Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding

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I guess I start..
My cervix is on the outside, it can't all hang where it should and no manner of pelvic floor exercises or devises will get it back there.
I'm 41, one fab dd and wanted more but there you are, can't now can I?

This thread, hopefully, will be for those waiting, recovering or supporting

Sounds like a really crap night and day. Hope tonight is better, although I agree, it sounds as if you're in for another bad night. You are allowed to moan. We've all had our turn. That's the whole point of the thread

Will mil be there tonight or tomorrow? As soon as you can, get yourself to bed and stay there. Look after yourself. You need to, or you'll bugger yourself up good and proper, and you'll be no good for the next few weeks.

fled hasn't posted today. Hope she's ok

Oh spud poor thing. It never rains.. And all that.
Wishing you better for tonight. Fingers crisscrossed.
I am still up as you can see- feeling jittery and knackered but unable to nod off . Dammit

odd socks sorry you've been put back but yay you are close to me !

I am cmplete denial atm and ignoring that anything is going to happen so - other than indulging my love of internet shopping to get Christmas sorted!

Morning lovely ladies. Overdid it yesterday coming home. Evening putting washing onto the airer (kids tshirt weight stuff) killed my stomach

Phoned gp for sick line and got different partner who said there is no reason why I shouldn't be back at work for Xmas as 6wks is reasonable time off!

Once feel better in going to look into medical negligence thing as the open surgery wasn't necessary and carries much bigger risks than laparoscopic.

Otherwise have a lot of pain on L side into back. Am v bloated and constipated. No appetite - DH went out to get crispy duck pancakes last night at 9pm as that was all I fancied to eat and hadn't eaten all day. DH is stressed by the DC - am hiding upstairs listening to the arguments over breakfast and he's conceded he doesn't know how I get myself showered & dressed, boys dressed & breakfasted and out the door with the 3 dogs for 8.30am

Telling you off for doing anything at all at this point fled . You are not to do anything at all for a week or two. Seriously, you must let them get on with it. At least DH will appreciate you now

I don't blame you for following up the negligence route. I suppose their defence is that at you made the choice to have the open, rather than wait as they wanted. Still not acceptable though.

Take it easy today.

Hope you got some sleep spud

Fled you should not be doing any washing! Just rest.

. Soud sounds really rubbish in your house, just do what you can but also lots of rest!! I'm lucky in that my two dc are older (13 and 16) how you cope with toddlers I don't know!!

Am waiting for my telephone interview from occupational health in half an hour, I'm v v nervous,

Good luck waiting just tell the truth. Can you write down the most important things you want to make sure they understand?

Oi Fled

WTAF are you doing getting washing out of the machine? Get back to the bed/sofa right now and only get off for loo and shower for at least a week. Proper rest will speed up your recovery. If you overdo it, you'llbe worse for longer.

Oi MrFed nail your wife to the sofa/bed (no not like that for at least 6 weeks ). If she does too much moving about now, she'll take longer to heal properly and that's more time you'll have to spend getting kids and dog out by 8.30am. Stop complaining and man up - you'll make her feel worse than she already does. Do you want that? Do you?

As you were.

Lmao letsface! DH had unloaded the machine and carried basket upstairs so I was just picking things out of basket and hanging them on airer. I'm such a bad patient. We have argued constantly since coming home. On Friday morning when I went into hospital the washing was up to date. Now both laundry bins are overflowing (??? In 4 days????), no hoovering has been done and he's stressing.

Sorry but using MN as a vent as I want to shout "what the fuck have you been doing" but I know visiting me in a hospital 20 miles away is the answer. I'm sore and mad at the hospital for having a large abdo wound. I'm mad at DH for not being able to run the house like I do. DC are fighting. Aaarrrrrgggggghhhhhhh

fled you must listen to everyone DO NOT DO ANYTHING GO LIE DOWN NOW sorry for shouting i over did it in week 2 and it but me back nearly a week in terms of recovery. Love he fact that your DH is having an insight into your mornings mine has been having to do the same i also stayed in bed for the first 2 weeks and ignored it
I have also had to go down the old fashioned way of the operationbut i aslo had this mesh thing put in as well i think this way is going to take longer than 6 weeks its been 3 weeks since my op and i cant even imagine driving yet.
waiting hope the phone interview went ok and they understand what it takes to recover from this op.
Managed to get about 5 hours sleep last night DH seems to have recovered and everyone is out of the house apart from best friend who is here to help me out today.

Just a quick question how long has everyone taken/taking off work ? I know we are all different but would be good to kmow an average.

Fled i know how you feel i got home from hospital and went straight to bed and found he hadn't even made it i nearly cried, then quickly realised that he was never going to do or see the same things that need doing, as long as my boys are looked after then anything else is a bonus.

Let him get on with it. You can't do it, they can't/won't/haven't got the same standards. Close your eyes and ears. IT DOES NOT MATTER. YOU DO THOUGH. As let's face said, if you overdo it, the only consequence is that you'll have to watch him do it wrong, for longer.
Although you are allowed to moan about it though...
Vent as much as you like. Just rest your poor battered body.

Fled I know that feeling well. It's hateful but seriously -YOU HAVE HAD MAJOR SURGERY-please lie down . Ignore everything and retreat to bedroom . You really must not lift anything even tiny clothes. When the scene of devastation is too much get a friend round to assist FGS.
You are still full of anaesthetic so that is making you feel more able than you actually are. Believe me when it wears off you will feel ghastly if you don't rest darling.

Waiting -did they phone yet?
I had a sleepless night thinking about
this review today . Grr

spud I only do the odd bit of work occasionally. I'm not down to do anything till after christmas. Tbh if I was working in an office, I would be just about ok now at 9 weeks. So IMO at least 8 weeks. More, if anything physical is involved. Perhaps less for keyhole?

Lets I now have images of big pants up arse cracks lol!!
You really do need to rest fled have a look at the hysterectomy association website all they talk about is "rest rest rest".

My telephone interview surprised me!! It was lovely and they certainly don't want me back before 8 weeks post op and then only undertaking a non-clinical role for following 4 weeks. Was told that op was massive and my immunity would be low and hormones need to stabilise Etc. so quite relieved- will get v v bored though...might have to christmas shop

Spud I was told 12 weeks is the usual
With my wound going tits up I'd say more like 14 for me( she says hopefully) so my op was 27th sept and I am looking at a phased return in mid January. I am hoping they'll let me do 4 hour shifts instead of 8 hour ones for a month at the beginning of my return. We'll see after this meeting today .

Yes crem, I think you need at least 8 weeks with a normal recovery. Your 6/8 weeks should start again when they've got you're infection under control- which they haven't yet. Do not be forced back until you are 100% fit.

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My GP says they sign you off for 4 weeks and go from there as everyone's different. I rang for an appointment and the eariest they can do is when I am 5 1/2 weeks post op.

I do a desk job with driving about so not strenuous. I've also had a very straightforward recovery - no complications at all. I followed advice and rested. Boy did I rest! I did resting to Olympic standard and I think I'll be ready to go back at 6 weeks. If I was dead keen, I could have gone back at 4 weeks because I sit down all day in work. But I'd have been risking a situation where I might not have coped and had to go off again and that's a PITA ffor everyone.

I also have news on the 'downstairs' front, keeping in mind the 'nothing inside for 6 weeks' rule.

It works. It's good. But it's not the same. There's a richness and depth missing so I guess my womb was involved after all. It's not a disaster but I do feel a bit .

Well I'm still in bed. About to get up for a shower and relocate to above the duvet. The gp line says he doesn't need to see me again to be fit for work in 4 wks despite physio saying not to start exercises / driving for 6 wks and due to shift work my line manager has says she was thinking of me taking 12wks as once I'm back that's it - I'm up & running.

Will make appt to see diff partner in the practice the week my line is due up.

No noise from next door after their antics last night - hopefully the police's words to keep it quiet helped. They were v sympathetic

Say what? Next doors antics? Police? Have I missed something?

Anyone notice I'm bored again, on the sofa and posting loads? Ds's fault this time. I have to keep him company and the christmas movie we are watching is not doing it for me...

Can't remember if I posted the events on here sorry. 6.30 banging starts. 7pm DC are in bed as school night. Banging continues. DH knocks on their door to ask how long they will be . Wife slams door in his face. Next thing her dad whose doing the DIY is out in the street waving his arms around threatening to rearrange dh's teeth. Called 101 and her dad scarpers. Police lovely and could hear next door shouting at police. Upshot is that we've said we don't want to make it formal but they've been told to be reasonable bearing in mind they have preschool kids and to keep the noise down for the next week or is as I need to rest!