Obese but with pretty normal legs / arms etc but very fat, enormous belly ***Ovarian cancer diagnosis - title edited by MNHQ at OP's request***

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Hi
I'd be glad of any advice or personal experiences here. I am around 4 stone overweight, so definitely obese. Most of it is on my stomach though, which now looks like I'm 11 months pregnant with triplets. I'm in my 50s so this is not a possibility. It's very painful and I am short of breath when I walk etc.

I've put on a lot of weight in a short period - 10lbs in 2 months.

Six months ago I was bodyboarding in the sea, walking every day and doing an exercise class every week. Now it's a struggle to do anything.

I'm having bloods done on Friday but any ideas / comments? Am I just unlucky to pile it all on in one place?

So glad you're home!

It sounds as though you could do with someone stepping into the 'mum' role for a bit and giving you a bit of tlc. It sounds like you're being really strong for your dc, but it's your turn to be looked after. Is there anyone who can fuss over you for a bit whilst you recover? A good friend perhaps?

Glad you're home and echo the thoughts about asking for what you need. I think many of us are a bit rubbish at that but specific requests would be good to help take the load off a little. It's not a time to be shy or selfless xx

Sending my best wishes x

I am totally rubbish at words of encouragement by nature. But having just spent the past hour and a half reading this thread, I couldn't not say something positive x So glad you've had the Op and that it went well xx

Sending you best wishes op. Have a relaxing weekend if possible x

Delurking to say best wishes with your recovery TQ - you're a total star and your DDs must be so proud of you and relieved you're home. Cashews and wine all round! Could one of your daughters administer the injections? I had some friends offer to do mine when I had to inject myself due to a blood clot post-pregnancy. But my friends are weirdos...

I have just read the whole thread and want to send very unmumsnetty hugs to say you are so brave and strong (even when you don't think you are!). Thinking of you, hope today is an ok day x

Oh sweetie. So glad you're home. Hopefully you'll sleep well and rest.

Know what you mean about being in mum mode. Hugs.

My wonderful surgery has booked appointments for me for the injections, and a district nurse will come round on the sundays and alternate saturdays, so all sorted. I am so relieved.

I learned today that when you say you're 'fine' (which I do a lot), the nurses take this to mean 'Feeling Insecure Neurotic and Emotional', which explains why I cry whenever someone asks me how I am.... and also why nurses ask the question in the first place!

Wise women... I'm slowly learning it's normal to be a bit of an emotional wreck just now.

Gosh, that will be a relief for you. So glad the local surgery have helped you.
No wonder you are emotionally fragile, after all you have been through. I've said it before and will say it again - lean on us here ! You need an outlet for your emotions when you are having to hold it together as "Mum". I remain in absolute awe of your stoicism and composure. Remember that you are firmly on the road to getting better.

I hope it is all going well TQ and that you are resting a bit more.

I thought of you last week and knew you would be going into Mum mode, being strong for everyone. I remembered doing it when I was ill last year and telling DH not to visit a couple of times because I wasn't up to putting on a brave face.

I hope you are managing to get outside for a bit, sitting down with a book or a or something boring like tea. Fresh air always does wonders for me.

I'm doing well . Stronger physically than emotionally I think. I walked to Sainsbury's easily enough and bought lettuce, tomatoes, mozzarella, olives, an avocado and a local rag, then realised I couldn't carry it all the way home... I was over-ambitious there. Luckily DD3 was able to come and meet me to carry the shopping. Got well and truly told off by both DDs!

You are amazing. I think you are allowed to be emotional right now. Glad your DDs are wonderful.

Just don't overdo it. Maybe get a shopping bag that can be pulled along? I have one from IKEA that is not too hideous, I needed it after a heart operation when I could not carry or lift anything for a few months . So pleased you have been out in the sunshine though and that your dds are there to help . And it is only natural to feel emotional, you have been through such a lot . Thinking of you . More

Not only are you amazing, but that sounds like a lovely lunch!

Enjoy it - and look after yourself, mentally and physically.

Another milestone achieved today! I had all my staples out . Worrying beforehand - and as per usual, it wasn't remotely as bad as I feared. The occasional grimace and twitch was all I managed. About 50 in all apparently (staples, not twitches!).

It's another step towards being 'normal' again. I'm hoping for a couple of 'golden weeks' in between recovering from this and starting chemo again, when I can enjoy a or two for my birthday next month.

Taking it easy after yesterday's trip. And the breeze is lovely today - I hope we do get the promised storms later.

I'm so glad you're doing so well TQ

Did the Drs give any view on if they've removed all the tumour? Or is the chemo to target any additional bits? Either way, hope the next round of chemo is the last piece in the jigsaw to make you completely cancer free

Hi Curtains
The doctors said they got it all out, but I've done my research and the chance of recurrence for stage 3C Ovarian cancer is between 70-90%.

I had 3 rounds of chemo before the op and am due another 3 now, plus the additional Avastin / Bevacizamub chemo (up to 18 lots).

So I don't know if I will ever consider myself 'cancer free' - let's just say I'm aiming to be one of the % that has a long disease-free remission period after this extended episode is over.....

Sounds good TQ. It wouldn't dare face the wrath of us mumsnetters by attempting to show its ugly face again! A very DF of mine remained clear for 30 years!

That's another step forward , and great news re the surgery .

Doing the happy dance about your next milestone. Bye bye staples. I hope you kick its ass for a long time to come.

I'm very much hoping you're one of the ones who can keep it at bay long term

The doctors said they got it all out 👏🏻👏🏻 ... that will do nicely to be going on with TQ.

We have all got everything crossed.

There is nothing wrong with an old lady trolley either, I think mine is quite cool actually. Here and, seeing as I bought it young I will get decades of use out of it. 😁

You are never too young for such a thing! Seriously. I go to a small market for fruit and veg and stuff, not a swanky farmers market but a simple small farmers market. I got sick of my arms aching like mad and bought one two years ago. I cant actually find it at the minute! But a fab addition!

Your amazing twitter.

Even when you are feeling low and think you can't take anymore (which by the way you are allowed to feel sometimes) or your being hard on yourself remember you are still fucking amazing!