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We have at best a year or two

369 replies

Blandmum · 02/12/2006 16:58

I said I wouldn't post again, but since MN has been supportive I thought it only fair.

We found out this afternoon, that dh has an agressice adenocarcinoma of the pancreas. With treatment a 'good' prognosis would be a a year or two. I know that in practice it will probably be less than this.

Poor sweet man.

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notreallyhereDee · 04/12/2006 13:46

oh mb,

please check your email. there is something there that might be of help to you, i really hope i havent overstepped the mark by emailing it.

thinking of you all.

xx

Blu · 04/12/2006 13:46

In my heart, I'm holding you very tight.

XXXXXXX

BethleCAM · 04/12/2006 13:47

You must be reeling with the shock of it

RnBee · 04/12/2006 13:48

so sorry MB. Such a tragedy x

hulababy · 04/12/2006 13:48

Oh mb, I have only just seen this thread. I am so sorry.

I have sat her, with tears for a family I have never met, with no idea what to say. A friend of a friend is coming through this also, again at too young an age. Life is so cruel, so unfair. It shouldn't be allowed.

I hope your time together is as happy and positive as possible.

I'll be thinking of you all.

choosyfloosy · 04/12/2006 13:50

there is nothing to say but wanted to add my nothing just the same. best wishes to you all.

foundintranslation · 04/12/2006 13:51

I am so, so, so sorry, MB.

NbgSparklyYellowFeathers · 04/12/2006 13:52

Oh jeez MB
I'm so sorry.

My friends dp was diagnosed with terminal cancer 2 weeks ago. They had their first baby in August.
Shes found alot of comfort and help from the Macmillan nurse.

Thinking of you all.
xxx

FrumpytheGrumpyreindeer · 04/12/2006 13:53

MB, I wish you lots of strength to see you both through this. It is the hardest thing to stand beside someone and watch as they fade. I wish you many, many, happy hours, days, weeks, months and years between now and then xxx.

pooka · 04/12/2006 13:53

Macmillan nurses are amazing and makea huge difference. Agree that you MUST try and get help for the routine cleaning/cooking stuff in ordet to free up family time.
Does your school (you're a teacher aren't you) know what the situation is and have you managed to get time off?
So sorry that the prognosis is so bad
Really don't have the words.....

HunkerTheInternetPhenomenon · 04/12/2006 14:00

Oh, MB

I can't believe how sad I am for somebody I've never met

Thinking of you all with much love - and wishing I was half as eloquent as Blu

tweetyfish · 04/12/2006 14:05

I'm so very sorry MB

you and your family are in our thoughts.

fairyjay · 04/12/2006 14:12

So sorry.

How wonderful for you both to have known such love.

Skyler · 04/12/2006 14:21

Oh MB, I am so sorry. You and your family have been in my thoughts. How cruel life can be. Wishing you every strength for the future. I will be thinking of you, your much loved dh and your dear children. Take care and know we are here if you need us. I wish there was something we could do....

noddyholder · 04/12/2006 14:24

I am so so sorry.

KBear · 04/12/2006 14:27

You're in my thoughts MB and your DH. May you find the strength to face this - we are here for you.

Lazycow · 04/12/2006 14:28

So very sorry to hear this. I wish you and your family as much happiness as you can get in the coming months/years.

I've seen a lot of my family with cancer (two much loved uncles, grandfather, sister at 31, close cousin at 40) so I know it it f*ing sucks.

Don't know what else to say really - just ceome back to MN when you are ready. We will be here.

ParanoidSurreyHousewife · 04/12/2006 14:36

MB - I'm so so sorry to hear this.

MerryChristmasPANDAGHappyNewYe · 04/12/2006 14:38

With my love and prayers MB. So sad to hear this.

Rhubarb · 04/12/2006 14:39

Dear mb, you have so many lovely messages of support here from Mumsnetters, please do take the help that is being offered here.

I cannot imagine what you are going through, but there are Mumsnetters on here who have dealt with their children's grief after the death of their partner - I am thinking of YorkieGirl here but I am sure there are others. Please do take their advice, I am sure they are more than happy to help.

You and your dh have surrounded your children with love, which is the best gift you could ever give them. Love never dies, so even though their daddy will not physically be with them for much longer, his love will be.

You are in my thoughts and prayers too.

katierocket · 04/12/2006 14:45

MB I've only just seen this but want to add my voice to the other messages of disbelief and support. You poor poor things, how unutterably cruel. Thinking of you and your family.

SherlockLGJ · 04/12/2006 15:35

Oh shit fuck and bollocks......

I am sitting here reeling and feel like I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions since this started. If I am feeling this and I am not "involved" Lord knows what you guys must be feeling.

Tell your lovely brave heathen I will pray for him.

With much love

LGJ

ruty · 04/12/2006 15:35

MB my heart goes out to you. i send you lots of love and prayers, and keep on fighting, no one ever knows what the future brings. Wish you didn't have to go thru this.

stleger · 04/12/2006 15:48

Look after each other - take care.

Mercy · 04/12/2006 15:55

Martian,

with much love to you all

x

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