Crack open the wine... it's CANCER SUPPORT THREAD 61!

[WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo]

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So! Wine or takeaway? Dd1 is out with DH and dig. Dd 2 is in bed so I plan on having a bath and then one or t'other or ... both?

Dog not dig!

Both. Obviously

Mrspotter definitely both! What takeaway will you get? :)

purple that seems like a good plan. Fingers crossed for the breast referral.

I've never been particularly keen on exercise, but now I really enjoy the gym. Even if I only do a little bit, like today, it is just a reminder that my body is still here and vaguely working :)

penguins well done on your first dose :)

I'm still enjoying it Leslie 😉 Not jealous of thoughts of a takeaway instead.

Oh penguins I am so sorry.... I am such a comfort eater 😿(its Indian by the way) ❤️

It's fine, you enjoy it. It's Chinese I am after anyway.

duckland hopefully not too sinister! Although we do only now have 11 chicks - one was poorly when it hatched and didn't make it.

MrsPotter hope you went for both! Outlander got me through my month in hospital - very welcome distraction!

Penguins good luck with rest of fast and nasty drink. Will be relieved if I can't have one. I do have a small bit of sigmoid colon left (for joining purposes) but I doubt if it's enough to bother with.

Leslie well done on the gym.

Thanks Tayto Hopefully you won't need these then, sorry to hear about the chick.

Managed to sleep about 6 hours but now up at 6am for second litre, mmm. We only have one bathroom and DS likes to go to the toilet a lot - seems to enjoy it so had to explain I had 2 litres of meds to drink that would mean I needed to go quickly as the doctors were going to luck at my stomach. Got haha Mummy, told him I am serious. Then got oh Mummy I'm so looking forward to seeing your stiches Said I won't be having stiches. Oh how do they do it exactly Mummy. I claimed ignorance.

penguins kids are great aren't they (sometimes!). Mine (5) keep showing people my picc line and offering to show them my scar from op . They are intrigued by all things medical and loved it when the nurses let them do my obs in hospital. I suspect they would find a colonoscopy very intriguing and hilarious as anything bottom related is to them!.

Mrspotter excellent choice. I hope that you enjoyed it :) all the very best for today. I'll be thinking of you.

Tayto I'm sorry abut the poorly chick it's good your children are curious rather than scared, I suppose they sound like fun.

penguins I hope the second dose went OK and that you've been given priority bathroom access! Good luck today

I'm a bit bleurgh today so my dad is bringing me breakfast in bed. I have made a pillow nest. Quite the life of luxury really.

Tayto I'm so jealous you have chicks! I'd love to go to a petting farm but I don't think my 6ft 15year old DS would get away with being classed as a child, and I'd probably look like a bit of a weirdo going without any small children

Hope you're feeling better soon Leslie, at least the sun has disappeared so you can stay in and watch trashy tv all day without wishing you were outside doing things

Well you guys are stuck with me for a little while longer. They've found a 1.5 - 2cm lump and had a biopsy. But it's only to confirm their pretty certain diagnosis of cancer.
Go back next week for results but they are pretty sure I'll be having surgery to remove it.

Feeling surprisingly ok but going for a drink with DH before heading home to dds.

Cxxxxx

Oh bugger Mrspotter I am sorry to hear that a drink with DH sounds a good idea. Give yourself a chance to process things as best you can. Of course we were all hoping you wouldn't need to stay, but pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable :)

purple I'd love to go to a petting farm too. Maybe we need a special lacies outing

Just had a bit of a cry in the pub!

Getting chocolate now before going to bed with a migraine (my excuse as dds are too young for this!) will get up later to tell dsds as they are older.

Mrspotter how old are your DSDs? There's people on here with all different ages of children so hopefully they can provide some advice/experience on how to talk to them about it when you're ready :)

Aw mrspotter its an emotional rollercoaster isn't it? One minute you're fine and the next you're a sobbing wreck. I find I'm not too bad until people start being really nice to me I'm fine with the practical side of it and talking about the treatment but as soon as someone gives me any sympathy I'm no good. But chocolate helps fix most things I hope it goes as well as it can with your dsds

MrsPotter So sorry to hear that, I hope they have caught it early at least.

Purple You should go to a petting farm, I'm sure we can find you a small child from somewhere. Or Leslie and her bunnies.

Tayto My son too has become fascinated with anything medical since I got ill, he would love the full details and also find it hilarous too but I don't want half his school and his male teacher knowing the details

Leslie Hope you are feeling a bit better now and glad your Dad is looking after you.

I am just back from the hospital, had deep sedation but they said it went fine and was a normal colon so I presume that means its cancer free. Have follow up on 11th and follow up for gynae biopsy on 15th but am presuming that's clear too as they haven't been in touch. DH has just taken urine sample to doctors for my bleeding / bladder clots / pain and they will test if that is uti but pain has now gone and bleeding stopped - maybe MoviPrep cures utis. Not sure if I will get re-referred for that -111 said I needed to be but I had a cystocopy which showed no sign of bladder cancer a few months ago and am still under urology but no bleeding then. And have to do my Lymes Disease test but looks like I could have 2 out of 3 hospitals sign me off soon.

My girls are 9 & 12. So won't be telling them anything as yet.
But when we got home DH's aunt and uncle were here so I had to be all bright and breezy for a bit! Only just gone but kiddies heading to bed soon (we are an early to bed family!) so chocolate will be consumed in the next half hour or so!!!!

Mine are 11 and 12, though the 12 DD is very mature, the 11 DS is very young. Mine know but its a personal decision but I've had about 6 months of testing and been unwell so difficult to say nothing. DS finds it all very exciting, DD goes from worrying to complaining its boring. They do want reassurance about how it will affect them, if you will die etc, maybe get staging and a plan first. Useful to let schools know too if you say.

Thanks penguins- once I have a treatment plan next week we'll go from there.
Just sent the dds to bed and am waiting for dsd no. 1 to arrive to let them know, then the chocolate consumption will commence.
Wish I hadn't had the wine at the pub, feeling a bit icky now - probably a bit of shock to be honest!

There's a link here to talking to children.

www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/coping/emotionally/talking-about-cancer/talking-to-children

Mine basically wanted to know what's wrong (which I only know partially but told them factually what I know), DD wanted to know whether I will die (told her no), whether anyone has died from these things ever (told her yes but its rare) and if I died what would happen to them (told her they would stay living here at the same schools with DH and that DH would get money from the life insurance is everything is paid for but I am not going to die). DS mainly wants to know every details of every test and the timing of everything and finds it all exciting.