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Zombie needs her limbs holding

875 replies

Valpollicella · 05/03/2014 00:05

With Zombie's permission, I'm starting this thread

As many of you know she has had a hideous time through her treatment for cancer.

At the point where she was maybe out of the woods she has been asked to see her surgeon on Friday. Unexpectedly Sad

Can we all squeeze her together so her limbs don't go flailing
and do what we vipers do best?

I cannot bear the thought of her going through all the treatment s again after coming out of it before

Prayers, fingers crossing or whatever welcome right now

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weebarra · 30/03/2014 15:17

My surgeon said no driving for a bit. Had genetics done when I was first dxed as I'm under 40. I'm brca2+ so will have to have ovaries out too, but not for a while. I had a fairly honest chat with the sonographer when I had my mid-chemo scans. I know I have to have bmx and nodes done anyway.

AlpacaPicnic · 30/03/2014 15:25

I melted at the clever zombiecats

IamtheZombie · 30/03/2014 16:39

weebarra, I'm planning to stock the freezer and cupboards just before the op so I won't need to go shopping for a bit afterwards. But I live in a small rural village 23 miles from the hospital. My niece would have driven me but she's away the week of the op. Worst case scenario I'll arrange taxis.

I was 40 when the DCIS was diagnosed. My maternal grandmother was around 40 when she had her first mastectomy. I was 59 when I had my first mastectomy. Maternal grandmother was in her 70s when she had her second mastectomy. I'll be 5 days shy of 62 when I have mine.

My maternal uncle has had pancreatic cancer. He survived but only because he was being very closely monitored after having previously survived a ruptured abdominal aortic aneurysm so the PC was found very early on a scan. I've just learned that his paternal grandfather died from pancreatic cancer.

BRCA mutations cause both breast and pancreatic cancer among others. So, now I'm anxious to learn if I carry a mutation. It won't make any difference to me but I have a son who was adopted within my first husband's family when he was 2 or 3. My son has an 11yo daughter. I got in touch with my son earlier this year. We've been getting to know each other. I feel I owe it to him and to my granddaughter to learn as much as I can about any risks to them.

Alpaca, what made this card so special is that it was DSD1 who sent it. I had never received a Mother's Day card until I married H. It was this time last year that he left me for the OW so I didn't get any then. DSD2 (who is the one I had been closest to) has no contact with me. DSD1 has stayed in touch but I never expected this. A happy tear may have been shed.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 30/03/2014 22:40

Oh Z, just massive (((((((((((((Bear)))))))))))))))

And hope the spag bol lasted out Smile

CoteDAzur · 30/03/2014 22:52

Take care of yourself, Zombie. You are incredibly sweet to be thinking of others at a time like this.

IamtheZombie · 30/03/2014 23:48

Do you mean this spag bol, Bee? It's kept me well fed all weekend.

Thanks, Cote. There were very good reasons why I couldn't keep my son. But I have thought of him and prayed for him every single day. His adoptive mum did a fabulous job raising him.

Oh, heck. In for a penny and all that. The first story on here is mine:

www.childprotectionresource.org.uk/category/parents-and-carers/childrens-views/

Zombie needs her limbs holding
TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 30/03/2014 23:57

Oh Zombie

Sad Flowers

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 31/03/2014 00:00

Oh zombie :(

It is all shit. So so so shit. Fucking cancer Angry

Hope you are doing okay, I am here if there is anything I can help with. X

PacificDogwood · 31/03/2014 00:07

Zombie, you poor love Sad.

I am late to this thread (bastard cancer!) and just tripped over your link.

{{{massive hugs}}}

I've known for a while that you are a strong woman, but I had not quite realised how strong.

Much strength and light - today, of all days, and always xx.

IamtheZombie · 31/03/2014 00:13

There is a lot I've never shared on here before.

Be honest folks, if I'd come on to MN and told my whole story from the start I'd have been dismissed as a hairy handed bridge dweller. Having seen far too many trolls (to rhyme with roles, Justine and Rebecca) pressing buttons I understand that.

I've led the life I've had to lead and played the cards that life dealt me. I don't pretend to understand any of it.

marriednotdead · 31/03/2014 00:46

Dearest Zombie. I've seen you on the threads for a long time- your posting style has always amused me along with so many others- and lurked for quite a while here too. I just had to post.

It's a little late but you're on my mind, and your link confirmed to me my instinct that you were another one from the club no one wants to belong to, but that has far too many members.

I'm not always that eloquent but I wanted to send you caring thoughts from someone who has also stumbled along some of the paths you've taken. I truly respect your determination to keep on walking when many would have laid down and drummed their heels in fury at the unfairness of life's lottery.

Thinking of you and helping to hold a limb Flowers

LackaDAISYcal · 31/03/2014 00:50

Zombie Sad Mahoosive hugs, and Brew and Cake and Thanks to you.

And bloody hell, what a strong Zombie you are!

MoominsYonisAreScary · 31/03/2014 00:52

Ah zombie, you've had such a bloody rough time of it havent you.

You come across as such a lovely person, going out of your way to help strangers, supportive and caring. I hate to think of you having noone to drive you back from the hospital

Isabeller · 31/03/2014 01:03

Love and a few tears dear Z

mummylin2495 · 31/03/2014 03:09

It s the early hours and I have just read your story, it has really moved me. You seem to have a very strong spirit despite everything life has thrown at you.
I hope life will now start treating you better, starting with your health.
You are a brave brave woman.

Finlaggan · 31/03/2014 03:30

good luck Zombie Thanks

Trooperslane · 31/03/2014 08:14

Oh zombie what a story. All strength to you ThanksThanksThanksThanks

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 31/03/2014 10:54

Oh Zombie...

Firstly Thanks for you.

I have just read your link and don't know what to say. Yes you're right about the troll thing. If you came on here and posted it all under one name, every crappy thing that has happened to you, it would be hard to believe.

Don't misunderstand me, I don't mean that it's hard to believe that all that could happen. Shit happens. And shit happens lots. And it seems like some people live a charmed life, and others get all the rubbish. No, I mean that it is so hard to believe that someone can go through so much and come out the other side with such a generous, giving attitude towards the world. You are often there offering an ear or more practical support (infamously :o ) and you don't seem to shy away when the going gets tough.

Forged in fire seems a most fitting phrase. Zombie was forged in fire. And if you look really closely, I think she still glows with it.

If I was wearing a hat I would be taking it off to you. Instead I shall have to don a scarf.

(((((())))))

Nicola10 · 31/03/2014 11:37

whereabouts are you Zombie? If you are in the Huddersfield vicinity, I'd be glad to help you.

WingDefence · 31/03/2014 13:56

Oh my goodness Zombie. I thoughts and prayers are with you. What a strong, strong woman you are.

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 31/03/2014 14:40

AAAh fuck it Zombie. I am so sorry. Dont know what to say. Just dont let the bastard disease win!

Have just read your link. OMFG. Such a strong person.

Have a not really allowed (((hug))).

loveliesbleeding1 · 31/03/2014 14:42

Thank you for sharing your story,Thanksfeeling tearful.

ExitPursuedByABear · 31/03/2014 15:29

Good grief Zombie. What a strong and fabulous woman you are. Definitely forged in fire.

Thanks
nickelbabe · 31/03/2014 15:49

ah, Zombie poor deluded Zonbie. it's pronounced to rhyme with toll, coll(ar), goll(y), doll...

talking of which, it's a shame you missed the fab wedding thread last night. thanks to dd wanting weetabix at 3am, I got to see most of it Grin

stackablegoatbearingcheesecake · 31/03/2014 15:51

I've read Zombie.
I'm sure that when many of us think we've had a bad time we'll think of you and what you've dealt with and give ourselves a stern talking to.

I wish you only good things Thanks

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