Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding

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LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance
I guess I start..
My cervix is on the outside, it can't all hang where it should and no manner of pelvic floor exercises or devises will get it back there.
I'm 41, one fab dd and wanted more but there you are, can't now can I?

This thread, hopefully, will be for those waiting, recovering or supporting

She - MN is my lifeline too

Ooh lovely. Are they normally reasonable?

They aren't unreasonable iykwim but v odd. Their baby screams 24/7, they start DIY late evenings despite being home all day. They have all the blinds shut all day and the children don't go outside. Their choice but just odd. DH was only asking as their bedroom backs ours and ds1's room and I wanted to lie down

Hopefully it will blow over if you are civil and keep your distance. You didn't really need that at the moment did you.

Is the washing machine going?

Two loads of washing done. House hoovered & polished. I've been made tea & toast. Just about to get up and shower before relocating above duvet

Lol overcome - DH did it all apart from drink the tea and eat the toast.

Question for you all - how much pain should I be in? Very sore to the point of tears after my shower today despite regular cocodamol 30/500 & diclofenac. My scar is bruised but dry and drain site scabbed over. I jus didn't expect to be this sore

Fled it took a few days to sort my pain relief out. Iws on the ccdamol like yours and ibuprofen as I didn't find diclofenac effective. I was only very sore when I moved. Lying still was fine. I offset mine so that I had 24 hour cover rather than taking them at the same time. I had no bruising though.

Crem, Waiting and now Overcome. What is it with all these infections? - and all quite a few weeks in! I think i've been incredibly lucky fingers crossed .

I didn't need anything more than paracetamol and ibuprofen either, once i was at home. at all the pain and infections.

Just goes to show fled how important it is you don't overdo things

Fled are we nagging you

crem how did your health review go??

No just sitting here in tears. Can't stop crying. Feel sore & sorry for myself. DH has taken ds1 to beavers and my best pal has taken ds2 to anchor boys so I'm home alone feeling fat/bloated, tired, emotional, angry that it was open surgery.... list goes on

Please feel free to slap me

FledGonna hug you not slap you. Hysterectomy is a massive thing- did they take your ovarys? Do you need HRT, one symptom of the menopause is tearfulness, but it's also perfectly normal after an anaesthetic. Big Hugs x
Let your DH know how you feel, you will get over this honestly
Xx

Oh fled yes I was also deeply teary and sad. All part of the chemicals leaving your system. My gp says its common to have an emotional reaction to a physical procedure and to situations you have no control over.( it's what babies do innit)I mean that in a gentle way.
Getting/ feeling settled is hard and the pain cannot be helping.
Fwiw I found paracetamol is infinitely more effective than the cocodamol.
The more you move the more you swell and hurt. It's early days but do phone the ward if you are in complete agony.

Well work meeting was fine. All sorted no pressure to return/ all sympathetic to my plight. It was the going into work itself that has left me tired and emotional . Saw a few of my workmates. One in particular , who I adore gave me the cold shoulder.
I didn't want trumpets , but I have come home feeling inconsequential and unneeded. [Some light weeping,which in my case Fled, is pathetic.]

Also I'm knackered

Bienvenue en France! Je suis tres fatigue.... Fucking 8 hours driving on the wrong side of the road in the fucking rain!!!! at foreign drivers.. (Ok I'm the foreigner, I know that really)

Sounds like most of us have had a hard day, what is with all these infections, it's getting scary!
Ignore the cold shoulder responses, the ignorance of some women about this procedure has astounded me. In the last few days I have had ' so in and out in a day then back to work the following week I suppose?' To 'so you don't have periods anymore? So what happens about more babies?' That one was from a mother of two...

I've just had a lovely but quite sad dinner with my French colleague, she has given up on ivf and her dream of kids and there's me having it all taken away. I did think that I had got this all straight in my head but am feeling really emotional again.
Time to sleep, back on the road at 7 in the morning.... I hope the rain has stopped by then
Sweet dreams all, hope tomorrow is a lovely day for all of us, I hope I get some sleep, whoever is next door has a cold, sneezing away and blowing their nose like an elephant, oh and I can hear the farting too.. Hmm these walls leave something to be desired

Crem - try not to worry about ur colleague. At least the rest of them were sympathetic.

Slept better last night but still have horrible sharp pain on r side of wound. No bowel movement but don't feel constipated - taking movicol twice a day and eaten a tin of prunes . District nurse friend coming round this morning to check my wound and have a cuppa. Spoke to my lovely manager yesterday and I'm going to pop into office tomorrow when it's quiet for a cuppa and hand my lines in. Will be my first outing but don't have far to walk plus she's got my 2014 diary

Hope the rest of you are feeling ok today and thanks for the hand holding

Oh fled so sorry you're having a rough time. If the pain is really bad, check it out with the doctor. You're supposed to be fairly comfortable at home. It's all still early days. It's bound to be emotional, especially if you're frustrated with DH.

Bonjour crem hope there's not so much driving today. My DH has just missed his flight at gatwick due to the horrendous traffic jams! Your neighbour sounds delightful

odds I mean

Glad there was no pressure to return to work crem

Shewhowines - I'm not having that bad a time. Feel very angry with hospital that I had to have open surgery and keep being told to get over it and focus on recovery. I honestly didn't expect it to be this sore - was up and going within 48hrs of my oophtectomy but I find the simplest thing painful.

DH is doing his best - I'm just used to him being out of the house by 7.30am and doing it my way

Fled. Yes in the early days even sitting up or turning over in bed is painful. I think that's normal after such a major op. That's why you really must rest. I posted a link up thread about what you can expect to be doing week by week. In dentist so can't find it now but please look as I think it would be useful to change your expectations of what recovery will be like. I don't mean that as a criticism at all. The info on the link helped me a lot.

If you are in pain when you are being still I think you need to ring your gp.

Don't blame you for feeling angry.

Keep an eye on the pain. I was sore but it wasn't painful as such. I had to keep emptying my catheter bag every half hour and bending down to attach it to my ankle etc and I could easily do that. I alternated 400mg ibuprofen and 500mg paracetamol the maximum number of times. Is it worth talking to your doctor?

Tbh if you find it difficult to watch dh doing it his way I'dadvise going to a room where you can't see what's going on. Just focus on you. Let him do the rest. What's the worst that can happen? as long as they're still alive at the end of it that's ok

Agree Lftmad . If the house is warm
Everyone has eaten and you are comfortable , that's all you really need for the first 2 weeks.

Fled the pain you describe is unusual I think. From what I remember my tummy felt pinched and tight with nippy stretchy soreness . It was sore to turn over in bed or get up from a reclining position. There was a general bloated feeling and discomfort in bowels( wanting to poo or fart) also a fizzy feeling in bladder that makes you think you want to pee every 10 minutes( I can reliably say that has vanished now and I have a bladder of steel for the first time in my life yay!)

If this doesn't sound like you I'd definitely get help. The hospital here said to phone the ward if I had any worries . They are better placed to advise than the gp I think.
HTH .

Odds of France foray, but shame about hideous rain driving. What you doing there btw?

crem I think some people seem 'off hand' because they don't actually know what to say,so they say nothing at all. I wouldn't take it personally...
I expect half the people at my work think I'm skiving and are jealous of my sick leave- but I know that basically they haven't a clue and just need to grow up a bit and learn some compassion, by the way I work for the NHS!