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Morning all, new thread, croissants on trolley, and I'll put a brew on.

Only on way home jchoc- it's favour to us as I still can't drive (and tbh even if customise car etc i can't see mr gig/ me being that happy about me driving kids but that's cos am nervous driver anyway). so it's Easier to drop her back with kids who come to after school club. And I am anticipating a lot of missing stuff .

Are we going to have a t at college pic mas? Hair sounds nice. Had mine done before I saw pigeons- I like short hair now but it definitely needs to be cut often.

Pigeons I'm wondering if he will have changed his clothes much so might not be too much washing !
Gigs dinner last night sounds nice how is your appetite now? Sat next to a lady having chemo for lung cancer yesterday who is struggling to eat. I have opposite problem !
Mas hair cut sounds lovely, enjoy

I'm still in bed, got up for tea and toast and now watching gmtv and listening to the rain

Appetite very good now- steroids helped so now am back to normal (well super hungry). It's all about trying to be sensible about what I eat and not eating body weight in carbs...

Pressed post too soon.. That is very sad malt. Met someone like that when i was doing chemo. His wife so worried as said to dh that the not eating rather was going to do for him. I do think my dietician has been most helpful thing I have done. What she says may be obvious but it works and there is something about seeing someone regularly that makes you stick to it. Also her advice on supplements has been brilliant .

Fingers crossed,JChoc
Morning all

Morning all - have managed already to lock myself out of the house this morning! (went out to clear up after dog, and stupidly pulled door shut behind me) Had to potter down the road in my dressing gown to get spare key from a friend at the other end of the village! Jeez I'm getting more loopy by the second! Luckily it was at about eight so I missed being a side show for people on the school run.

ReallyW - so glad you have had your op and are home - sounds like a very long and rather anxious day for you though - make sure you take it easy, and give yourself plenty of time to recover.

Pigeons welcome back from sombrero-land - hope you had a fab time.

Loads of good vibes jchoc xx

Because I haven't been on much the last week, I have lost track - Malt what is PGL? (I expect I'm being very dense) -anyway hope your DS had a fab time whatever it is.

And MAS -loads of good vibes for T, - I'm sure he'll have a great time a college

Gig - I bet Big Gig feels really grown up going on the bus, bless her

waving to all.

@ kk in her dressing gown wandering the lanes !
No photo of T I'm afraid - I wasn't expecting him to agree though

Kk that has made me laugh ! Ds has gone away with the school for an activity week, raft building, climbing that sort of stuff. They say pgl stands for parents get lost !

Gigs glad your appetite is back, enjoy lunch

Right am getting up now !I'm fine just being lazy

Mas dd let me take one on her 1st day of y10 last week as long as I promised not to put it on FB !

at Kurri. I was out at 3am in my PJ's to shoo the fox cubs away. They were having a raucous party..

Eco, grr for that node. Cancer's an utter bastard, but honest you will get through. Ask whatever you want on here - solidarity and answers in numbers! Wail and weep and rant as much as you need to. I was so incredibly pissed off when I was at your stage. Be weird if you weren't too.

How are you today, Really?? Hope feeling okay and not too sore.

What's on the menu for today, Malt? More Downton??

Betsy, are you still on the up?? Hope so, that Tax truck is more than a bit of a brute..

When will you hear from your team, KitKat. Seems mean to keep you waiting.

Hope DS has a good first day, MAS. How v.grown up.

Mini-gig on the school bus too. How sweet. Hope the team agree with Mr Gigs on the wound.

Got everything crossed for you Jane. xx

Waving to all I've missed. Big pot of coffee on here. Cat sulking as it's raining. Am quite liking not being so hot. Better get on and do some work.

Malt when DS went on school residential , he came home with a completely untouched wash bag ...
Boys are mingers !

Good luck today Jane x

Welcome home Really

Gigs when DS started school , he went on the school bus . He was a tiny 5 year old , but the bus lady was so good with him .
It's so hard to let them go isn't it ?

Hope T has a great first day Mas

Laughing at both Smee and kk for their Adventures In Pjs

dh up and running around in boxers at 6.30 to shoo Celeste out of the house because she was retching
Thinking of you now jchoc

Morning folks - I have not read anything yet this mroning but feel a need to unload - most defnitely off topic !!

as topsy pointed out yesterday, my life is like fecking Eastenders !!

Not content to have breast cancer and the assoicated baggage, DH being investigated for kideny failure and my little ones being out of control at the moment, my stepdaughter planning her new life in Oz and not even telling her dad and me that she is going, My stepson (18) decided to add to the excitement by taking an overdose on Wednesday night. I don't think he intended to end his life as he did it in our kitchen while we were in bed and immediately told his 20 year old brother but he took 26 x 2mg diazepam with some rum and coke. ...... he had googled and left on the computer that 80mg consitutued a dangerous overdose.

There is so much screwed up stuff from when his mum abandoned them as kids (she didnt even come up to the hospital until the next mid morning by the way !!!!) and he has recently been dumped by his first proper girlfriend. His much awaitied 18th birthday (2 weeks ago) I don't think lived up to the expectations he had built .... all these things have obviously added to his angst at the world. It has been a total shock to DH and I and topsy too as she has known him longer than me ! I have been with him since he was 5 and I love him dearly but at the same time I want to slap him :( There are so many people who would dearly love to live a full life and he is looking at chucking it away at 18 !!!!!

I am going to find a time to talk to him myself but only when its right and if he wont talk I am going to e-mail/text him to make him read what I have to say about getting some help and never putting my kids at risk again. He was made to stay in hospital until yesterday afternoon, had no sensational ambulance/stomach pump/ crash team and had a visit from the psych team and the social workers as he had left a trail of medication and rum and a glass of what looked like coke in easy reach of my children aged 9 and 4. If he had simply gone to bed after his overdose and the kids had got up to get breakfast (whcih they sometimes do together) god knows what could have happened.

Sorry for the off topic rant

Oh my, HND offload away. How horrendous and scary. Does he have a good relationship with your DH? Can he get through to him. Interesting that he chose to do it at your place - do you think that's because he expects you/ needs you to be the ones to sort it rather than his mum? xx

Oh HND - how hideously scary for you all offload as much as you need to. Have the psych team at the hospital made arrangements for him to have some counselling or anything like that?

I think young people on the brink of adulthood can be very vulnerable whatever problems they have in their lives, - it sounds as if he has a loving and supportive family in you and your DH, and I'm sure you'll be able to help him though all this and out the other side. xx

Oh hnd love - rant away .
Has dss had any help before?also do hospital want to do psych follow up- not sure what procedures are on suicide (even if as you say it all sounds a bit stage Managed).

When do you find out more about what is happening with dh ?

Oh Blimey HND you have got a lot on your plate right now bless you offload on here all you like if it helps
I hope he gets the help he needs now x

HND - what a lot to deal with - hopefully he will get some support now (in addition to you and your DH).

Smee - no word about my results so I'm guessing I didn't make yesterday's meeting (was a long shot) - so will get the info on Tuesday evening when I go for my first 'pump up'. It doesn't matter too much (except for my planning purposes) as even if I am to go back on chemo next week would be too soon after the Op so am guessing it would be in 2 weeks time.

blimey hnd that all sounds horrendous - feel free to vent here -I have no sage advice - it does sound like a huge cry for help,poor boy. Horrible though that your children might've been put in danger

kitkat, I suppose Tuesday's not too long to wait, but still annoying to have it hanging over you. How are you feeling??

I feeling very well thank you. The implant still feels wierd but is only painful at night - I think everything stiffens up so I wake up needing painkillers but last night was the best so far as I slept until 5:30 (then again for a few hours once kids had gone to school ) so am feeling quite perky today.
Have been warned that it will hurt/ache after the inflation on Tuesday - has anyone else had this process?

I've had it kitkat. Was never too bad for me, but I know some women aren't so lucky. Have you had a look yet or are you still bandaged up?

Just got a small strip bandage on so can see shape but not wound. He managed to get 100ml in during the Op so already have a bit of shape and look OK in bras with a very small softy.
it's funny really as shape at top of new boob is much better than the other one - looks quite impressive as it sits so high .

Did you just have one done? And if so did you get the other one changed at all when you had the full reconstruction done?

Hi, just very quickly,

jchoc thinking of you :)

HND what a horrible shock for you all x

I saw GP this morning. Turns out my headache is tonsillitis! My throat hurts a tiny bit but nowhere near as much as head. Very strange. Have antibiotics now though so hopefully it'll soon be sorted.

Have a friend coming over in a mo. Have a good afternoon everyone x