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We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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greenday · 04/12/2006 17:44

I like many have been following your threads. And I've never really known what to say as I am quite new to MN. But this time, I really want to say my thoughts and prayers are with you, your dh and children. Your dh sounds like a wonderful man and you, a wonderful wife/person. Take care...

kando · 04/12/2006 17:46

thoughts are with you and your family

AngeGabriel · 04/12/2006 17:49

I don't know you and haven't been on mn very long, but I'm sat here with tears running down my face. Just wanted to add my thoughts and prayers to you and your family at this time.

sallystrawberry · 04/12/2006 17:53

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Nightynight · 04/12/2006 18:02

I am so so sorry to hear this. I wish so much that you would be one of the lucky ones.

cadeauxbury · 04/12/2006 18:20

I too don't know what to say. All I can offer you is my prayers and my love, which you have.

ssd · 04/12/2006 18:28

MB, so so sorry

thinking of your, your dh and you kids.

ssd x x x

frogs · 04/12/2006 18:30

Mb, so desperately sorry to hear this. We will be thinking of you all. Dd1 lit a candle for you on sunday.

x

SchneeBallFight · 04/12/2006 18:33

Oh no MB I am very upset for all of you. Cancer took my mum when she was only 43 - it is not fair. Thinking of you all.

maryhadaharpsichordyeahlord · 04/12/2006 18:36

mb only just seen this.
I am so desperately sorry to hear this news. you are in my thoughts so often, I wish it could have been better news.
love always
HC xx
(it's harpsichordcarrier btw)

shouldbedeckingthehalls · 04/12/2006 18:37

I'm so sorry to read your post
Thinking of you and your family xxx

Spagblog · 04/12/2006 18:41

I'm so sorry. This must be dreadfully hard for you all.
Nxx

Spagblog · 04/12/2006 18:42

I wish my post wasn't so crap. I can't express how I feel for you all. Sorry.

thisturkeyneedsstuffing · 04/12/2006 18:53

I am so terribly sorry for you all.
I was gonna try and write some words of wisdom but have deleted as it just seemed inadequate and inappropriate. Your Macmillan nurses will help you lots please rely on them as much as you need to. There is a lot written on death and preparing for it Elizabeth Kubler Ross is a writer that springs to mind perhaps her work might be of some help to you, most libraries will have it.

ScummyMummy · 04/12/2006 18:54

What horrible, heartbreaking news, mb. I am so very, very sorry.

HarkTheAEROdAngelsSing · 04/12/2006 22:32

So sorry mb.

sweetkitty · 04/12/2006 22:36

So so sorry to hear this

Callmemadam · 04/12/2006 23:16

Just another in the long list of people queing to say we are here, and we care. 24/7, when you can't bear it any longer call on us to laugh, cry, rant or grieve with you - we will be here for you.

SueW · 04/12/2006 23:19

I'm so sorry to hear this. Will be thinking of you.

Tortington · 04/12/2006 23:23

i have no words other than how sorry i am at this news.

anything you need please let me know.

tigermoth · 05/12/2006 08:05

mb, I told my husband about your news and he said how sorry he was to hear it.

I don't know if this will help at all, but he said he and his mother now wishe they had got a second opinion as soon as his father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Originally chemo was offered, but it never got to that stage, and became paliative care (radiotherapy and pain relief). My father in law responded well to the radiotherapy. He was a strong, fit man of 70 years.

In hindsight, MIL and my husband think some chemo might have prolongued his life a little and given him a good quality of life - MIL was a very experienced nurse for many years, so had some medical background. They wished right at the beginning when first diagnosed they had gone for a second opinion, possibly privately.

A second opinion might not be at all relevant for you and you may have already decided against it for very good reasons. I just wanted to pass on this to you as someone else's experience.

Take care XX

Kittypickle · 05/12/2006 08:15

I'm so sorry. I don't really believe in this sort of thing but my Dad (who does believe in it) has been in contact with the Harry Edwards Healing Sanctuary (comes up with a google) for my MIL who has cancer of the esophagos and recently had pneumonia and shingles. DH has thought he had said goodbye twice this year, but she amazingly is still here and there is now some hope. My scientific side says it is coincidence and a load of rubbish, but there is a little bit of me that thinks just maybe there is something in it, so I thought I would pass it on.

MrsMillsletoe · 05/12/2006 08:20

So sorry MB {sad}

I've been thinking about you and your family a lot, and wish you all the strength and love in the world.

xxx

danceswithreindeer · 05/12/2006 08:20

mb - I'm so very sorry to hear that

BonyM · 05/12/2006 08:24

Oh MB, I am so, so sorry to hear this devastating news. My heart goes out to you all. x

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