone away and for not being your usual happy self

It shows what a good job you have done IMO - he knows he is entitled to the very best treatment and is livid when he doesn't get it

Lullaby I am so sorry to hear this. Whereabouts in Kent are you? I am only in SE london so if you are N Kent perhaps I could help out. My DD1 is 2 and likes playing with older children.

I know that you need practical help but if you need a "person" to talk to, rant at etc, would you consider the Samaritans? Their listening service is excellent and they aim to help people with many different types of problems. I phoned them once when I needed to offload to someone who was not personally involved and didn't know anyone who was, and they were amazing.

Please do get in touch if there is anything at all I can do to help. I'll be very glad to. Take care XXXXX

Lullaby - I'm so sorry to hear of these horrors you are facing. Whereabouts are you? For what it's worth, sending you huge cyber strength and sunshine vibes

Do you think franny?
I feel like the crappiest crappest of mothers right now

We have no family between us really,my mother & brother choose not to have contact anymore since my father upped & left to live in America nearly 2 yrs ago.
All my closest friends are in London & have 2/3/4 or more children of their own.
I have 'friends' here,but not close enough to confide in or rely on for help.
I have been crap at forming bonds since ds was born...we have been very cellular.
Have a wonderful grandmother,but she is 90 & lives in Dorset & I wouldn't think of telling her .
Ds needs the atmosphere lightening..but it's hard to be convincingly 'upbeat'

Thanks everyone,you are all lovely as ever
We'll manage..it's just early days I guess & a bit hard to digest