miscarriage

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Susan, I wish I could think of something to help you that doesn't sound crass! Maybe you should give your little girl a hug and remind yourself what its all about. She's there as proof you're a great mum. Have a good cry and let it all out.

We're thinking of you.

So sorry to read of your situation Rhubarb. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. I had cramp and some bleeding for 2 days. At the scan there was no heartbeat. I wanted to wait a week just to make sure which the consultant agreed to. However, a couple of days later I started bleeding more heavily and knew I was definately miscarrying. I phoned the hospital and was admitted the next day for an operation called an evacuation of uterus, where retained tissue is removed gently under general anaesthetic. I did not pass any clots or tissue when I was bleeding. I went into hospital fasted in the morning, went to theatre and was given a general anaesthetic which I actually found quite pleasant. It seemed like I had hardly been asleep when I woke up back in my bed in the ward. I had slight cramp which mild painkilling tablets helped. I got home about tea-time and felt fine. It was a week later that I became very tearful and emotional which lasted for a couple of weeks I would say. I was also tired because I was anaemic and needed iron tablets for a while. HTH. Mears.

Rhubarb . I'm sorry I can't offer any advice but just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you. Look after yourself.

Dear Rhubarb ... you are going through the mill at the moment aren't you? Poor you ... I am thinking of you.
I had an m/c at 12 weeks in November and it is still pretty raw in my memory so I know how you are feeling. I started to bleed and had a scan which showed the baby had no heartbeat ... I chose to go the natural path and had the m/c at home ... No, I didn't see it for which I was thankful ... I did need a D&C a couple of weeks later as most but not all the tissue had gone ... It was a very easy and painless procedure and I know that if (please god it doesn't) it happened again I would go straight for the D&C first ...
Have you got an EPU near you so that you can go and get a scan?
Lots of Love and cyber hugs .... G XXXX

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Rhubarb, really sorry to hear your news. I had a mc a few years ago and this has brought back all the memories - and, at 9wks pg now, all the paranoia. Thinking of you.

Hi Rhubarb, hope you are ok this morning. Thinking of you.
Bunnyx

Rhubabrb, just wanted to say I am thinking of you too. I've had 3 early miscarriages at 10, 8 and 12 weeks, and have to say what evetyone here has said is very accurate. I never needed a d&c, but had a scan each time to check I was OK, the lst time was the hardest as I had seen that baby alive on a scan, and then to see there was nothing there was very hard indeed.
Take care of yourself - you need a bit of pampering and looking after just now, love Susan x

Rhubarb - nothing to add, except my sympathy. Cyberhugs.

Oh Rhubarb, I am so, so sorry. Your emotions must be all over the place. I've been reading your "miseryguts" thread, so I know a little bit of the background. I don't know what to write, but I'm crying for you.

Things are never quite what they seem are they? I was convinced I had lost it yesterday, but the scan this morning discovered that the pregnancy sac is still in place, however there is a large blood clot just above it, out of the sac. This could indicate the start of a miscarriage, or it might not. It was too early to tell if the baby was alive or not, I have been booked in for another scan a week tomorrow. Until then I have been told it is 50/50. So I'm in limbo-land. Has anyone else had any experience of this? I always assumed a miscarriage would be a straightforward case, I guess I was pretty ignorant! The bleeding has stopped, but I do have stomach ache and diarhoerra - don't know if that is linked. I guess we will just have to wait and see.
Thanks for all your messages.

oh Rubarb how awful for you. You must be so tense not knowing one way or the other. Fingers-crossed.

Rhubarb, no useful experience I'm afraid - but just wanted to send you a cyberhug and lots more good wishes. Will have everything crossed for you to keep hold of the little one. xxxxxx

oh rhubarb- posted on the other thread, but I have just remembered when I had my early scan with ds2 (at 6 weeks) there was a kind of small blood clot. The scanner said it was no problem but I might get some blood loss (I didn't though). I had another scan 2 weeks later and it had gone. When I had the m/c in the previous pregnancy the blood loss very quickly became heavy- it never stopped just got heavier and heavier.
Fingers crossed for you.

Rhubarb, I had spotting at about 5-6 weeks ( certainly could not be described as bleeding) and when I had a scan they saw a large sac of blood/fluid and said this is what was probably causing the spotting. I was also too early on in the pregnancy for them to confirm that there was even a fetus there.
I was asked to have re-scan 2 weeks later and the sac was still there and the fetus had a nice strong heart beat. I'm now 17 weeks and the pregnancy is going well.
I was going to post this yesterday when I saw you first messages but, I suppose, I didn't want to raise any false hopes for you. I hope the next week doesn't bring to much worry for you.
Take care

Rhubarb - I did not post on the other thread, although I wanted to give you some support. Just didn't know what to say Anyway, I hope that things work out for you for the best, and I'm thinking of you.

Rhubarb, thinking of you.

Oh Rhubarb - what a nightmare for you. I was left in a similar limbo land with dd1 and really empathise. After relatively minor bleeding, I had an early scan and was told it was too early to tell and had to wait a week. It was unbelievably horrible week and I spent the whole week at home. Each day i tried to get up and go to work but gave up as the tears just kept coming - was too embarrassed about making "a fool" of myself to go in despite doctors saying it was ok.... Saying that, we got through it somehow (lots of ice cream and chocolate helped me...) and had the second scan which confirmed a heartbeat to our utmost relief. The main relief was just knowing one way or another. Find as many distractions as you can, look after yourself and forget about housework etc. - it can all wait. Whatever happens, you will get through this week somehow.
As for the clot - as you may know, I have had a bit of a scary start to my second pregnancy recently. At about 7/8 weeks I started bleeding with lower back ache. Went for an emergency scan and they confirmed a heartbeat but also commented on an area of bleeding adjacent to the sac. They had no answers or reasons for what it was and just said that I might have further bleeding or my body may absorb it. I am not sure if a patch of bleeding is similar to a clot but I can perhaps understand how worrying it is for you. When researching about bleeding areas I did read somewhere that a bllod clot near the sac or underneath it is thought to be the result of "messy" implantation!! Therefore, not necessarily something to worry about in isolation.
I have been away on holiday for a break (came back early as dh?s work commitments changed ) and feel much calmer about being pregnant - I still hate being pregnant but can know see it will be worthwhile if we have another lovely baby at the end of it. I haven?t had any more bleeding so can only presume that I have absorbed the mystery blood as it is almost two weeks now. Difficult to feel positive yet as I feel that would be tempting fate but so far so good. My thoughts and best wishes are with you rhubarb - I hope this week passes by quickly for you and that you can know one way or the other soon so that you can move on from this awful limbo really soon. (Sorry for the long thread, brain not together yet.)

rhubarb - so sorry to hear what you are going through - I think being in limbo is worst of all, I had a miscarriage in my first pregnancy early on, it was a twin pregnancy so worried would lose ds also so had 2 weeks at home doing nothing but eat chocolate/read/watch tv, they say resting doesn't make any difference but pychologically I think it did and certainly couln't have faced seeing anyone at this time.
Thinking of you this morning and hope the scan gives you positive news, love jemw

Rhubarb, so sorry about everything - realise it is a complicated situation. I have no advice but a big cyberhug for you.

Oh Rhubarb, don't know what to say but want to tell you that my thoughts are with you.
sis

Ditto what everyone else has said and big {{{{{hugs{}}}}}}. I've said myself on here ( re ivf tho) that 'limbo' is almost worse than knowing the worst - at least then you can start to grieve, when you fear the worst but don't know your whole life is on pause and every minute seems an eternity.
Will be hoping very hard for you.