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Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding

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Oddsocksrus · 30/09/2013 00:13

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance
I guess I start..
My cervix is on the outside, it can't all hang where it should and no manner of pelvic floor exercises or devises will get it back there.
I'm 41, one fab dd and wanted more but there you are, can't now can I?

This thread, hopefully, will be for those waiting, recovering or supporting

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shewhowines · 01/12/2013 10:06

Hi green welcome
I was told 2 weeks for stockings by nurse then consultant said guidelines have changed and it is now 6 weeks!

I didn't have a dressing when I left hospital and I didn't have any bruising. That came later with each of my 28 daily injections!

shewhowines · 01/12/2013 10:09

I forgot to ask you all to welcome to the world my new arrival

Drum roll...

A bloody huge pile that now sore and bleeds when I go to the loo

Oh the joy never ends!

Waitingaround · 01/12/2013 10:27

Oh she poor you
green welcome I was told 6 weeks for the stockings but must admit I only wore them for 3, as felt I was active enough. I'm watching orange is the new black at the moment, it's on net flicks.
I think I might of pulled something with my mucking out as am sore again with dragging and swelling. So am going to do bugger all today...

thekingfisher · 01/12/2013 10:32

Feel really upset with dh today he's being a selfish pain and is acting like a complete twit. He's massively stressed with work and a very demanding job - he obv worked from home back end of last week but this was 'very hard' and difficult even though I told him to go in. My dm is here helping to hold the fort and frankly he is being monosyllabic and stroppy. He doesn't like the cats being on the bed which I get but they are quite persistent and I can't keep booting them off as it hurts and if I shut bedroom door I feel locked away as I'm not comfy enough to sit on sofa yet. So he is sleeping in sp room , comes in this morning grunts I ask hi how he is. - tired , then that's it not how are you feeling, can I get you anything .... Then when I ask himwhat's up he's trying not to say anything about the cats and trying not to let work dominate - and then he won't discuss anything as my mums here.

Honestly I'm so upset he's being such a bastard and if just want to shout at him until he realises just how bad he is being - plus he's being really quiet with ds 10 who's pretty traumatised by my operation and the last few weeks as it is so he is being AN ARSE

thekingfisher · 01/12/2013 10:33

Sorry I needed to vent and prob didn't make much sense - I also need to talk to him and let him know how upset and disappointed I am .

Waitingaround · 01/12/2013 11:00

king agree you need to have a calm chat-I think sometimes men feel a little lost and don't know what to do to make you feel better etc so they do nothing instead (very unhelpful!) he also possibly feels a bit shut out as your mum is there, but as he's being as much help as a chocolate teapot you need her, so it's difficult. My DH seems to work best when he has clearly defined tasks and responsibilities!
Sorry my ramblings probably haven't helped...

thekingfisher · 01/12/2013 11:29

No it does help- thanks

Cremolafoam · 01/12/2013 11:44

King I have a toddler husband as well. Lots of stropping and stomping because of loss of control : things not being they should be.
Tough shit to him. Nothing matters except your wellbeing at the moment.
Do not rise to any bait. Is just pull the bedroom door over and maintain radio silence. Let him simmer.

Green welcome! Yes to bruising and black and blue tum. I had big purple fishing wire stitches too so looked Ike frankenstens monster. Arnica cream is helpful here. And rest . The swelly belly increases if you are doing too much. Stockings for 4 weeks minimum.

greenfolder · 01/12/2013 12:20

Adds arnica cream to shopping list. Signs up for netflix

TiredDog · 01/12/2013 15:52

Gawd you poor ladies. I cannot imagine getting so little support. I'm a single mum officially but DP has moved in this weekend and will stay with me until I feel able to cook unaided etc I think I'm going to be well looked after tbh (time will tell!)

Stockings, piles, pain, Frankenstein's monster swelly belly all giving me good vibes. Keep it coming

spudmama · 01/12/2013 21:12

Welcome green i still can't feel my belly or tops of legs nearly 6 weeks in have been told it could be a while...think its something to do with nerve damage

King the exact reason i didn't want my husband at home with me at all, friends where horified i was going to be on my own but it wss lovely and peaceful and also why i now have a cleaner couple of hours a week.

Anyway have not taken any of the advice i have been dishing out. Have done way to much this weekend and now paying the price with a very sore belly roll on tomorrow when i have the house to myself again.

Waitingaround · 01/12/2013 21:46

Oh spud tsk tsk...

Cremolafoam · 02/12/2013 09:33

I am off to
A a follow up appointment with Gynae consultant who did the op today
And
B occupational health doctor at work straight after .
What a joyful day awaits.
Hoping to get are return to work date out of the two of them . Whether they concur will be interesting.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 02/12/2013 12:00

Good luck Crem Hope you get some sense.

I'm trying to make a dress that'll be the same as one I found in a shop. I can't stand anything round my middle/under the belly button and that means no massive control pants. So none of my work clothes look even half acceptable.

Cremolafoam · 02/12/2013 13:04

Easy on the treadle pedal Lftmad

One appointment down one to go. Consultant is saying mid January if I feel like it . He says I've been through the mill. And is very sorry about appalling embroidery but he couldn't staple because of thick scar tissue.
He was unsurprised that it's been hard on me and rightly said he warned me( he did) but says I must keep resting as internally I'm still healing.( he says the op was very complicated due to previous procedure and wondered how I'd put up with the pain for so long) bowel was completely out of shape and bladder was squashed to about 1/3 of normal size. Ffs

Am drinking a coffee in town and am having consolation Cake. Yeh

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 02/12/2013 14:16

Well it's good that you know why you were having such a shitty time of it Crem. You should have tapped him for a tummy tuck 'on the house' to get rid of that whole area of skin.

I'm willing to bet money that in our lifetimes, cosmetic surgery paid for by the patient and done alongside NHS surgery will part-fund the NHS.

1 down, 1 to go. Good luck with the next appointment.

TiredDog · 02/12/2013 15:18

Good luck with the next appt. Crem. Armed with your first appt outcome I hope they concur. It sounds like pretty major rearranging they've done there.

I'm having a poo day but not to do with a uterus. Work hassles, family hassles and worry over sick family. It's amazing how you can tip from ok to miserable with just enough little things.

shewhowines · 02/12/2013 18:14

crem What did work say?

tired when is your op again?

letsface I'm still living in leggings and I've never been sore - i think it is because i've avoided anything tight. On the odd occassion i've tried it, it's uncomfortable! Good luck with the dressmaking.

king hows DH today? and you?

odds how are you doing?

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Oddsocksrus · 02/12/2013 18:30

she I think I've got an infection :(
I've been hot and cold all afternoon, joint, ache, temperature
I'm going to see how it goes, dd has had a cold and it could be that coming out as there is no dodgy discharge (sorry tmi)

I've been a good girl today and rested, hardly moved at all :)
king how are you doing? I hope today has been better?

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greenfolder · 02/12/2013 18:51

Had a bath this pm and removed dressing-cant see scar or feel it. But I am knackered beyond belief

Cremolafoam · 02/12/2013 18:55

Odds no!
Check if your wound is red hard or sore. If so that's the signal. If not is it jut that dreadful cold? I say just but I mean it is ghastly. Dh had it last weekend and he was 3 days in bed. This has never happened to him ever before

OH is pretty much in agreement. My boss doesn't want me in over Xmas as were so busy. Looks like the new year for me.

Btw the consultant managed to let slip that my infection was mrsa. No body told me or mentioned that's what was wrong . No wonder I felt like shit

TiredDog · 02/12/2013 19:24

My op is Thursday she. I feel so distracted by lots of busy stuff before hand that I'm looking forward to it!

Good advice from Crem for you Odd. I was swabbed for MRSA at my pre op assessment. Routine for everyone else?

Good news about your return to work Crem. Relax and enjoy Christmas. (I hope you have it all covered and can relax?!)

Waitingaround · 02/12/2013 20:18

Odds it could just be a cold, is your tummy more tender or swollen? If so- best get your self to the doctors.
tired good luck for Thursday, are you all prepared for christmas?
King how are you?
Let's I'm back in my pj's by tea as I can't bear the tightness of my trousers any longer ( I'm still in my big girl jeans)
Crem you have had a really tough time of it and shouldn't consider work to the new year.
Green- rest.
My bladder area is still sore from my mucking out endeavours, I'm hoping that I'm pain free again by Monday when I return to work (am quite excited)..

thekingfisher · 02/12/2013 20:44

Hello all, had a better day today perhaps because dh at work? Anyway had weird stitch thing out which was NOT pleasant not sure what it was but not stitches or clips but something with beads on the end ?????

Have had a day up and dressed today and have felt much better . Had 24 hrs without the codeine which is also good. Have still spent day on sofa so haven't gone mad. Back on bed now as things achey, I still struggling to sleep though -slightly concerned that I'm getting really sweaty at night and hope it's not ovaries packing up

Have a friend popping around tomorrow afternoon which will be first visitor and another friend sent tattler and chocolates home with ds today so that's cheered me up. Dh not home from work yet so haven't seem him but I did phone earlier to break the ice a bit .....

Hope you feel better tomorrow Odd get to bed, plenty of fluids, and make sure you keep up with pills

HoHolepew · 02/12/2013 20:56

Hello everyone glad to hear some of you are keeping much better .
Odds make doubly sure its not an infection. Don't just presume it's the cold.

I never had to wear stockings and I'm very of your morphine and Tramadol.
I had a paracetamol drip and was sent home with codine.

Keep resting and taking it easy

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