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Obese but with pretty normal legs / arms etc but very fat, enormous belly ***Ovarian cancer diagnosis - title edited by MNHQ at OP's request***

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TwitterQueen1 · 27/02/2017 15:00

Hi
I'd be glad of any advice or personal experiences here. I am around 4 stone overweight, so definitely obese. Most of it is on my stomach though, which now looks like I'm 11 months pregnant with triplets. I'm in my 50s so this is not a possibility. It's very painful and I am short of breath when I walk etc.

I've put on a lot of weight in a short period - 10lbs in 2 months.

Six months ago I was bodyboarding in the sea, walking every day and doing an exercise class every week. Now it's a struggle to do anything.

I'm having bloods done on Friday but any ideas / comments? Am I just unlucky to pile it all on in one place?

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lougle · 01/04/2017 00:56

There's no right or wrong, it's just knowing what makes you feel better. If you feel better on your own, so you get to control how the meeting goes, and how and when you give information to other people, then that's the best way. The last thing you need is to end up comforting someone else about your situation, which can happen quite often.

It sounds like you have a good team with a clear plan?

BarchesterFlowers · 01/04/2017 07:08

Good that your appointment is out of the way and you have plenty of information by the sound of it.

I am better on my own too TQ, it makes me strong and braver than I would be otherwise. I had lots of miscarriages and other than the really late one went to all my hospital appointments on my own because I would have been a complete wreck with DH there. He worked away tbh so I didn't have anyone to go with me without lots of planning but I preferred it on my own.

I hope you don't leak next week, remember the nuts.

hairymuffet · 05/04/2017 00:53

How r u ??

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TwitterQueen1 · 05/04/2017 16:56

I have the rage hairy. Or maybe I should say the strop, the tantrum, the sulk. I do not want to be the person with cancer. I do not want to have to think about it all the time.

I want to go back to normal, thinking about the DDs birthdays, summer holidays, doing the garden. I want my puppy back.

I am fucked off beyond fuckery.

Stomach drain took out another 8 litres. Now waiting for chest drain then kidney test. Told I won't be out before Friday.

I don't want this life I want my old one.

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BigGreenOlives · 05/04/2017 17:08

I hear you. I acknowledge that this is shit and totally unfair.

8l is a hell of a lot of fluid to have come out.

I am sorry that your life has changed & that your puppy is at your sister's.

HmmOkay · 05/04/2017 17:20

Not surprised you have the rage, TQ.

Crappy to be back in hospital. Flowers

Any sign of Gobby Mare from the last time you were in? They must have chucked her out by now surely? The nurses will probably give you the lowdown.

treaclesoda · 05/04/2017 17:22

Twitter I think your rage is perfectly justified. Flowers

hairymuffet · 05/04/2017 17:26

Ouch ! I hear you girl ! Flowers

TheFurryMenace · 05/04/2017 17:41

Rage and rant, Twitter, it's so fucking unfair.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 05/04/2017 18:29

I've just read the whole thread and I have to say OP, I'm in awe of you. You come across as so strong and together. I'm not sure that platitudes from an internet stranger can ever be much help but honestly your story has really moved me. I want to say good luck but it just seems so bloody stupid at the same time.

MichaelSheensNextDW · 05/04/2017 19:16

Good to hear from you, Twitter. Rant away if you need to. I'm sorry you're having to go through this Flowers

BIWI · 05/04/2017 19:27

Cancer is, indeed, a huge and total twat of a bastard.

Footle · 05/04/2017 20:14

Dear TQ, what I can I bring you ( and I can't even do links ) : this week's radio 4 programme on The Bristol Apostrophiser. It was on at 11am today. I hope you listen and love it and it does you good.

Mirandafart · 05/04/2017 20:25

Flowers and hugs, cancer is shit.

2017SoFarSoGood · 05/04/2017 22:01

Yes to the rage. Fuck Cancer. Just fuck it. Bastard Cancer.

All the swear words, throw them at us. We're here to rant to. I'm sure we could organize a protest parade to come rage with you - placards and all. Down with all this Cancer Shit!

Hoping for no moany or mouthy neighbors and lovely staff - and that you get some rest. Flowers

witwootoodleoo · 05/04/2017 22:48

I lurked at the beginning and have just read the full update. I have to say you're bloody marvellous in the face of the tosspot that is cancer.

Loving the sound of the kimono. Perhaps you could treat yourself to a range so that you can become known as the woman that wafts around hospital in the glamorous kimonos. You can get awesome ones where the sleeves are also pockets. V useful for carrying stuff about with you although I guess not big enough for the drainage bag sadly...

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TwitterQueen1 · 06/04/2017 07:46

You lovely people have me laugh this am! Thank you for that. I do love the idea of being a mysterious kimono lady. It's slightly too long however, (I am vertically challenged), so I need to perfect walking with no stumbling.

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gonegrey56 · 06/04/2017 07:57

Thinking of you TQ.
If you need distraction, I have just been reading the biography of Elizabeth Jane Howard by Artemis Cooper - extraordinary life (and many challenges). Highly recommend it.

And, as others have said, rant away ...we are here for you

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TwitterQueen1 · 06/04/2017 08:26

2017 love the idea of a hospital protest! No nightmare bed neighbour -- I'm in the cancer ward now - previously in gynae.

footle no radio 4 here. It's either 1,2 or hospital. I can't connect my work PC but will try on kindle.

mygast all contributions v welcome! Its a lonely business, cancer and hospitals.

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Chasingsquirrels · 06/04/2017 08:36

Hi TwitterQueen1
I've just seen and read through your thread, and wanted to so how sorry I was to read through it to your diagnosis and subsequent updates.
I want to rant at the world with you.
I have no experience to post in relation to ovarian cancer, but know that for myself - from my recent experiences - how much I drew from random strangers taking the time to post something in reply to my rantings.
Sending you love and strength, to you and your girls.

(Oh, maybe one practical thing - DH's GP and Consultant were always more than happy to do letters to who them may concern in respect of his children's education. If you haven't yet shared the fill picture with them - sorry wasn't sure about this - then I'm sure they would world it n very general terms, they did for DH).

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TwitterQueen1 · 06/04/2017 09:03

Hugs to you too chasing. I've told the school and the other 2 have told their uni tutors. May tell exam boards too, depending on next few weeks.

I would liketo give the most ENORMOUS THANK YOU to the posters and lurkers on here who contacted @woollyhugs. I am now the v thankful recipient of the most beautiful blanket Flowers. I do feel cherished, knowing everyone who contributed did so with love in their hearts and fingers.

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BigGreenOlives · 06/04/2017 09:58

How wonderful that @Woollyhugs mobilized so quickly.

FlowersCakeBrew & it's probably too early but Wine

CiderwithBuda · 06/04/2017 10:18

I'm sure you are angry. I would be too. Angry and scared and weepy all at the same time. Rant away here.

Gin and Cake and Wine and Brew and a jammy dodger Biscuit to go with your brew. (I know it's supposed to mean something else on here but it's just a plain jammy dodger this morning. I feel sorry for jammy dodgers these days. I think they should mobilise and protest at being used in a derogatory fashion.)

yoohooitsme · 06/04/2017 10:34

Hi TQ, you and your family are in my thoughts.

Once of my positives has been a lovely new dressing gown for christmas just a few days before my op - was even half price, soft and snuggly - I don't have the presence to waft a Kimono with style Grin

I'm trying to study through my chemo hangover week (bleurgh), but instead am mumsnetting. Needs must.

Hope you are not too uncomfortable.

MackerelOfFact · 06/04/2017 11:13

Oh OP. Flowers I've just read your whole thread and just wanted to say that I'm sorry it's all so shit. You sound fab.

I just Googled 'Debenhams kimonos' out of curiosity, but the page was blocked by my work internet for containing 'provocative content.' I am now wondering what kind of saucy kimono you have purchased!