Misdee - sending you and your family very best wishes that things will work out for you. What a terrible time this must be for you all. i hope you can draw strength from the knowledge that so many people are thinking of you.
EVERYONE - if ever you're unfortunate enough to be in a situation where a loved one might be able to donate organs then please tell the hospital. My Dad died a couple of years ago after a stroke - it turned out that his organs weren't suitable for donation but when I knew he was dying and I enquired about it, the hospital staff looked at me like I was mad and said something like - 'Well we have harvested organs once or twice in the past but we don't usually ask as relatives are so upset.'!!!! I just couldn't believe it. I had to ask them to find out more for me and eventually I got a phone call at home about 2 hours after my dad had died saying his organs weren't suitable. I did wonder whether they might have been if someone had done something earlier. I knew that his heart & lungs were no good, but I thought maybe someone would've been grateful for his kidneys.